Dress For Attraction

Let’s be honest. Although we dress well to feel more confident in ourselves, we REALLY get our confidence from the validation of others.

We dress for each other

The average woman will spend nearly $1600 a year on clothes and nearly $13,000 on beauty products in a lifetime -- and that’s the AVERAGE woman. Guys who are looking for an attractive woman should know they spend MUCH more than average.

Why would they spend so much money? To be simple, it’s for guys. Don’t fool yourself for one second thinking you don’t dress well for women. You’re just fortunate to not have to spend as much as they do.

I could go deeper and talk about how dressing well can get you a great job, a raise, more respect, so on and so forth, but at it’s core, people dress for each other.

How important is fashion in dating?

Now, when you look at how a woman will typically rate your attraction level, it’s broken down into three basic categories, each with a percentage of importance.

Body language: 70-75%

Fashion & grooming: 15-20%

Content & tonality: 5-10%

Most guys I work with tell me they never know what to say to women when it has little affect on the outcomes of their interactions. Their most common problem is they neglect to fix the easiest one of the those three “fixable” categories -- fashion and grooming.

Think about it. While your abilities to carry conversation or exude positive body language may not be amazing, taking care of how you present your body can give you an easy 15-20% advantage over most guys.

Dress for attraction

Let's focus on the importance of the basics of any style of clothing you choose to wear. This is what I like to call “24/7” advice. This applies anytime, anywhere.

Fit. A slimmer fit is always better. You may see a variety of fits (Modern, European, Slim, Trim, etc.). Although they are all similar, it’s still important to find out which fit works best for you.

For example, shorts should be slightly just above the knee. Most tee shirts and polo sleeves should fit between your bicep and shoulder. And seams...seams are your best friends as they will guide you to the perfect fit on most any type of shirt.

You’ll see an immediate difference in how you look in clothes.

Layering. Layering will add a new dimension to your style and shape. Here is where you can start to be creative and define your own style. 

Most guys will start their layering journey by selecting a cool blazer. Have one that has lighter fabrics (linen, cotton, etc.) for the summer and one with heavier fabrics (wool, polyester, etc.) for the cooler seasons.

Layering also reinforces the importance of fit. You don’t want ill-fitting clothes to make you look wider or bigger than you really are.

Finally, layering will give you versatility in your outfit. For example, You can wear a blazer pretty much anywhere without feeling over or underdressed.

Colors. There are certain colors you’ll look amazing in -- and others you won’t. Find out what they are by asking WOMEN YOU DON’T KNOW. Don’t ask your family or any of your friends. You need unbiased feedback to really know what’s best for you.

When I was figuring that out, I went to a store, tried on a bunch of different color shirts and asked all the women in the store what they thought. The colors they loved, I kept them and have been wearing them since.

If you want to know what colors you can wear to attract the ladies, go to the source.

Grooming. This is the easiest of all the things you can do. Trimming your body hair, showing daily, and keeping your fingernails clean and neat are all things women notice. Neglecting these simple things will dramatically affect your attractiveness and will be had to recover from.

Invest the time to take care of this part of your life that is completely under your control. It’ll make the things that are harder to control a little easier.

Change Up Your Style for the Holidays

If you want change in your life, it starts now. Why wait until 2013?

As many of you will be visiting family, friends, and loved ones over the holiday season, now is a good time to remind you that the first thing people see is your face.

Your hair, teeth, and complexion are all things that can attract or detract those around you.

This may appear a little displaced from our typical posts but few men address this and it has as direct a connection to your attraction level than anything else -- keep reading.

Let’s face it. It’s likely you’ve had the same haircut for the past 7+ years. It’s simple and it works -- I get that. But could you do something different to increase your attractiveness but without it being high maintenance?

Take a poll and ask friends, family, and strangers about your current look. Be sure to weigh the opinions of strangers more since they are the most honest group as they know nothing about you, personally.

If you’re not getting the responses you’d have hoped and it’s time to change your look, determine your head shape and start researching new looks. Celebrities are always flashing the most trendy looks so it’ll help you to start there for what styles may be good for you.

For more information on hairstyle or if you're looking for a good place to get cleaned up, check out Supercuts. They have exclusive tips and upcoming hairstyles of 2013 you can find on Twitter (@Supercuts) or by following the hashtag #RockTheCut.

Your hair is an easy and effective opportunity to stand out in a good way. As someone who takes pride in his hair more than the average guy, believe me when I say good hairstyle will change how women see you -- and women notice your hair. And the truth is it took several months and variations before I found something that works for me.

The second thing women notice the most is your teeth. For women, seeing good, clean, white teeth will typically equate to good, clean breath, which, if she’s attracted to you, will make her more likely to kiss you.

Without turning this article into a product guide, let's keep this simple. While expensive to fix, if your teeth are a mess, you’ll want to invest in fixing them at some point. But if that’s outside your budget, that’s OK -- making them clean and whiter is in everyone’s budget.

Personally, here is what I use:

Toothpaste: Arm & Hammer

Mouthwash: Listerine Total Care Plus Whitening

When it comes to bad breath, while it can attribute to what you eat and not brushing or flossing, you can use mints and mouthwashes to help that. Keep both handy and use them often because you’ll be giving hugs and getting close to plenty of people this holiday season.

Once these adjustments are made, you’ll see how quickly people are more responsive to you. And while it’s easy to make these adjustments, the hardest part of transformation is maintenance. But I’m sure once you start seeing the results right away, you’ll have no problems motivating yourself to maintain the new look.

The Ultimate Guide To Tying ANY Tie (Including Bow Ties)

Chances are this guy didn't tie his own tie.It wasn't until I was in college when I learned how to tie a tie -- on my own.

I could blame my dad for that but he never wears a tie -- he's all about the collarless button-downs. Despite that, he still knows how to tie one.

I only know a handful of people who know how to tie a tie correctly -- and those who do only know one way and stick to it.

There are also those who rarely wear ties or if they do, tie once and leave it tied. And let's not talk about those who still use clip-ons.

None of this is wrong -- except for the clip-ons (Seriously, you should be ashamed. Don't be that lazy).

As men, we should learn not only how to tie a tie but also the various knots you can create. Here, I'll share the 4 most popular knots.

And even if you don't wear ties or have no value for this, you don't want to be the dad who can't teach his son how to tie a tie, do you?

Every Secret to Dating & Sex Answered By Women

Men will do or say anything to give them an excuse why something isn’t possible. Part of my job is to prove them wrong. Thank goodness there is data our there from surveys and online interactions to help my cause. This one comes from Maxim Magazine as they surveyed almost 8,000 women from across the country. Still skeptical? Think of it in numbers: