Looking to Team Up With the Social Man

Do you know Christian Hudson? If you haven't heard about Christian Hudson, you're about to. He is THE "secret weapon" to some very big dating and “pickup” professionals and he's about to hit the scene BIG time.

Back in 2005, he helped start Charisma Arts, which was the biggest pickup bootcamp company in the world under his leadership. He left the game in 2006, but came back last year to start teaching clients again after receiving a lot of referrals from his personal coaching clients.

I just watched an incredible video he put together; you're DEFINITELY going to want to check it out. He explains some things about dating that are pretty mind-blowing, even for me, regarding your confidence and your natural "instincts." These instincts that he talks about are what I teach my clients to be more aware of when they go out to different social environments. You're going to learn a lot from this, and if you've ever wondered things like...

- How some guys can just walk up to a girl and say "Hi" and get great responses
- Why a girl rejected you, or why she rejected your compliment
- How you could be just as confident and easygoing talking to a model as you could a toddler

...then you'll definitely want to watch this.

Become Unbreakable

And let's be clear about something: this is not just about getting women – and the kinds of beautiful women you want. This is about being able to handle any social situation, at any time, in any environment.

All of the really good stuff starts at about 1 minute and 33 seconds into the video - so I would grab a notebook and take some notes.

And by the way, what he explains and how he explains it is NOT complicated. In some cases, it's as easy as making eye contact for two seconds longer when you say something to a girl. Many of my clients think that I am full of it when I first mention things like this. Then when it actually works, they become believers. A lot of my own secrets are right here.

If you're serious about being not just good, not just great, but truly unbreakable when it comes to having control of your social life and with women, then you have to watch this video.

Become Unbreakable

If any of this is confusing or you think that it’s not that easy, I’d love for you to comment or email me.

What Christian Hudson teaches is legit. So much, that I am hoping to work with him in the future because it’s not often that I get to meet someone who shares the same teaching techniques and positive mindset that I do when it comes to dating.

Let me know what you think.

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The Professional Wingman/AXE Hair Tweetup (6/24 @Dillon's)

For the first time, The Professional Wingman & AXE Hair are joining forces to help guys update their look and get girl-approved hair, just in time for summer!

Come to Dillon's and hang out on the patio where you can get some free AXE Hair products and get answers for what women find attractive from one of the fastest up and coming dating coaches in Boston, Thomas Edwards - also known as The Professional Wingman. Get to learn some style, fashion and hair tips that will get women to give you that second look you've been wanting.

Girlfriends, wives and women alike are welcome as well. Here's your chance to bring your significant others and other guy friends to make sure they learn how to keep their hair clean and get their look girl-approved for the summer and thereafter.

There's no better place to find these answers than here.

You can also come and have some drinks and appetizers, thanks to AXE Hair.

While at the tweetup, you'll get to tweet with my official "winggirl," CarlywithAXE, where you can ask her questions regarding dating and style. Can't go wrong with your dating questions answered from the female's point of view.

At the end of the night, there will be a raffle, giving away two (2) 2-hour coaching sessions with Thomas Edwards (valued at $200 each) where you will get the hands-on wingman experience and some solid dating consultation!

You can follow the action by using/searching for the #approved hashtag.

Be sure to check out The Professional Wingman to learn more about Thomas Edwards and his coaching.

And be sure to take a look at AXE Hair's campaign at the AXE Hair Crisis Relief site.

Special thanks to Dillon's for let us hold the event at their venue.

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Style Series – Peacocking vs. Accentuating

Never. Ever. Wear this.This is a continuation of my Style Series. You can check out the others here:

The Importance of Layering
The Real Meaning of Dressing Casual

For years, people have been embracing the concept of peacocking and taking it to a whole different level. From what I remember, it started with Mystery.

He would wear ridiculous things such as a furry hat, goggles, a boa and paint his nails black. Clearly, the objective was to stand out among people at the bar.

Mind you this guy is 6’5”. It somehow worked. He stuck with it and began teaching others the art of peacocking.

Personally, I think that he continues to wear that nonsense now because it’s an association to his brand. Who he is and what he represents won’t be congruent if he doesn’t wear those things, unfortunately.

