Feedback, Please?

So, I just got home this morning from a fun date and with so much to do today, I wanted to touch base with you guys ask how you are liking the site so far. It’s only been a couple of months but I have received a much larger turnout than expected and have been doing my best to give you as much content as possible!

But still I feel as though it can get better! And it will. But I could sure use your help. For those who have been following the site, I would love to know what you like/dislike about the site. Are there things that I am missing that you’d love to see?

Do you like the look of the site? Are you able to read my articles?

Do you guys like the video posts? Should I do more?

Is there anything else you’d like me to possibly cover?

Any suggestion at all is a great one. You can either post your comment here, or you can email me at infinityfans@recklessstudio.com.

I am excited for the next few months, especially next month when I will be releasing some cool exclusive stuff for members! I’m still working on it so I will announce when it’s released so you can get a chance at capturing one of the limited spots!

Of course, I thank you all and look forward to continuing to help the cause in building a better future for all of us!

How to Be A Quality Wingman for Your Friend

Pick Up Artist Episode 6 Review

This episode starts off with none other that Rian having another near breakdown about how close he is getting to truly breaking through and how he is making huge strides to get where he is now. I feel for him a little bit because we have all been there at one point or another, but he needs to start taking some risks. He is one breakthrough away from completely sealing this whole competition away. And although Brian and his comedic value are no longer there, I feel like there will be a turn in which these guys take their game to another level. Not to say that Brian held them back but there was definitely less focus going on within the group when he was there.

So they meet Mystery at a grocery store and Mystery introduces Day Game. Being able to talk to women at clubs and bars makes talking to women during the day look like a walk in the park. BUT talking to women during the day is completely different than talking to women at night in terms of your approach and what you talk about. Mystery fails to tell them that and makes them think that what they use at night can be used during the day. See my follow up post on approaching women during the day after this article.

Anyway, having “watered down” game, as Mystery explained it, is not the way to do it, in my opinion. Just because you lower your energy level and your voice, doesn’t mean that what you say out of your mouth is interpreted any differently. But the guys’ goal is to number-close as many women as possible.

No one really did well. Matt froze up again. His approach anxiety is going to kill him if he doesn’t take care of that soon. Rian was friendly, got a number close but the women that he was talking to were not attractive. Simeon was creepy again, starting a conversation and then ended up talking to the vegetables in aisle 2. But then without using anything that Mystery taught him, somehow got an awkward number close. Clearly that was impressive [end sarcasm]. Greg was nervous and just botched each interaction. He let it get to his head and he couldn’t continue.

Rian clearly won that mess of a challenge and his reward was to pick one of the guys as his wingman for the night’s challenge. He chooses Greg.

Quick comment: Mesh shirts are not what are in style. They probably will never be. There are just some things that can’t be worn, no matter how much you want to stand out and try to make it work. Mesh shirts are one of them. Sleeveless tanks are another. Actually, anything sleeveless should not be worn to the bars or clubs unless you are going to a theme party or the bar/club is on the beach. Ok, rant over.

The importance of being a wingman

Being a wingman is a commitment of teamwork and trust. When you are out with your friends, you have to make sure that everyone succeeds as much as possible. No one is your enemy and there is no competition. In the end, it’s all about having fun and providing the best experience for each other. It’s about having a strategy and being in sync. It’s important to always be on the same page with your wingman. It’s also just as important to just go with the flow if things go unplanned.

The breakdown is pretty simple. One guy approaches a group of women. He opens them up, introduces himself and starts demonstrating higher value (DHV). When that is accomplished and there is compliance, then the guy can start DHVing his wing, eventually leading to an accomplishment introduction. This is where being good friends work because you already know how awesome your friend is and what makes him stand out. After the second guy comes in, the wing (being the first guy), then fends off or befriends any obstacles while the second guy tries to build attraction with the woman that he is interested in. Got it? Good.

So tonight’s challenge is to demonstrate good wingman ethics and end up with not only a kiss-close but a makeout-close. Considering that none of these guys have even kissed anyone on this show, I had low expectations on how this will turn out. Boy was I wrong.

[For my comment about Matador’s sleeveless shirt, see my opinion three paragraphs up.]

