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The Dating Solution by Mark Manson (review)

When I found out that I was going to see and meet Mark Manson a couple of weeks ago, I was pretty excited about seeing a pick up artist teach his material in-person. I have hours and hours of videos of these guys but there is something about seeing them in person that I think is more engaging. At the same time, this gave me a chance to see how pick up artists vary in terms of how and what they teach and more importantly, what they truly believe in.

The great thing about Mark Manson is that although he would consider himself a pick up artist, he teaches principles that any guy can adopt without having to drastically change who they are. He teaches this and much more in his book, the Dating Solution.

The book is divided into several parts, helping you work on yourself from the inside out. Topics include:

Upgrading Your Lifestyle – in every aspect possible
Learning Where and How to Meet Women
Understanding How to Connect with Women – how to create great conversation
Creating Attraction and Flirting
Getting Phone Numbers and Dates (phone and text conversations too)
Understanding the Point of Physical Escalation

This book is set up so well. Practice is the key here and Mark does a good job of providing an “Action Plan” at the end of every chapter so that you can work on every element of your improvement as you read along.

One of the more interesting things that I learned from this book is the concept of passive and active attraction. Understanding this will give you a tremendous advantage over other guys. Believe me, the concept here is golden.

There are no pickup lines here – just real conversations and the great thing is that he analyses the conversations so that you can understand and start to develop a feel for what you need to do to generate that attraction. On the flipside, he also uses “what-not-to-do” examples to better understand what you may be doing wrong and what’s so wrong about it. Not many books do this.

Everything here is completely natural and all he asks of you – like we all do – is to push your comfort zone a little and have some fun. The benefits will be huge.

I highly recommend this book. Plus, the fact that he’s from Boston makes him an even cooler guy.

If you want to get his book, check out his site, the Dating Solution. When you make the order, let Mark know I sent you and he’ll hook you up!

You can check out his blog here. It’s a good source for some quick and useful information about pickup.

He also does bootcamps and coaching sessions as well and you can find out more about his company and how you can get 1:1 consulting at Practical Pickup.

Put down that nonsense you’re reading and grab this book. If used properly, it’ll be worth more than you could possibly imagine.

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2009 = Year of the Gentleman

I remember listening to NeYo’s latest album the other day, the Year of the Gentleman, and it got me thinking a lot about his message and the some of the reasons why I do what I do.

I’ve talked about this a few times on Twitter and out in public about how I would like to see 2009 be "the Year of the Gentleman." Almost every woman that I’ve mentioned it to has pretty much said, “yeah, right. Those days are gone.”

So I ask, are they really? Or even more importantly, can those days ever make a comeback?

There are so many things that I don’t see going on out there anymore that guys should all do. Simple things like opening doors for women, walking down the sidewalk with her on the inside, giving her your coat if she is cold, without asking and not caring if you’ll freeze, pulling her chair out for her, walking her to her car or home after a date. I never see any of that anymore; no wonder women are kind of surprised when I do these things.

If some of you are thinking to yourself, “isn’t that ‘try hard’ to go out of your way to do these things?” I ask you, “What is wrong with you?” How is that “try hard” and “out of your way?” Are you really so wrapped up in making sure that you’re this “alpha-male” that is supposed to be a total leader, that you forget one of most important aspects of natural leadership – leadership through care?

And for the pick-up artists and dating/relationship coaches that know (of) me (and that I personally know), this is not a bash against you at all (I would hope you’d realize that). I am just saying that there are some things out there that do not show proper respect for women. You know what a real alpha-male would do? You know what a true leader would do? Show appreciation, respect and gratitude for the fact that amazing women are out there – one of which gave birth to you – and that it’s ok to be yourself, be nice to them and make them feel a little special. Yeah, I said it. “Nice.” I also said “special.” Real men can do this and not be seen as the dreaded, "nice guy.” And if you are out there that don’t know how and would like help, contact me. I am opening myself up to everyone now for my services, which I will have posted within the next 48 hours.

I want people to chime in on this, whether through Twitter, email or by commenting here.

I really want people to start being open with the fact that the reason why guys try to learn these things and the reason why people like me teach these guys are the same: not only to give ourselves a more fulfilling life and make ourselves happy but also to be able to have fun and share these things with women who we can build something with.

That doesn’t mean that you need to lower her self-esteem. Doesn’t mean that chivalry goes out the window. And that certainly doesn’t mean that you should forget that you’ve been raised to be a true gentleman – at least, I would hope. The real people who are VERY successful and live quality lives never forget that.

Let this be the year we bring those things back. We owe it to ourselves to save the devolving perception of the modern man to bring back the true things that make us great men.

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Be the President of Your Life

In my recent ode to my inspirations, I realize that I didn't include a guy whose blog I read twice - even three times a day! This guy is the man when it comes to confidence building and meeting and attracting women. He is actually very good at coaching not only men but women as well. I personally consider him one of my favorite coaches to listen to. His advice is consistently solid and his experience is something not many can match. His name is David Wygant and you should check out his blog.

This was a video he put up a couple of days ago in a hotel shortly after the Presidential Inauguration in DC. This speech got me so motivated in such a way that I thought it would be an injustice not to share this with my readers (you rock, by the way!). Click to see his post called "Obama and You."

Enjoy and tell me what you think! Are you ready to be the President of your life?

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Can A Single Man (or Woman) Lead This Country?

With all of the talk about our new President, I figured I should join in on the talk about our new Presidency. But I wanted to take a different approach. President Obama is a very strong, confident male and I feel like his family certainly puts him over the top. You gotta love Michelle Obama and especially the children. Any man can be supremely confident if they know they have an unbreakable foundation of support from his wife and children. It was almost as if the family helped him – in some way – in his election campaign.

So it got me thinking?

In my generation, I have not seen a bachelor become President of the United States. I found that interesting so I decided to look more into it. I love grabbing as much as I can from the web and understanding that none of these sources can be true, still think of this as a fun layout of information that may - or may not be true.

There have been many Presidents who were single during their term in office. Of all of those men, James Buchanan was the only true bachelor. There was a bunch of President who lost their wives and were widows. Some of those guys remarried while in office, while others chose not to. Grover Cleveland actually got married for the first time while he was IN office. But not James Buchanan. He stayed the course and remained single. Although I found some sites talk about the fact that he may have been gay which would have created problems (considering the time) so I’m sure if it was true, it was kept under wraps and explained a few things.

I found it funny that some people regarded Buchanan as the worst President ever. I also find it kind of interesting that having a family indicates another kind of leadership that is rare, not talked about much but as a nation, we consider in our decision-making – being a leader of a strong and happy family.

Understanding all of this, it brought me to ask myself this – and now, I propose the question to you. Is it possible for a bachelor to be President of the United States of America? Would you even vote for a single guy? Who would you choose over the other? The man that has (or had) a wife and kids or the one that is currently single? The same principle would apply to a single woman. Would that make things different?

For me, it made me see Barack Obama’s election in a completely different light if he didn’t have his wife and kids and was a single black man. Then again, wouldn’t it change the look of any candidate if he (or she) were single?

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Not Your Typical Valentine's Day Post (Part 3)

This will be my last installment of this type of post regarding Valentine’s Day. You can see my first two posts here and here. I may make other posts leading up to it, but we’ll see. This last story comes from an interesting time. It actually goes back to middle school – around 6th grade. This story actually is one that I’ll always remember.

In middle school I was not the most popular kid. I sucked at sports, I was goofy, a bookworm and so shy around girls – especially those I liked. I was constantly made fun of and I always thought that at the rate I was going, I would have no shot with any girl. But like most hopeless nerds, I too had a crush. And it was bad.

I thought she was the most beautiful girl I had ever seen. And of course, I felt I had no chance with her. But still, I wanted to show her something about me. I figured that if I was able to get through to her some way and show her I was such a nice guy then maybe she’d like me. In order to do that, I had to go all-out on Valentine’s Day. And boy did I ever.

