How To Be The Leading Man

Here how to earn your stripes as a gentleman.Editor's Note: This piece is by Nick Notas, our Boston Wingman Strategist and Confidence Coach. You can read more of his pieces at The Dating Specialist.

Where do you want to eat?” 
“I don’t know where do you want to go?” 
“I really don’t care at all, you choose.”

Does this conversation sound familiar? There’s nothing more frustrating to girls than a guy who can’t make up his mind.

Women love a man who can lead. A man who takes charge of things and is strong yet respectful. Don’t believe it? Look at nearly every romance novel written in the last 50 years.

When Do Most Breakups Happen?

If you've ever been curious -- or want to predict your fate -- here are times when people are breaking up most often, according to Facebook. Keep in mind, these times are when relationship statuses change so my guess is the actual breakup "peak times" are happening right after Valentine's Day and just before Thanksgiving.

Hmm, I wonder why those tho holidays?

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8 Rules For Texting a Woman

Fail.Editor's Note: This piece is by Nick Notas, our Boston Wingman Strategist and Confidence Coach. You can read more of his pieces at The Dating Specialist.

As part of the dating process, you’re responsible for keeping in touch with her and making things interesting. Thankfully, this works in your favor.

Texting allows you to come up with witty and enticing responses from a safe location.

It’s easy enough to master and with some basic guidelines, you should be a pro in no time. Here are some simple points to remember when texting a girl you’re interested in.

The Ultimate Guide To Tying ANY Tie (Including Bow Ties)

Chances are this guy didn't tie his own tie.It wasn't until I was in college when I learned how to tie a tie -- on my own.

I could blame my dad for that but he never wears a tie -- he's all about the collarless button-downs. Despite that, he still knows how to tie one.

I only know a handful of people who know how to tie a tie correctly -- and those who do only know one way and stick to it.

There are also those who rarely wear ties or if they do, tie once and leave it tied. And let's not talk about those who still use clip-ons.

None of this is wrong -- except for the clip-ons (Seriously, you should be ashamed. Don't be that lazy).

As men, we should learn not only how to tie a tie but also the various knots you can create. Here, I'll share the 4 most popular knots.

And even if you don't wear ties or have no value for this, you don't want to be the dad who can't teach his son how to tie a tie, do you?

Sleep More. Get Laid.

That was the original concept for this infographic. It still makes me laugh.

I had the awesome opportunity to team up with Zeo, a wellness company, on a research project that found whether or not sleep can effect your game.

You'll be surprised to see how much it does affect your ability to date. I typically sleep roughly 7-8 hours a day no matter when I go to sleep the night before (just ask my fiancée what happens if I don't get enough sleep).

Enjoy the infographic below and be sure to pass it around.


10 Ways to Get Men To Approach You

As fun as it looks, try not to be this guy.Editor's Note: This piece is by Nick Notas, our Boston Wingman Strategist and Confidence Coach. You can read more of his pieces at The Dating Specialist.

Over the past week, I've been getting in many conversations about whether women should approach, takeinitiative, etc.

Conveniently, our Confidence Coach has some things to say about it.

Gentlemen, pay attention to these signals when meeting women.

The Winning Mindset

I get a lot of people asking me about confidence. The most important thing to understand is confidence is an emotion.

Because it's not tangible, confidence is not something you can “acquire.” It’s something you grow and like a muscle, it can either get stronger or weaker.

There are two key states that determine your success approaching and attracting women.

The Thrill of the Chase

As fun as it looks, try not to be this guy.Editor's Note: This piece is by Nick Notas, our Boston Wingman Strategist and Confidence Coach. You can read more of his pieces at The Dating Specialist.

Pursuing a girl you like is normal. In fact, a little bit of persistence can go a long way with women. At the same time, it’s easy to lose sight of when you should keep trying or when you’re better off letting go.

Here’s an email I answered that I hope makes your decision easier.

It's Our Birthday: We’re All Grown Up

We're SO ready to party...some things never change.Nearly four years ago, I took a BoltBus with my friend Amy to meet Gary Vaynerchuk for the first time in New York City.

Gary and I were tweeting back and forth and I was a huge fan of his “monetizing your passion” message. That day, I was finally going to get the chance to meet someone I looked up to.

But, we got caught in rush hour traffic on the way. I saw tweets from him saying the venue was being lame about lowering their music and his talk may get cancelled.

He was the only reason I went to New York.

We bolted off the bus (no pun intended) and rushed to the venue. By the time we arrived, the venue refused to turn down the music but he was still there.

In fact, he took the huge crowd outside, stood on a milk crate and did his keynote about pursuing your passion right on the sidewalk.

Why Don’t You Do This?

Learn how to meet women when out alone.Let’s talk about going out alone.

People always tell me, “oh, I’d NEVER do that. That’d be so weird and everyone would know I was alone, which is even weirder.” 

Excuses, excuses, and more excuses.

Back when I was working the evening shift as a valet, when I got off at 11PM -- sometimes midnight -- I wanted to go out and have a beer. But with all my friends working normal “9-5” jobs, I had no one to do that with. 

I had to create another circle of friends to hang out with when I got off work.

So what did I do?