The point I'm making is he took a bunch of accessories and created a style for himself. Nowadays, you don’t need to wear goggles on your head to look different. Keep in mind my interpretation of what looks good may be different from another's.

But I’d like to think that you trust me enough to know what creates an attractive appearance.

If you are looking to do something about your wardrobe, find one accessory and let it be the thing that makes your outfit more stylish. For example, no one uses pocket squares. Starting using them.

When I used to dress up for work or an event and I knew I was wearing black, I would wear a shirt that would stand out, like a bright red or even the manly pink.

But honestly you can use anything to stand out. If you wear ties normally, there’s a chance to stand out. Hats, ties, sunglasses, scarves, your watch, shoes, socks, even your belt – they all give you a chance to add some personal flare.

A thing that I have noticed lately is that more people are going away from normal cap-toe shoes and going toward very pointy shoes (this trend may be going back to cap-toe). Also, another things that's different is substituting shoes for a fresh pair of Converse.

In the end, it’s a small thing can make you feel better about yourself, get an advantage over everyone else and appeal to more women.

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Style Series - The Real Meaning of Dressing Casual

This is a continuation of my Style Series. You can check out the first post here:

The Importance of Layering

First thing’s first, gentlemen. Dressing casual does not mean that it’s ok to wear sweatpants. That also doesn’t mean that style and creativity goes out of the window either. Casual actually gives you even more options and chances to look your best for whatever occasion it may be.

The importance here is that you can look good no matter what the occasion is.

Obviously, there will be difficult here. You don’t want to show up to a house party in a tux, then again, you don’t want to show up to a black-tie formal in a polo and golf shorts. But take opportunity to do something “cool” to get yourself to stand out wherever you go.

Accessories are good ways to set yourself apart from a crowd. I am starting to get really into hats, despite having so much hair.

Sometimes, you can take something more “dressy” and make it more casual, which I will start to do now that the summer is really here.

But whatever you do, make sure you put in the effort to look good – even if it's "just casual."

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Pride. Determination. Resilience.

Everytime I read this, I get pumped. It'll be a constant reminder for me and it should be for you as well. To get the original version, be sure to check it out at Pickup Evolution. Those guys write REALLY good stuff when it comes to women and personal development.

As I am watching the movie Pride, it made me think about your pursuit. In your pursuit of being better with women and becoming a better man, you need to build a foundation of pride, determination and resilience.

Pride. It is the firm feeling of pure satisfaction from your own achievements or from qualities that are widely appreciated. Take some pride in yourself and what you are looking to accomplish here. Your pride should one of the main things motivating you to push through your comfort zone and become successful in life and with women.

Think about it.

How much pleasure do you get when you’re able to get the number of a very attractive woman? How satisfying is it when a woman tells you that she’s never been with someone like you? How awesome is it when you can wake up and feel like a much improved version of yourself from the day before? Think about those feelings and let them push you forward to help you get to where you want to be.

Determination. It is the firmness of purpose. How bad do you really want this? I mean, seriously. I hear guys say all the time that they want to be better with women. They want to be able to have the confidence to go up to a woman and sweep them off of their feet. I’m sure you all do, but how determined are you? What are you willing to invest in yourself to make this REALLY happen? You must find your reason - your purpose - for wanting this so bad and let them be another motivator for your progression.

There is an end game to each stage in life. This is just another stage.

Resilience. It is the ability to withstand or recover quickly from difficult situations. Rejection is GOING to happen, whether you like it or not. Women WILL put you on the spot just to see how you will react. There will be other guys around who will try to clown you. These things are going to happen. You are going to be in situations that you won’t be prepared for. What actions you take to maintain control of yourself and the reality around you will determine your resiliency. Maintain your composure is a very attractive quality to have and as you go through this stage of your life, you are going to develop your composure with all these difference interactions you will come across.

This is your tripod! This is the foundation that you can leave here with right away. And we all know what happens when you don’t have one leg of a tripod.

Go out there and be the best and don’t settle for ANYTHING less.