I ended up getting a little white teddy bear that held a heart saying, “Love me.” Then, if you squeezed the heart, the bear would say, “I love you.” I also got a rose and a card that asked her to be my valentine. I was so ready for this. I was going to walk up to her ever so smoothly, give these things to her and ask her to be my valentine. Then she would jump into my arms, scream, “yes,” and we’d be together. Piece of cake.

Ha! If only I was ever that smooth.

On the bus ride to school, all of my peers would ask me whom these gifts were for and I refused to answer. I remember the girls on the bus giggling amongst them and trying to whisper to one another, “he’s so cute.” It made me smile a little bit – not gonna lie. But then something hit me right before the bus pulled up in front of the school. I realized that it wouldn’t have mattered what I gave her, it wasn’t going to make my dreams and wishes of being with her come true. In fact, all I was going to get was an, “Oh, thanks. I really appreciate it. That’s so sweet of you. Um…someone already asked me to be his valentine and I said yes. I’m sorry. We can still be friends, though.”

Believe me, I heard this routine many times before.

Having realized this reality, I decided that I was going to give these things to someone who really deserved it. Someone who would certainly say yes to me and really appreciate it for years to come as one of the best V-Day gifts she’s ever received. I was excited again and had something else to look forward to.

When I sat in school, those gifts stayed on my desk for hours. Guys and girls had asked me throughout the day, “when are you going to give it to her,” as if they already knew who I had intended to give these things to – you know, they probably did. I was never good at being secretive about who I liked. I just smirked and didn’t really say anything. It was kind of hard to get much work done since all of these things took up so much desk space but I survived the day. I did end up giving her the card, which was a Mickey Mouse card that said, “Happy Valentine’s Day.” She liked it, thought it was cute and said thank you. Meh.

On the way home, my peers came up and asked me, “What happened? Did she not take it? She said no, didn’t she? Why do you still have these things?” I was teased pretty heavily about it on that 30-minute ride home. It was similar to that scene in The Pursuit of Happyness when the guy Will Smith played was selling those scanners and he was supposed to leave his apartment with one and not come back with it. Well not only did he come back with it, he came back with another one (if you haven’t seen the movie, I would highly recommend it).

Well although the ride home was rough, it was worth it. As soon as I got home, I snuck into the house and placed all of my gifts on my mom’s bed. I even added one those little Disney V-Day cards and on the back it said, “to the real person that I love.” After I was done, I walked back outside and through the kitchen door like I was walking in for the first time. I pretty much went straight to my room and started on my homework, waiting for her reaction.

I wish I were there to see her reaction. I knew she was so happy. She called me downstairs and gave me the biggest hug ever! She went to my dad and went on about what I did. She couldn’t stop smiling for days. And of course she told all of her friends. I owned the title of “the sweetest son” for many years after that. I can go out on a limb and say I still own that title.

She told me recently that it has become her thing to squeeze that bear every Valentine’s Day.

If V-Day is the day of love, let’s not forget those who you unconditionally love – and those who unconditionally love you.

This concludes this series on Valentine’s Day.

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Space & Trust in a Relationship

This is a follow-up post to lisaq’s post on 20-forty answering the question, “is it okay to go out with the girls or should couples always go out together?” You should read her post.

When I read this post, it brought me back to so many moments when that issue came up in my previous relationships. Whenever my girl would want to go out without me, there were so many different things that went on in my mind.

“Why does she want to go out somewhere without me? “

“What’s wrong with me that makes her not want me there?”

“I wonder what’s she is going to be doing since I’m not around. Actually, I wonder what her friends will make/let her do with me not there.”

Then the usual sequence of ideas goes from that to wondering what drunk idiots will do when they see my girl with her friends, without her man. And then what she would do. Needless to say, it would cause a lot of problems in my relationships. What I would confuse for showing how much I care and don’t want anything bad to happen to her was actually showing a lack of trust in her, her friends and most importantly, insecurities about myself.

Never again.

I think it’s important that we talk more about relationships, as it is very important not only to gain one but also to maintain a very healthy one. This is one issue that proves to be a deal-breaker. If you haven’t read my post about fulfilling a woman’s emotional needs, I highly suggest you give it a good read. By far, one of my best.

