Project Infinity Membership Announcement [Video]

So, over the past couple of months, I have been helping you improving your look, building confidence and getting you to understand and meeting women isn’t as hard as you think.

Of course, I will continue to do that. But I figured that would only end up being just a tidbit of what I can provide for guys out there.

Starting in December, I will introduce a members-only section in which you will get some specific advice in terms of how you can get over your nervousness with meeting women, specific things you can do to attract higher quality women, how to quickly motivate yourself in under 10 minutes, and two things that is rarely talked about these days when dating women – how to find the one that you want and actually keep her. Because I have to acknowledge the fact that there are some of you out there who want to learn these skills in order to meet the woman you want to spend the rest of your life with. And you too, deserve that chance.

Those who want even more can actually get an even more exclusive membership where I provide my transformation program where you will constantly be in contact with me and we will do the following:

Set your goals
Reframe limiting beliefs
Upgrade your appearance
Give you specific tools of the approach
Learn how to keep conversation interesting
Understand how and when to take risks
Learn the best ways to get and handle first date
How to begin a sexual relationship
And much more!

There will also be some exclusive videos of live interactions with women and in-depth analysis of how well/bad each interaction may have been. You will also hear from women what they are looking for in a man so you can better understand what you need to do in order to be successful.

You will also be getting a very exclusive aspect of what goes on in my personal life and how I end up meeting all of these people I come across every day and how each interaction turns out. For me, it’s not just about meeting women. Sometimes, it’s good to know how to talk to anyone in any situation and here I will help you in figuring out how to do exactly that.

There will be a limited number of spaces, so if you want to get on the VIP list, send me an email at infinityfans@recklessstudio.com and you’ll be on the list. Once again, there is a limited number of spots so I would jump on this. Oh, did I mention that this is all FREE? No? Well, it is.

Why Pick Up Artists Are Seen As Scumbags and Why Someone Like Me Is Different


So I wanted to put this post up. This was done by Lexicon, who lives in Miami and whose blog you can check out right here! Here is a quick bio from his site:

"I began this journey trying to find an answer as to why I “couldn’t get a girlfriend”. What I’ve learned is that Seduction, dating, and romance has nothing to do with my relationship with others, but rather the relationship I have with myself; as well as my ability tonot judge, have prejudice, or negative thoughts towards the world around me."

If you want to contact him, you can do so by emailng him at LexiconMIA@gmail.com.

The reason why I say that I am different than these other guys, is because I believe in appreciating the people that come into my life. I think it's ok to get attached and vulnerable and I strongly believe that it's possible to be a sensitive, compassionate and caring guy without feeling like you are losing your masculinity. And like I said before, I may be considered a pick up artist, but like Lance told me, I would to be seen more as a social artist. Enjoy Lexicon's post.


 

I was talking to my best friend about this girl that I’m starting to date and how the other night I had a conversation with her about how I don’t do monogamous relationships and she got really pissed off at me.

I responded with non-attachment and non-reaction. I put it out there, and I said to her, “if its a deal breaker for you, I understand.” Left it at that and didn’t talk to her until the next day.

The next time we talked she totally ignored it and acted completely normal and happy and fine. I didn’t bring it up again, either, and things move forward.

But this got me thinking to how AFCs and Natural’s would handle a situation like that.

AFCs are easy. They’ll apologize, look for the girl to be “ok” with things, look for her validation, etc.

From my experience this only serves purposes AGAINST making sure things are ok. Since women are products of their emotions, trying to logic things into being “ok” through arguing or debating will always just make her upset. Even if you have the best, most valid point in the world, the main thing that registers with her is how it makes her “feel”, which is bad.

So the best course is to just inform her what’s going on, then make her feel good.

On the other end are Naturals, which to me is a much better gauge of skill. We all know that Naturals have that natural ability to attract women. From the Naturals that I know most of their success comes from not giving a shit which very closely resembles non-attachment.

But again, this boils down to how it affects a woman’s emotions. Eventually the Natural will fail in a relationship because of the difference between not giving a shit and being non-attached.

Also, I hope this is something that a lot of PUA’s can take away, because there is a disturbing trend of misogyny in the community (and I don’t mean misogyny in the societal way, I mean it in a way that women are nothing besides the ends of “the game”). If you are sleeping and dating a woman and you can’t appreciate her, and only count her as a notch on your PUA bragging rights, I hope that you can get away from that.

Anyway, that is the essence of not giving a shit. The woman basically means nothing. Sure those guys aren’t attached because who gets attached to nothing? Eventually the woman will feel empty and under appreciated. It’s why so many community guys, Mystery being a great example, are never ever in a relationship.

Being non-attached means that you can fully appreciate, accept, and love what is around you. You can see the woman for her beautiful and marvelous traits and fully appreciate it. You won’t leave her feeling empty because you can offer love. But also having that non-attached attitude means that you aren’t defined by your relationship. If your relationship ever makes that negative turn you can cleanly say to your partner, “hey, it was really great, but I don’t have room for negativity in my life.”

I think this is definitely one area that PUAs are unmatched by the unlearned. Even people who learn in the context of the normal dating world don’t get the absolutely brilliant advice that is really only found in the community. For the most part, outside of our realm things are heavily swayed in the female direction. Men are expected to “get in touch with their emotions” and bend to the demands of a woman.

Which of course only causes a “beta”ing of the man.

Or, even guys who are good at sleeping with women (naturals) typically are in the boat that they’re in because of their emotional detachment. My brother is a natural (has slept with over 200 women) but only had 5 relationships, none of which lasted longer than a year, and probably averages no longer than 3 months.

But what learning Pickup, and especially inner game, gives PUAs is the ability to not be afraid to be emotional and emotionally involved with a woman but also the inner strength to not beta-ize and bend to her shit tests.

** Let me make a side note here. I know that sounds bad, “don’t bend to her shit tests”, it sounds completely misogynistic, but keep in mind that a shit test is nothing more than a woman testing your resolve as a man. If you pass them it makes her feel good. Also, I would say that the absolute best course of action to handle a woman’s shit testing isn’t mentally beating her down (making her feel bad) but by standing up to them by making her feel happy and good - again, women are ruled by their emotions, so it is the job of the man to make her feel good, happy, fulfilled, i.e. positive.

So I suppose to give a summary, don’t be afraid to be an “AFC” (by that I mean caring and sensitive) when you are with a woman you care about and who has earned it, but also don’t be taken advantage of and maintain that PUA-ness where you have an ability to handle a woman’s irrationability (in the sense that women don’t logic but emotions) with the skills you have learned.

Overall you will be a much better man for yourself AND for her.

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4 New Looks You Can Try This Season

This is from my man, Jae from Kinowear and he is introducing different things you can try this season to stand out. I love these looks and I am going to try some of them out. The best part about it is if you can mix and match well, you can come up with some amazing outfits. My personal favorite is the "Laid Back Rebel."

I’ve decided that this will be the last style inspiration article for awhile. There are many other topics I think everyone will enjoy even more.

But no worries, in this month’s edition I’m going to give lots more details on how to put together some highly attractive outfits.

Let’s do this.


Modeling off Those Who Catch Our Attention

I use pictures on this blog because style is such a visual thing. Even though many aspects of style are expressed through non-visual channels as well, the way you dress is the strongest and primary source of the impression you’ll make in any interaction.

I’m very analytical, and when I see a guy with a uniquely attractive fashion sense, I try to learn from him — by breaking his image down to the details. Often times, I get many new styling ideas I can pass on to my clients during a consultation.

Whenever you see a guy who makes a positive impression on you, make an effort to pinpoint what exactly causes this. Is it the way he dresses? If so, what about his outfit stands out to you? Certain pieces? How he put it together?

Modeling off other stylish people is something you should do constantly to get ideas for your own style. When you see something that works for someone else, try it yourself! Then make adjustments to your own liking.

So here are 4 different outfits - each a different style - that you can model after:


1. “Metro Chic”



Grab yourself a tweed blazer this season instead of your typical dress blazer. Tweed is a great fabric for a relaxed style that is still classy.

So here’s what you need for this great casual outfit:

1. A gray tweed blazer

2. A gray long-sleeve shirt

3. White jeans

4. Pair of white Chuck Taylors

This is a totally balanced outfit. The blazer is a classy element. The long-sleeve shirt is meant to be understated as to make way for what’s next - the white pants. Wait a minute, white pants after Labor Day? Gasp*

Who made up that stupid rule anyway? To me there is just no logically sound reason why you shouldn’t wear white after Labor Day. Even in the winter, it just goes so well with the season. Fashion is changing it’s position on it anyway, where most people who do wear white after Labor Day are seen as bold and daring.

The white pants are what really make this outfit great because it stands out on it’s own. And the converse shoes, well, they’re a staple that go with almost everything - it does nothing but add style to any outfit.

 

 

 

 

Extra tips

If you want to add something more elegant to the outfit, try a turtle neck:

And if there’s snow outside, try a pair of boots like these:

Which you could tuck your jeans into and wear with the laces loose and untied. Yes, this is purposeful.

Not your flavor? How about something more smart?


2. “Sophisticated and Class”

So here’s what you need for this classy outfit:

1. Light blue dress shirt

2. Patterned sweater vest

3. Tweed blazer

4. Solid dark blue jeans

5. Skinny rep tie

6. Colored Scarf

7. Newsboy Cap

8. Slim dress shoes

If you want something more sophisticated - yet still turn heads - grab a collared shirt and a skinny tie. Then look for a sweater vest; but instead of looking for a boring one that will make you look like a math teacher, switch it out for an eye-catching plaid one.

Keep it dressy with a dark pair of jeans with a clean wash, and a pair of slim dress shoes.

For some noticeable finishing touches, find yourself a newsboy cap and a colored scarf to accentuate the outfit. Perhaps something to match the colors of your alma matar for that “smart” university look.

If you want to rough it up a bit and make it more relaxed, loosen the skinny tie, don’t wear a belt, and leave your shirt untucked. Done.

 

Extra Tip

If you don’t like the blazer, switch it for something like this fleece-lined corduroy jacket. A more casual version of the smart look.

If you like that one, awesome. If not, how about this?


3. “Laid Back Rebel”

This outfit is very simple but carries some rugged edge.

So here’s what you need for this great casual outfit:

1. Leather jacket

2. Bright colored shirt

3. Light wash jeans

4. Leather belt

5. Leather boots

Seasonal depression is the leading cause of people steering away from colors during the winter. Avoid getting labeled as a victim and show that you’re still full of life with some strong color.

Try a cobalt blue shirt with a very light pair of blue jeans for contrast. Throw on a black leather jacket with a euro collar, to turn the rebel in you up a notch, and grab a casual leather belt to match. Then, a pair of motorcycle boots will complete this call upon the spirit of James Dean.

 

Extra Tips

Add a knit scarf to this outfit on colder days:

Or switch the dress shirt for a white t-shirt and black hoodie like this (cool guy shades optional):

Or maybe this is more your style…


4. “Indie Military”

What you’ll need:

1. Military style jacket

2. Khaki dress shirt

3. Dark slim jeans

4. Black jack purcells

5. Beanie

6. Wallet chain

7. Aviator shades

If you’re a lover of women with indie style, then they’ll love it on you. If you’re looking for an updated look, try this one.

 

 

Instead of going for something bright and bold, go for something warm and subdued like a khaki shirt, and a chocolate brown jacket. Make it a military style jacket and it’ll give you an ex-soldier’s aura.

Add a touch of luxury with a solid pair of dark blue jeans (I really suggest slim jeans for this look but go with what is comfortable for you). Then add some head-turning flair with an accessory like a wallet chain. Get some aviator shades and beanie to battle the cold weather, and a pair of black Jack Purcells to complete the outfit.

Which one of these looks is your favorite? Share with us in the comments.

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Wingman Interaction Analysis (Part One of Two)

So after watching the Pick Up Artist Episode 6 about 3 or 4 times, I think that it’s important that I talk to you about the wingman thing in detail. I really can’t stress this enough. If you have a good friend that is supportive, it’ll take you a long way in being better with women. Nothing wrong with having some type of support every once in a while.

Many of us who go out, do not have that luxury and something go out by ourselves. I remember when I came back to Boston from college; I didn’t know anything about where to go and how to meet people. Eventually, I made the decision to go out on my own and go for it. The results have been astronomical.

But anyway, having someone who is one the same page as you and willing to help you get a conversation with a woman of interest is a pretty nice luxury.

So if you watched the episode, you will know what I am talking about here. If you haven’t watched the episode, you can watch it here.

So, using some of the PUA knowledge in me, here is some analysis. Let’s start off with Greg and Rian.

Rian goes into the group first so his responsibility is to open the group, gives Greg an accomplishment introduction (AI) and then allow Matt to come in and join Rian.

One thing that stands out is that when Rian walks through a room, he tries to interact with everyone he walks by. It’s a great way to slowly build social proof. I compare it to what a club owner or manager can do – making sure that everyone is having a good time.

His opener: “What’s your name?” Sometimes, it’s that easy, guys.

As he opens up this woman, his body language is on point. He is leaning back and his body isn’t completely turned toward her. Then two other women show up and they get introduced to Rian and that gives Greg the cue to try to enter.

Greg says, “Hey Rian, have you seen Michelle?”

Here, the two answers could be, “You know, I think she is over there,” indicating that Rian is not ready to introduce Greg to the group, or, “Hey, I want you to meet some friends here,” indicating that it’s cool for Greg to join the group.

Rian was not ready for Greg so he sends him off and then immediately gives Greg an accomplishment introduction (AI). An AI is when your friend says something really cool about you. You know how I feel about terms so I’m not going to use it much. So Rian talks about how jealous he is that Greg travels a lot. Immediately, one of the women mentions how much she has traveled to qualify herself for Greg. And Rian’s reaction:

“Does she always brag like this?” That line is such a great playful way to tease a woman.

Greg rejoins the group and everyone is introduced. Immediately there is an attempt to bring the women to a table and they comply by taking their arm. Here, it always helps to have a table.

The women are split up, with Rian having two of them and Greg with the other one. It’s interesting to see these interactions going on at the same time. There is so much going on. I am going to make Greg’s interaction bold and Rian’s interaction italic so you can see what’s going on.

Greg notices the tongue piercing and calls her out on it, indicating some sexual interest. Mystery says that he should start initiating some touch to make his statements congruent with what he is saying.

Rian meanwhile is initiating touch right away by playing the theatre game with one of the women, while the other woman steps away for a few minutes. When the woman gets back, she notices her friend having a good time and wants in. Mystery calls it a jealousy plotline. She rejoins the group and now Rian is in between the two of them, the ideal situation for him. If nothing else, he looks great with two women at his side and him leaning back and taking it all in.

Greg begins to initiate a similar theatre game just to check how interested the woman seems to be. Once he feels there is enough interest, he asks, “on a scale from 1 to 10, how good of a kisser are you?”

At this point, if she legitimately answers the question, then usually it means that she wants to be kissed. She answered saying that she’s never been asked that.

His response: “Well, I guess you need to kiss somebody.” He kisses her.



Now while Greg is sucking her face, Rian is with two women not knowing what to do and the sexual tension is growing.

Rian: “I wonder which of you is the better kisser.” This is a very loaded statement with intentions of a high-risk, high-reward kind of situation. If they don’t freak out or say anything indicating your sleaziness, you have a good chance of getting at least one kiss.

One of the women asks Rian when was the last time he’s kissed a girl? He answers with last week, which I thought was a lie but then I forgot when he kissed a girl a couple of episodes ago. I guess that counts.

That woman then says that it’s been too long (since she’s been kissed). Now, I know none of us guys are idiots and are able to pick up on this. She wants him to kiss her. This example here shows the difference between those who are successful women and those who aren’t. You have to take risks. There hasn’t been any aspect in your life where you have not taken a risk. Why does it have to be different with women? Know what you want and go for it.

He does end up kissing one of the women but it was just a peck on the lips. Both women were not impressed. After a while, it just got awkward and with Greg not helping, the interaction eventually died out and they all left.

Sucks for Rian because he had a chance to make-out with two women and failed. He could have just made out with one of them but he couldn’t even do that. That’s why he was eliminated.

Stay tuned later today for Part Two when I analyze Matt and Simeon’s interaction.

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A Weekend of Learning About the Alpha Male

So it’s Friday and I am very excited about the weekend. I am sitting here writing this article while watching a Bruce Lee movie called the Legend of Bruce Lee and thinking about how badass he was in his movies. This movie talked about how he grew up learning from so many different people various forms of martial arts. He lacked respect for people, always ran into trouble and constantly had to defend his friends from bullies. After time, he began to appreciate the martial art form and began to dedicate himself to using it for good. People forget how much of an amazing actor he was. But just his personality and his flare alone attributes to what the alpha male is all about. Bruce Lee was willing to try anything that would improve himself. He worked so hard and trained every day to be the best at everything he set his mind to. And in his movies, he taught so much about defending yourself , what you believe in and taking risks. He also taught a lot about overcoming the odds and being the underdog. There is a lot you can learn about life and yourself watching his movies. If you haven’t seen Bruce Lee in a while, it would be worthwhile to add it to your Netflix queue.

Tomorrow, I get to see another aspect of the alpha male by going to see a comedy show with Jim Gaffigan. I would recommend anyone going to a comedy show and listening to these comedians tell their jokes. It important to notice how they deliver their punch lines and how they tell their stories. It’s a great way to learn how to tell stories and make people laugh – two qualities that are very attractive to women.



Then on Sunday, after much waiting, I get to see the new James Bond in Quantum of Solace. I have heard mixed reviews but I have been trying to ignore them. James Bond is what every man would love to be. For decades he has been the image of the Alpha Male. He always looks his best, has the right things to say, has the coolest gear (until recently) and of course gets the hottest women. It’s pretty easy for any man to jealous of any guy that gets to play James Bond (currently Daniel Craig). But if you have watched all 22 Bond films, you should know by now what makes James Bond and how he exemplifies the attributes of the alpha male. He’s coy, mysterious, cold, calculated, smart, cunning, strong, and clever and the list goes on. His body language is never in question and he always seems to know the right thing to say at the right time. Yeah, I know it’s a movie but who says that can’t and doesn’t happen in real life?



So I hope everyone has some fun this weekend and keep learning.

Feedback, Please?

So, I just got home this morning from a fun date and with so much to do today, I wanted to touch base with you guys ask how you are liking the site so far. It’s only been a couple of months but I have received a much larger turnout than expected and have been doing my best to give you as much content as possible!

But still I feel as though it can get better! And it will. But I could sure use your help. For those who have been following the site, I would love to know what you like/dislike about the site. Are there things that I am missing that you’d love to see?

Do you like the look of the site? Are you able to read my articles?

Do you guys like the video posts? Should I do more?

Is there anything else you’d like me to possibly cover?

Any suggestion at all is a great one. You can either post your comment here, or you can email me at infinityfans@recklessstudio.com.

I am excited for the next few months, especially next month when I will be releasing some cool exclusive stuff for members! I’m still working on it so I will announce when it’s released so you can get a chance at capturing one of the limited spots!

Of course, I thank you all and look forward to continuing to help the cause in building a better future for all of us!

How to Be A Quality Wingman for Your Friend

Pick Up Artist Episode 6 Review

This episode starts off with none other that Rian having another near breakdown about how close he is getting to truly breaking through and how he is making huge strides to get where he is now. I feel for him a little bit because we have all been there at one point or another, but he needs to start taking some risks. He is one breakthrough away from completely sealing this whole competition away. And although Brian and his comedic value are no longer there, I feel like there will be a turn in which these guys take their game to another level. Not to say that Brian held them back but there was definitely less focus going on within the group when he was there.

So they meet Mystery at a grocery store and Mystery introduces Day Game. Being able to talk to women at clubs and bars makes talking to women during the day look like a walk in the park. BUT talking to women during the day is completely different than talking to women at night in terms of your approach and what you talk about. Mystery fails to tell them that and makes them think that what they use at night can be used during the day. See my follow up post on approaching women during the day after this article.

Anyway, having “watered down” game, as Mystery explained it, is not the way to do it, in my opinion. Just because you lower your energy level and your voice, doesn’t mean that what you say out of your mouth is interpreted any differently. But the guys’ goal is to number-close as many women as possible.

No one really did well. Matt froze up again. His approach anxiety is going to kill him if he doesn’t take care of that soon. Rian was friendly, got a number close but the women that he was talking to were not attractive. Simeon was creepy again, starting a conversation and then ended up talking to the vegetables in aisle 2. But then without using anything that Mystery taught him, somehow got an awkward number close. Clearly that was impressive [end sarcasm]. Greg was nervous and just botched each interaction. He let it get to his head and he couldn’t continue.

Rian clearly won that mess of a challenge and his reward was to pick one of the guys as his wingman for the night’s challenge. He chooses Greg.

