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Dating & Lifestyle Kickstart Guide in Review

As we prepare for an amazing SXSW and wind down from the launch of the Wingman University Online Membership Program, I wanted to share some quick thoughts on the guide.

Remember when I declared 2011 the Year of the Hustle? I meant it. But just because you didn't start when I started, or when your friend did, doesn't mean it's too late for you to start.

Sometimes you just can't get started when you'd like to. And that's ok. I would rather you be ready to go now and able to put in 1000% effort than to take on the added responsibility, knowing you have other things that will take away from that 1000%. The only way you'll reap the benefits is if you fully devote yourself to it.

Here's the full overview of the 4-week Dating & Lifestyle Kickstart Guide, so you don't have to look for it.

How A Client Helped Me "Get Lucky"

This is Week 3 of the 2011 Dating and Lifestyle Kickstart Guide. Thursdays, we cover the dating aspect. If you missed it, here is week one's dating component. Here is week two.

I want to share something awesome that got lost in the fray. I helped a friend, Tim, on Twitter, who was also a client of mine, handle some important issues in his life. My advice, combined with his action, did so well for him, he was willing to pay for another client’s session with me.

And after working with the Alex for an hour, this is what he had to say shortly after,

Can You Change Your "Game?"

2011 Dating & Lifestyle Kickstart Guide Overview (Part 4 of 4). if you'd like to follow along from the beginning, please check out the introductory videopart 1part 2 and part 3 of the overview.

Starting Tuesday, January 18th, I’m going to start the 2011 D&L Kickstart Guide. If you actually implement the things I share, you’ll have more success in your dating or general lifestyle than you’ve had in a long time.

Here’s the rundown.

I double dare you.

 

2011 Dating & Lifestyle Kickstart Guide Overview (Part 3 of 4). If you'd like to follow along from the beginning, please check out the introductory videopart 1 and part 2 of the overview.

Here is a story of a client who really didn’t want to work with me.

I have friends and other people who will tell me they know someone who could use my services. I always appreciate people who will go to unusual lengths to help out a friend. For those who are serious about helping out their friend, I have them bring their friend out to meet me over drinks and something I call, a “reverse intervention.”

Why people who don’t choose to be single stay single?

2011 Dating & Lifestyle Kickstart Guide Overview (Part 2 of 4). If you'd like to follow along from the beginning, please check out the introductory video and part 1 of the overview.

In over two years of coaching, I’ve talked to hundreds of people about their dating lives and what they think is preventing them from finding someone. I can’t say I’ve heard them all but I’ve heard a lot. After I hear what they think, I ask them one question. 

2010 = The Year of Action

And Hustle.

There is SO much content out there about dating today. I am FAR from being the only source and I’m sure I’m not the only one you read either. The problem that I’ve come across with many people that I meet is that they all read almost all there is about relationships, dating and sex, yet, there’s usually one thing that has prevented them really breaking ground and having successful dating lives.

Taking action.

Sure there are multiple elements of that phrase, but when it comes down to it, you’re either doing something or you’re doing nothing. Last night, I opened up a fortune cookie and this is the message that was inside.

“Better to do something imperfectly than do nothing perfectly.”

There is a lot of truth in that statement.

Gary Vaynerchuk even put out a video about going out and just grabbing it (love the quick last line about how it applies to guys and girls).

 

In 2010, we have the world at our fingertips more than ever. There’s so much transparency out there; we have the ability to watch someone make mistakes, see the consequences and learn everything we need to know before we take our own action. 

Real-life case study: reality shows.

The reason why there are so many reality shows like Tough Love is not purely for entertainment. Well, maybe it is. But they’re making entertainment out of the fact that it’s hard to find love and people are willing to do whatever it takes to find it.

In the end, they’re at least doing something about it.

What are YOU doing?

Are you figuring out what’s preventing you from dating people? Are you asking friends? Are you creating an action plan for how you’ll improve your dating life in 2010? Are you following through with your action plan? If you don’t even know where to start, are you looking for someone to help you? A friend? A professional?

I could write another post about hustle and the importance of really wanting it.

Most of my blog posts this year will talk about having action items designed to help your dating life. When it comes down to it, that’s what you’ll need to do in order to see the changes you’re looking for in 2010. People say this is the year of opportunity. There are opportunities ALL the time.

Make 2010 the year of ACTION.

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