In any relationship, it is important to establish two important things – trust and space. Yeah, trust is a given but it’s so easy to give off the feeling that you don’t trust her inadvertently. That whole “not trusting the drunk guys out there” thing is a lame excuse (just like Lisa said). If you really trust her, you’ll also trust the fact that she’ll know how to handle those drunk men. And what if she gets drunk herself? If you have to worry about her actions being different when she’s drunk, then that is something that you will have to confront her with, but ONLY if you have seen or heard that she does things while drunk that can be questionable.

On the same note, I feel as though trust can be related to space. Most people have different test levels of trust. Sure, we can trust someone we like with some personal secrets, or with some of our personal belongings, and of course, our love, but then when it comes to being separated – even if for just a few hours – it becomes a different test of trust. If you feel good about your relationship and actually trust her, I think it’s good for both of you to have other things to do in each other’s lives that don’t involve the other person. A typical example is a girls’ night or a guys’ night. But other examples may have to do with hobbies that only you enjoy.

Remember in high school when you had your girl but you played a sport and had to dedicate a crapload of time practicing and playing your sport (for me, it was football)? Your girl wasn’t around that much – unless she went to see you play at a game, but still, she couldn’t talk to you until after the game was over. With practice everyday, you she rarely had a chance to see you. But, whenever she did have that chance to be with you, you could tell she really appreciated the time with you – and vice-versa. I strongly believe that you need to find something like that and continue to hold on to a good chunk of your world as you two slowly merge them together.

When I talk about building your life, making yourself interesting and doing things that YOU love to do, once you get into a relationship, that doesn’t mean that you have to give up any of those things. Logically speaking, if you did give up those things, you wouldn’t be interesting and you certainly wouldn’t be the attractive person that your girl fell head over heels with – which is not what you want to do, right? Plus, you won't feel obligated to have to do everything with your girl if you have other activities going on in your life (I don't see anything wrong with that, just as long as it doesn't interfere with your relationship.).

So if there is anything you take from this it should be a few things.

1. Read lisaq’s blog, 20-forty.

2. Allow your girl to have nights out with her friends and without you. If she doesn’t invite you, chances are it’s a girls’ thing and be ok with it. Give her the benefit that she has nothing up her sleeve. Don’t give yourself reason to doubt if she hasn’t done that for you, already.

3. In the meantime, go and have your poker nights or your beer and wings nights with your boys.

4. Make sure that you are still having a life and doing things that you love. Remember, your whole point of wanting to be with a woman may be to actually share those things about yourself with her. Not doing those things and changing your life would be counter-productive.

I’m sure we could get deeper into this but I’ll save this for another post.

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Not Your Typical Valentine’s Day Post (Part 2)



This is another story about Valentine’s Day that makes me remember how much fun I used to have in high school and just being a guy who was so happy to have someone that I cared about. Please check out Part 1 as I talk about Valentine’s Day and my perception of the holiday.

So for Valentine’s Day, I had another awesome and elaborate plan. This was going to definitely take the cake, compared to what I did the year before. Here is basically what I did.

I had the unbelievable fortune to be able to pretty much do whatever I wanted in high school. I could have almost come and go as I pleased and I almost always had my way. Wanting to take full advantage of that, I decided to let everyone in my class know how much I loved this girl. So I bought 8 carnations and hid them in my guidance counselor’s office. Every period, I would leave my class, claiming to go to the bathroom, make a pit stop at the counselor’s office, grab a carnation and head straight to my girlfriend’s class. Now I had a pretty crap memory and couldn’t remember where her classes were, and so I give thanks to the other guidance counselors who helped me out and gave me her class schedule.

Walking to her class, I had no idea what I was going to do. I mean this could have either worked out big time, or completely crashed and burned. And who was to say that the teacher would have allowed me to go in there and interrupt the class just to hand out a flower?

Well, I just popped into the class – I don’t even remember knocking - looked for her, walked over and handed her the flower. Feeling pretty good about how I was doing, I pushed it a little more and gave her a kiss on the cheek, whispering, “I love you,” in her ear. If you could hear the “awws,” it was ridiculous. The teacher just couldn’t help but smile and say, “that was the most adorable thing I have ever seen.”