Quick comment: Mesh shirts are not what are in style. They probably will never be. There are just some things that can’t be worn, no matter how much you want to stand out and try to make it work. Mesh shirts are one of them. Sleeveless tanks are another. Actually, anything sleeveless should not be worn to the bars or clubs unless you are going to a theme party or the bar/club is on the beach. Ok, rant over.

The importance of being a wingman

Being a wingman is a commitment of teamwork and trust. When you are out with your friends, you have to make sure that everyone succeeds as much as possible. No one is your enemy and there is no competition. In the end, it’s all about having fun and providing the best experience for each other. It’s about having a strategy and being in sync. It’s important to always be on the same page with your wingman. It’s also just as important to just go with the flow if things go unplanned.

The breakdown is pretty simple. One guy approaches a group of women. He opens them up, introduces himself and starts demonstrating higher value (DHV). When that is accomplished and there is compliance, then the guy can start DHVing his wing, eventually leading to an accomplishment introduction. This is where being good friends work because you already know how awesome your friend is and what makes him stand out. After the second guy comes in, the wing (being the first guy), then fends off or befriends any obstacles while the second guy tries to build attraction with the woman that he is interested in. Got it? Good.

So tonight’s challenge is to demonstrate good wingman ethics and end up with not only a kiss-close but a makeout-close. Considering that none of these guys have even kissed anyone on this show, I had low expectations on how this will turn out. Boy was I wrong.

[For my comment about Matador’s sleeveless shirt, see my opinion three paragraphs up.]

Let me say that both groups did an amazing job! It was exciting to see these guys open a group of women, properly DHV themselves and their respective wingman, introduce their friend, allowing them to isolate, and escalate touch with their woman of interest, leading to a kiss-close. Unfortunately, one person did not get a makeout session – Rian. The sad part is that he had a chance to make out with two girls and he didn’t take the risk. It just goes back to episode one when that woman opened up Alex about his chain. He did nothing. And when you get opportunities like that, you have to jump on it. Like, I always say, “you gotta want it.”

So after seeing that, I knew Matt and Simeon were going to win and Rian was going to get eliminated. But I will acknowledge that if you can get a chance, watch how Matt and Simeon executed this challenge. They looked like they were rockstars and played the part so well. If you want a night like that, I would pay close attention to what they do.

Since you know how it played out and Rian got the boot, this week’s medallion was the Dagaz, which symbolizes clarity and breakthrough. You can read all about it here! I actually have this medallion! It’s my favorite because it symbolizes everything I preach – breaking through.

And with Rian’s final breakdown (6) that concludes this episode. Now, I am really excited for next week’s episode!

The clear favorite right now is Simeon, only because he has no fear whatsoever and that is what may set him a part from the other two, better-looking guys.

You guys have any wingman stories? Do you think we should establish an official wingman Code of Ethics?

Church Tells Members to Have Sex for 7 Days

I just got back from the cafeteria at work to grab a hot chocolate when I came across someone talking about sex on CNN. Clearly, my interest was drawn.

Apparently, there is a church telling their members to go home and have sex for 7 straight days! I couldn't believe it, but then again...there have been worse - if you want to call having sex for 7 straight days a bad thing to begin with.

Well, I had to rush back to my office and find the article online to share with everyone! So here it is, a post on First Coast News by Gary Detman:

Here is the video footage!

DALLAS -- Beginning next weekend, Fellowship Church, a Dallas based mega church with over 20,000 people in attendance, continues a controversial teaching seminar called "Leaving Lust Vegas" that skates the razor-thin line between lust, sex, marriage and family.

And now Pastor Ed Young heightens the controversy with an unprecedented challenge to married couples: Have Seven Days of Sex beginning Nov. 16.

"We want to turn whining into whoopi!" said Young. "With the current financial crises, moral debates on marriage, growing divorce rates, and rampant marital infidelity, marriages and families are under siege; there is a lot of whining going on."

Young is best known for his creative teaching style, dynamic leadership methods and no-holds-barred approach to topics that relate to today such as money, relationships, politics and sex.

"We want married people to see their bedroom for what it is - a magnet of stability, something that draws them away from the dangerous pull of lust that derails so many couples. We want couples to intentionally walk, even run, toward the marriage bed and away from sin city," said Young. "By experiencing a sexual relationship the way God intended it, we hope couples will begin to see things with greater clarity. I often say, 'so goes marriage, so goes the family. And ultimately, so goes our decisions and choices in this uncertain world.' I know it is radical, but it's all about building stronger marriages."