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Style Series - Layering

I am kicking off this Style Series by talking about one of the more daunting tasks men are afraid to figure out.

Adding layers to what you wear.

Now unless it’s a million degrees out, you should be trying to layer your outfits. There are plenty of benefits besides looking amazing.

If you are a skinny guy, adding layers actually fills out your body more. On the heavier side? Adding a jacket or a sweater will cover up the excess and thin you out.

It could be as simple as wearing a sweater over a button-down or a vest over a graphic tee. Or you could make it a little more complex by adding another jacket on top of that.

As long as you layer in a way that is a compliment to the other things you are wearing, I guarantee that you’ll be dressed better than 80% of the people out there. Trust me. Most guys in the U.S. still don't do this. So get ahead of the game.

Here are some decent examples.

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Giving and Taking: The Win/Win or No Deal Philosophy of Relationships

This is the last part of a series that I have been doing about the different paradigms of human interaction and relationships.

These paradigms are based on Stephen Covey’s book, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. Here are the other parts of the series.

Win/Win
Win/Lose
Lose/Win
Lose/Lose
Win
Win/Win or No Deal

We are going to end with the Win/Win or No Deal philosophy.

“I only want to go for Win/Win. I want to win, and I want you to win. I wouldn’t want to get my way and have you not feel good about it, because downstream it would eventually surface and create a withdrawal. On the other hand, I don’t think you would feel good if you got your way and I gave in. So let’s work for a Win/Win. Let’s really hammer it out. And if we can’t find it, then let’s agree that we won’t make a deal at all. It would be better not to deal than to live with a decision that wasn’t right for us both. Then maybe another time we might be able to get together.”

The whole concept of Win/Win or No Deal is usually best applied to business relationships but in the kind of reality you’d like to create, anything less than Win/Win is not going to be beneficial to long-term relationships. What is hard in relationships is being able to accept the No Deal, because we confuse that as Lose/Lose. Being able to have this mentality requires a very high level of maturity, understanding and a great deal of listening and communication skills.

If you get a grasp on this, you will achieve such a level of emotional freedom and avoid so many conflicts down the road. This mentality also can be applied to the beginning stages of any relationship to give you the same emotional freedom and make you no longer needy.

Using the elements of Win/Win, if you can’t come to a good resolution, you should be able to accept No Deal and find an alternative. While great at the beginning of a relationship, it becomes harder and harder to accept a No Deal, especially when more feelings and emotional investment are involved. This is where compromise comes in. While compromise – which can be considered a secondary level of Win/Win – may appear to be Win/Win, it tends to end up being Win/Lose or Lose/Win in reality.

Of course, there will be times in a relationship when No Deal cannot work. For example, if she REALLY needs you for something and it could be very inconvenient for you but you know what? You have to do it, because you care for her and want her to be happy. Instead of thinking about how inconvenient it is and how that negative thinking makes you unhappy, reframe it and think about how happy she’ll be, how much fun you MAY have and how she’ll reward you down the road. Keeping that frame of mind will not make situations seem terrible, because in hindsight, it’s not.

Plus, you care about her, right? Part of that is being able to do selfless acts for the greater good.

If you haven’t realized by now, obviously all of these philosophies are not set in stone and there is some leeway, as many other things in life – but it requires maturity, integrity and self-control to acknowledge the give some things have.

In the end, this whole Giving & Taking series is all about knowing how the pieces fit in a relationship. You have to know what and how much you are willing to give to your significant other and what you are ready to accept from her. It’s about sacrifice. It’s about understanding. It’s about making time. It’s about giving yourself. It’s about learning. It’s about growing together. It’s about disagreements. It’s about resolution. It’s about…everything.

I write those things and I think of my girlfriend. She embodies everything that I want in a woman and the best part is that I feel more like myself at this time more than any time in the past few years. She is growing to become more than just something to me. She’s becoming everything to me. And as I wrote this series, she was always in the back of my mind, wondering about how well we do together. She’s amazing and although it’s still early, I hope you guys (and girls) can read this, possibly learn something (I’ve learned a lot writing this) and you can find something even remotely close to what I have now because let me tell you something.