So I knew I was in the clear. I proceeded to do that every period. There was one class that we were in together and so I just beat her there and placed the flower on her desk. I mean, you couldn’t find a happier person than her and I was happy because of that. Even at lunch, I remember guys just heckling me about what I was doing. Come to find out they were just mad that they didn’t think of it first. And yes, I did look for her during her lunch break to give her a flower and a kiss.

At the end of the day, I figured I had to have some type of conclusion to this demonstration so after giving her the last flower in her class; I went back to the counselor’s office and gathered the rest of her gifts. It included chocolate and little teddy bears. I proceeded to go her locker and stuff the chocolate bars in between her books (it looked just like little books - it was genius!) and tie the bears to one of the hooks so that it’ll fall out of her locker when she opened it.

I decided not to be in the vicinity when this went down and I remember being at my locker getting ready to leave for practice when I heard a scream. I couldn’t help but to smirk. Then as I walk over to her, I remember her running toward me and jumping into my arms. Man, I did good.

Not a bad way to go out, senior year in high school. I don’t think I could have topped that even if I tried, but it was all fun for me. Seeing the look on her face and knowing that she was happy made it all worthwhile.

If that’s what you are looking to do for Valentine’s Day, don’t bother. Why don’t you do it now or prepare for something big tomorrow? Well, tomorrow is a special day within itself but still. Why wait? It’s not like you’re going to love her more on that day, more so than any other day. Forget Valentine’s Day and if you really wanted to spoil her with something nice, you’d have done it already. Don’t feel forced to have to do anything over the top on that day. If there's anything you do guys, just give something that is creative and from the heart. Be sincere. This is not Christmas when you may be able to get away with a token gift. And ladies, although it would be nice, let’s not pressure your man into doing something if that is just not him. A. He’s already feeling the pressure. B. If he comes up short, it's going to be a letdown.

I already find it interesting that we are coming across the time when most breakups occur during the year.

I have one more story that I want to share which took place in college which I thought was silly but I liked it so I’ll talk share it anyway.

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Not Your Typical Valentine's Day Post (Part 1)

I am going to confess something here on Project Infinity. I used to LOVE Valentine’s Day. I would get so excited about the things I could do to surprise my significant other and make her happy that my guy friends would find it nearly disgusting. Of course I didn’t care. When it came to making my girl happy, I would have no fear of taking chances and I would have no doubt that she’d be happy. There was just one problem. A problem many guys think about when it comes to getting something for their girl. I had very little money.

But being creative was always my thing and so even if I had tons of money, it wouldn’t have made a difference – at least to me. These days, I do have indifference with V-Day because I don’t believe that there needs to be a set day to celebrate your love or infatuation for another. There are 364 other days you can do that. Guys typically get so caught up and pressured into having to do something big on these days and some women have been spoiled and others have these expecations for what their guys are going to do and at times, it can become a letdown and often lead to arguments, sadness, bitterness, jealously (of others) and rethinking of the person that they love, just because he didn’t come through BIG TIME on this one day. The idea of that just sounds ridiculous. And you know, with all the horror stories I hear about V-Day, it's just better to say that some people love it others don't. It's just like the idea of New Year's Eve and the New Year's Kiss. Some people love it because they have someone to kiss. Others hate it. To me, it's just a moment in time. Would be nice, but doesn't HAVE to happen and it doesn't affect my emotion either way

V-Day in perspective does not compare Christmas, your birthday, your wedding day, the day of the birth of your child and other significant days. It just doesn’t. If your man can find various ways to tell you how much they love you and appreciate you throughout the year, why does V-Day HAVE to be different? Ok, the rant is over.

Having said that, I thought it would be cool to share a few stories of what I have done on or around V-Day that I thought were fun, special, creative and most importantly, meaningful.* These things didn't have to be done around this holiday but being younger, I admittedly was caught up in the hype. Here’s the first one.