Understanding Why My Hair Attracts Women

A few weeks ago, I promised an article about easy lock-in props that you can use all the time. Well the truth is I didn’t know what a lock-in prop was until I became aware of the attention my chain gave me a few years ago.

For those who aren’t in the know about lock-in props, these things are what you wear to get positive attention – and eventually attraction – with a woman. Using these things as a part of your outfit is called peacocking (trust me, you won’t need to remember that, I just thought I’d share). I think there are two different kinds of lock-in props: Removable and Natural.

Removable Lock-in Props

Remember growing up in elementary school when your mom got you that really cool hologram watch? You have to know what I’m talking about. My mother got me an X-Men (Wolverine) hologram watch – I asked for Spider-Man, but whatever. It was a hologram watch! I didn’t care. It was the coolest thing in the world and I had one! Of course, I couldn’t wait to go to school to show it off to all of my friends – who thought I was the man for having one, and impress the schoolgirls with my really cool watch – because that’s what I would do: Impress girls with my watch (I was such a dweeb back then – not much has changed). I even remember the line I gave my elementary school crush.

Me: “Hey, do you know what time it is?”

Girl: “No.”

Me: “Do you wanna know?”

Girl. “Not really.”

Me (ignoring what she said, and while showing off my watch): “Well, in case you may wanna know when I leave, it’s 9:45.”

She laughed at me and told me to get lost but then she didn’t realize what I had until I walked away, defeated and my tail between my legs. Later on that day, she came over and wanted to check it out. Obviously, nothing happened, but it was a HUGE deal for me because I got my crush, who ignored me all those years, to finally say something to me, even if it was about my watch!

You don’t realize it but the same exact thing applies today, even though we are so much older. People love to see cool things and talk to you about them. I shit you not, if you wore that same hologram watch and went out, I bet you would get a lot of attention from it. But you just have to keep in mind, “who are the people you want attention from?” So wear that watch with caution. But anyway…

Growing up, I had a gold chain that my mother gave and I had a piece on it that had that familiar sleeping moon icon. Had no idea what it meant but I wore it everyday (because I love my mum) and apparently women loved it when they saw it! Women would always approach me, reaching for the moon and asking what it meant. All I would say was, “my mother gave it to me.” I never paid any attention to what all this attention meant until when I learned about lock-in props. At that point, I had another chain that had an infinity symbol – that I wore everyday instead of the moon – and that drew a lot of attraction because there was actually deeper meaning behind the infinity symbol. There are times when I used to take it off and put in around a girl’s neck to wear it for some time during the night (the actual point of lock-in). I don’t do that anymore but if you have something (hat, scarf, camera, wristband, chain, sunglasses, jacket, whatever) that is interesting and women approach you to ask you about it, chances are they are attracted to you. If they reach and try to touch it, they are definitely attracted to you. Then, you can use that item to "lock" them in, solidifying her attraction to you and vice-versa.

And just as a disclaimer, don’t worry about the guys that try to badmouth you about what you got on. Remember those guys in school that thought your hologram watch wasn’t cool but was jealous that you had one and cried to their mother when they got home to get them one too? Yeah, they are the same guys. Nothing has changed.

Natural Lock-in Prop

Well, this one is tricky because this kind of item is something that can’t necessarily be removed from your body. Examples of natural lock-in props would be tattoos, piercings, and hair. I personally have funky hair and I get talked to about it all the time. I like it because my hair stands out from most people. But you can use these things to create attraction and although you can’t take them off and give it to them, it is undeniable that they can not forget you based on that instant connection you two just made.

But when it comes to something “extra” like this, you don’t need to have it. I love the way my hair is so I keep it. I don’t care what others say. Some people say they hate it but what difference do it make to me? I also rarely show my chain anymore because I’ve been used to keeping it under my shirt because I wear shirts and ties a lot during the week.

So although, you don’t need to have it, it certainly would help and it does give you more chances of getting approached. And who doesn’t want to be approached by an attractive woman? Think of it as giving them an easy excuse for them to talk to you. I don’t see any problem with that. You get bonus points if said item actually means something to you.

What are some lock-in props you like to use? Do you use any at all? How do you feel about these things? Do they think they help or are detrimental to your chances with women?