It’s incredible.

This caps the Giving & Taking series here at Project Infinity. I would love to hear feedback, questions and comments you may have. If you’d like to contact me, feel free to send me an email.

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Giving and Taking: The Win Philosophy of Relationships

This is a part of a new series that I am doing about the different paradigms of human interaction.

These paradigms are based on Stephen Covey’s book, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. So far we have done,

Win/Win
Win/Lose
Lose/Win
Lose/Lose
Win
Win/Win or No Deal

Today we are talking about the Win philosophy.

“People with the Win mentality don’t necessarily want someone else to lose. That’s irrelevant. What matters is that they get what they want.”

This is more of an interesting mentality because it’s easier to use when there isn’t any contest or competition but in relationships, how can this even work?

Well, it’s not really something you see used in relationships because there is always a level of consideration of the other person, whether fully or not at all. Win is more of an independent mentality. As long as I get mine, that’s all that matters. Everyone else can fend for themselves.

Wait, I take that back. There are times when the Win mentality is used in a relationship. As a man, one of your responsibilities is to be able to physically protect your mate and make sure she is safe. If she is in danger, you are going to do whatever it takes to make sure she is safe and secure. There isn’t a win or lose for you and everyone else’s fate doesn’t necessarily matter to you. Your girl is the priority.

Use that example – which is actually a rare but not extreme one – to think about other times when you place yourself and others out of the equation because your girl takes precedence.

Just keep in mind that sacrificing yourself for your girl doesn’t automatically make it just Win. The key difference between Win and Win/Lose is that with Win, you’re not worried about how that win affects others. With Win/Lose, even if it includes you, you ARE worried about how that win affects others (or you).

See the difference? Confused? Ask questions. We’ll wrap up this series tomorrow with the Win/Win or No Deal.

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Giving and Taking: The Lose/Lose Philosophy of Relationships

This is a part of a new series that I am doing about the different paradigms of human interaction.

These paradigms are based on Stephen Covey’s book, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. So far we have done,

Win/Win
Win/Lose
Lose/Win
Lose/Lose
Win
Win/Win or No Deal

Today we are talking about the Lose/Lose philosophy.

“When two determined, stubborn, ego-invested individuals interact, the result will be Lose/Lose. Both will lose. Both will become vindictive and want to “get back” or “get even,” blind to the fact that murder is suicide, that revenge is a two-edged sword.”

Here, when you are so focused on making sure that the other person lose that you don’t even care if it affects you, both parties will lose. This philosophy is one that used in revenge, war and serious conflicts. In relationships, of all of the mentalities to have, this is the one you want the least.

A hard situation you may come across in a relationship is when your significant other is miserable. Maybe something happened to them that made them really unhappy. He or she may be so miserable or angry that they don’t care about anyone else’s happiness because they would rather wallow in their own misery – or even worse, make people feel the same misery that they do. Depending on the circumstance, that can be a sign of dependency and lack to inner guidance. They may need the failure or misery of others in order to make them feel better (remember, it all depends on the circumstance. I would hope that you can use your better judgement to realize what circumstances may make this situation different).

You can’t let that happen. You stick to your mentality and try to help them bounce back. If they respond negatively – either to try to bring you down with them, doesn’t want you around or if they just don’t want to hear it – then maybe the best thing to do is to give him or her space and have him or her gather her thoughts properly, assuring them that you are there for them. The last thing you want to do is keep this Lose/Lose mentality for any period of time in a relationship.

Needless to say, it’s very detrimental to the future to you two staying together.

Four down, two to go. Let me know your thoughts about this series and how it could possibly be better to help you.

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Style/Fashion Series Preview

It's been a while since I talked about Fashion and general style here on Project Infinity. I am bringing it back but this time with concepts that guys need to be aware of to make sure they are looking good EVERYDAY they go out.

After this series, you'll be able to make sweatpants look amazing!

Well, maybe not, but you'll certainly up your fashion game.

Things like CPW (cost per wear), layering, accents and fabric aren't only for women to know. Be prepared, have an open mind and you'll be looking better in just a few days!

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