*Let me preface by saying that these gifts were given in high school and some in college – you probably couldn’t replicate these considering the circumstances but I hope these stories can give you some ideas.

10th grade was the year I found someone that I cared about immensely for the first time. It was one of those relationships where we were good friends for a few years and then things began become more intimate and romantic. It was awesome. This was also my first REAL relationship. I was in a relationship before but I didn’t really consider it one. We were “together” for about 6 months and I probably saw her a handful of times. Her mom hated guys and if I got a chance to see her, it was some ridiculous scenario and lasted only 5 minutes. Clearly, I was not happy about that and “ended things.” (What was I really ending, anyway?) Blah, blah, blah.

Anyway, at my high school English class, every student was required to perform what is called a declamation. Performing a declamation required us to find some type of speech or monologue, memorize it and perform it in front of the class. It was supposed to teach public speaking and getting over certain fears when speaking in front of crowds. What can create more pressure than speaking in front of people that know you and are quick to make fun of you if you mess up?

Well our teacher gave us a cool opportunity. She allowed us to create our own declamation. I instantly thought this was better than memorizing some other literary non-sense so I jumped on it, not having any clue as to what to write about.

And then it hit me. What a way to surprise my girl than with something very cool, memorable and from the heart? So I decided to write a “since you've been gone” letter from me to my ex talking about my new girlfriend, my new love and how much she made me happy. Now on paper it sounds ridiculous and I’m not going to post what I wrote just because I know the person who I wrote this wouldn’t want that. But I will say this. It was one of the best things I have ever written. But there’s more to this.

So I bought a bouquet of roses and during homeroom, snuck it from my homeroom to the class where I was going to do the declamation. Completely interrupting homeroom, I hid it behind my teacher’s desk and my plan was to bring it out during my declamation, give it to her and continue. So awesome! My English teacher saw what I was doing and she thought it was going to be amazingly sweet. You could hear the collective “aww” from down the hall; it was absurd. So somehow I was able to keep this secret from her for a little over 3 hours. I found that to be incredible since about 60 people had already knew what was going down and people had to have told other people. But anyway, the time came and I had to do it.

For some reason, although my hands were sweaty, but I still felt pretty confident. It was by doing that speech where I found the importance of not only the ease of memorizing what you write yourself, but also the importance of how passionate you are with what you write. It’s part of the reason why I think President-elect Obama is an amazing speaker. There is a lot of confidence and passion there and it shows in his presentation. It's powerful. But I digress.

I remember making the speech and it felt like I was looking at her the entire time. I was so anxious to get to the point when I would so smoothly walk to behind the teacher’s desk and pull out the flowers. And when it happened, it was amazing. That moment when I gave her the flowers must have felt like it lasted for years – and it was an unbelieveable feeling. At that point, nothing else was going on. Not my speech, not my class, nothing. No one was around. It was just me and her. And I could tell that she felt that too. The rest of the speech didn’t matter to me. I did what I really wanted to do. But at that point, I was peaking confidence and I just finished the speech with ease. Needless to say, I got a near standing ovation for that one - and an A.

That became the talk of the school for many weeks. The girls loved me and the guys clearly hated on me. It didn’t matter. It was something that I knew she would never, ever forget.

I didn’t do this on V-Day but it was around the holiday and this served as the perfect way to give her something cool to show her how much she meant to me.

This was a fun story I wanted to share with everyone here. I hope you enjoyed it. I have one or two more stories to share that I think you’d love as well. I’ll share another one on Monday. In the meantime, instead of thinking of ways to “win” her on V-Day, try figuring out a way to “win” her NOW.

If you’d like help with that, shoot me an email or find me on Twitter.

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How to Look Sharp For Less

Clients always ask me how much to spend on clothes, and I tell them the same thing. You don't have to spend a million bucks to look like a million bucks.

I love to give examples of the little things you can do to sharpen your wardrobe, but then I came across this article from Jae from Kinowear. He always knows how to explain these things so well.

Read this to better understand how great outfits can be made without breaking the bank.

A lot of guys think they need a lot of money to own a wardrobe that turns heads, but you’d be surprised to find that a lot of stylish guys out there don’t spend that much.

By shopping smart you could look just as good, if not better, than the guy wearing expensive labels from head to toe.

Don’t get me wrong, most of the time you get what you pay for — but the common person can’t tell whether you’re wearing a $300 cashmere sweater or a $90 one. As long as you know how to pick out a $90 one that could pass for $300.

Unless you hang around people who really know fashion, it’s unnecessary to spend this much except for your own pleasure.

In this article, I want to talk about how you can look designer, at the fraction of the costs.

Think in Outfits

If you want to create killer outfits than you have to be a smart shopper, and a smart shopper will always think in outfits. Before you buy something, you should always ask yourself, “What can I wear with this?”

Our natural inclination is to judge a piece by itself. Too many times I’ll find a client’s closet full of busy pieces — so much that any possible outfit combination would look a mess.

If you come across a solid colored shirt, imagine how it would balance well with your patterned blazer or your leather jacket with all the pockets and zippers. Or if you find a dress shirt with patterns on it, the next piece you would need is something that would compliment it instead of clash with it, like a simple jacket.

Here’s a look from lookbook.nu of a guy wearing a blazer and shirt from H&M, a cardigan from Tiger of Sweden, “drkshdw” coated jeans from rick owens, and a vintage leather skinny tie. Everything is fairly cheap from these places except for the jeans - which you could probably find on sale online. Regardless, it’s clear that it doesn’t take a lot of money to put together an outfit like this.

Don’t judge a single garment by how much it costs, but more on how it will look in combination with other pieces.

Which girl is more attractive to you?

Quality Wins Every Time

Both of these women could have very well spent the same amount of money on their respective outfits. Except the one on the right looks like she does better for herself than the other.

I think both of these women are attractive in their own way, and I like both of their styles. But both of these looks can be achieved without spending a lot of money. Especially the girl on the left. So if nobody can tell, why spend?

When it comes to attractiveness, no matter who you are, the majority of our modern society will judge you on money, status, and how well-dressed and groomed you are. The better you fair in these areas, the more influence you have. This doesn’t mean you have to dress up like a wealthy businessman to be highly attractive. You may like wearing skinny jeans and a t-shirt, or a sweater with slacks — whatever you wear, the key is that the pieces should look high quality.

The good news is that they don’t have to cost you a lot of money. The trick is to find inexpensive pieces that look just as good as the expensive pieces.

Here’s how:

1. Find the best fit you can, and then get the details tailored

I’ve said this about a hundred times and I’m sure I’ll say it a hundred times more: FIT IS KING.

By now, you should know that nothing will more “money” than a great fit. Keep this in mind when shopping, first and foremost. Rarely will you find anything that fits perfectly off the rack, so buy the best fit that you can find, and then get it tailored. It’s smarter to get a cheaper piece tailored to fit you perfectly than get a fancy piece that’s mediocre in fit.

2. Try a dark pair of raw jeans

Avoid the distressed jeans and go for a solid pair like raw denim. Crazy back pocket graphics are now out of style — so keep it simple.

So why darker jeans? Generally darker jeans look more classy and higher quality than most light-colored jeans - especially ones with no wash like raw denim. Most of the time, jeans that are machine washed and given that faded look come out cheesy and looking cheap. When in doubt, go for a solid pair of jeans.

I’m not saying you should go buy the cheapest pair of dark jeans out there. Jeans are something that guys wear almost everyday, so you should definitely invest in a quality pair for great comfort and fit. But hunt around and you could find a pair that look just as good as a designer pair for less.

3. Check the details, such as the buttons

The quality of all your clothing is spoken through the details. Hard plastic is the most common material for buttons nowadays, and natural materials such as bone, ivory, or shell are used in premium apparel.

When buying a shirt or a jacket, check if the buttons looks cheap. Do they look thin and brittle? Sometimes buttons will be poorly sewn on and look like they’re going to fall off at any moment.

For button down shirts, try too look for strong buttons that look have a shine to them like mother of pearl or that resemble the natural materials. A simple detail to make a shirt look more “designer.”

4. Examine the stitching

The stitching is another detail that reveals signs of quality. The stitching should be uniform and even throughout the garment. If stitches have been dropped, then the quality of work done is very poor. You should definitely not see threads hanging out where the seams are - it should be clean and unnoticeable.

5. Choose your fabric with care

A lot of clothing makers will copy the popular trends of the runway. For example, in a high-end designer store you may see a lot of patent leather clothing. You’ll see patent leather jackets, patent leather shoes, etc. Even if you bought these type of shoes for way less at a cheaper store, the common person won’t be able to perceive the difference.

So before you buy a shirt or a pair of jeans, ask yourself, “If I saw this on someone else, would I think it was cheap or expensive?”

Some people buy very expensive pieces but they look horrible - nobody would know they spent a lot of money on it. Others look great, and it seems like everything they have on is high quality; but the truth is they didn’t spend a lot of money at all.

6. Infuse some color into your outfits

Few things make you look more confident than picking clothes with color. Either go for bold colors such as red and purple, or subtle colors such as pastel blue or icy pink.

Pink is a color that is flattering on all skin types, yet so many men avoid it. Everyone is wearing black, gray, white, and blue — so why not stand out with that pink shirt underneath your blazer with confidence?

Another thing you should do is to find out what colors are best for your skin type. Many guys walk around wearing all the wrong colors for them, and they don’t know how much of a difference it would make in their appearance if they wore the right ones.

There are colors that generally work for light, medium, and dark-skinned people, but I highly recommend getting a color analysis done to find what your best colors are according to your specific hair color, eye color, and skin tone.

7. Add the right accessories

The right accents to your outfit will really take it to a higher level. For example, you could buy a fairly inexpensive french cuff shirt and add a snazzy pair of cuff links, and the shirt will look a lot more expensive than it is.

Or add a skinny tie and a knit scarf to any outfit and it’ll give it more class.

8. Patterns make things more interesting

Most designer shirts have small patterns on them. The guys who usually purchase these type of shirts are either gay, or really confident. If you wear a shirt like this, you’ll get a lot of compliments. Even if it’s not an expensive shirt people it’ll look a lot more stylish than a solid shirt.

9. Your outfit is only as good as your weakest link

The quality of your outfit is affected by the piece that looks the worst. Notice I didn’t say “cheapest” but “looks the worst.” You could be wearing a great pair of shoes, jeans, and shirt, but then wear a cap that cheapens the entire outfit.

10. Spend on the most important pieces, save on the rest

You should at least have one really nice part of your outfit that is the main attraction of your outfit. For example it may have been those really nice shoes you splurged on for your birthday, or that designer pair of jeans that your girlfriend bought you.

Or you may have found a jacket that you couldn’t pass on - so you decided to buy that while saving money on everything else. Just make sure that if you’re going to splurge on a pricey and really nice piece that it covers a big part of your body, and it’s not an accessory that nobody will notice. For example, splurge on a jacket or a pair of pants first before you splurge on a watch!

Conclusion

In conclusion, remember that to be your most attractive self you don’t have to look “wealthy,” but what you wear should look quality. When shopping, don’t just go for the most expensive individual pieces, but think in outfits and think about how a cheaper item may be mixed with other items to create a quality outfit combination.

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Virginity = $3.5 Million

Yeah, you thought what I talked about was insane. Oh, you don't remember? It was actually one of the first articles that I ever wrote on Project Infinity. You know, the one about Natalie Dylan, offering her virginity up for auction? You can see the article here to refresh your memory. But if you thought this story was just going to go away, you are sorrowly mistaken. Check this out.

Bids have been made in excess of $3.5 million. $3.5 million! There have been over ten thousand bids made for this 22-year old brunette. I still don't think she's even that hot.

But I also find it ridiculous that in this economy, there are men willing to shell out even half of that amount of a night of virgin sex, when you can take $3.5 million and buy a house, a boat, throw a huge and ridiculous party, invite hot girls over who you can seduce however they want and still have pocket change.

Blows my mind sometimes what people are into and the lengths they'll go.

But yeah. $3.5 million.

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