Let me say that both groups did an amazing job! It was exciting to see these guys open a group of women, properly DHV themselves and their respective wingman, introduce their friend, allowing them to isolate, and escalate touch with their woman of interest, leading to a kiss-close. Unfortunately, one person did not get a makeout session – Rian. The sad part is that he had a chance to make out with two girls and he didn’t take the risk. It just goes back to episode one when that woman opened up Alex about his chain. He did nothing. And when you get opportunities like that, you have to jump on it. Like, I always say, “you gotta want it.”

So after seeing that, I knew Matt and Simeon were going to win and Rian was going to get eliminated. But I will acknowledge that if you can get a chance, watch how Matt and Simeon executed this challenge. They looked like they were rockstars and played the part so well. If you want a night like that, I would pay close attention to what they do.

Since you know how it played out and Rian got the boot, this week’s medallion was the Dagaz, which symbolizes clarity and breakthrough. You can read all about it here! I actually have this medallion! It’s my favorite because it symbolizes everything I preach – breaking through.

And with Rian’s final breakdown (6) that concludes this episode. Now, I am really excited for next week’s episode!

The clear favorite right now is Simeon, only because he has no fear whatsoever and that is what may set him a part from the other two, better-looking guys.

You guys have any wingman stories? Do you think we should establish an official wingman Code of Ethics?

Church Tells Members to Have Sex for 7 Days

I just got back from the cafeteria at work to grab a hot chocolate when I came across someone talking about sex on CNN. Clearly, my interest was drawn.

Apparently, there is a church telling their members to go home and have sex for 7 straight days! I couldn't believe it, but then again...there have been worse - if you want to call having sex for 7 straight days a bad thing to begin with.

Well, I had to rush back to my office and find the article online to share with everyone! So here it is, a post on First Coast News by Gary Detman:

Here is the video footage!

DALLAS -- Beginning next weekend, Fellowship Church, a Dallas based mega church with over 20,000 people in attendance, continues a controversial teaching seminar called "Leaving Lust Vegas" that skates the razor-thin line between lust, sex, marriage and family.

And now Pastor Ed Young heightens the controversy with an unprecedented challenge to married couples: Have Seven Days of Sex beginning Nov. 16.

"We want to turn whining into whoopi!" said Young. "With the current financial crises, moral debates on marriage, growing divorce rates, and rampant marital infidelity, marriages and families are under siege; there is a lot of whining going on."

Young is best known for his creative teaching style, dynamic leadership methods and no-holds-barred approach to topics that relate to today such as money, relationships, politics and sex.

"We want married people to see their bedroom for what it is - a magnet of stability, something that draws them away from the dangerous pull of lust that derails so many couples. We want couples to intentionally walk, even run, toward the marriage bed and away from sin city," said Young. "By experiencing a sexual relationship the way God intended it, we hope couples will begin to see things with greater clarity. I often say, 'so goes marriage, so goes the family. And ultimately, so goes our decisions and choices in this uncertain world.' I know it is radical, but it's all about building stronger marriages."

Understanding Why My Hair Attracts Women

A few weeks ago, I promised an article about easy lock-in props that you can use all the time. Well the truth is I didn’t know what a lock-in prop was until I became aware of the attention my chain gave me a few years ago.

For those who aren’t in the know about lock-in props, these things are what you wear to get positive attention – and eventually attraction – with a woman. Using these things as a part of your outfit is called peacocking (trust me, you won’t need to remember that, I just thought I’d share). I think there are two different kinds of lock-in props: Removable and Natural.

Removable Lock-in Props

Remember growing up in elementary school when your mom got you that really cool hologram watch? You have to know what I’m talking about. My mother got me an X-Men (Wolverine) hologram watch – I asked for Spider-Man, but whatever. It was a hologram watch! I didn’t care. It was the coolest thing in the world and I had one! Of course, I couldn’t wait to go to school to show it off to all of my friends – who thought I was the man for having one, and impress the schoolgirls with my really cool watch – because that’s what I would do: Impress girls with my watch (I was such a dweeb back then – not much has changed). I even remember the line I gave my elementary school crush.

Me: “Hey, do you know what time it is?”

Girl: “No.”

Me: “Do you wanna know?”

Girl. “Not really.”

Me (ignoring what she said, and while showing off my watch): “Well, in case you may wanna know when I leave, it’s 9:45.”

She laughed at me and told me to get lost but then she didn’t realize what I had until I walked away, defeated and my tail between my legs. Later on that day, she came over and wanted to check it out. Obviously, nothing happened, but it was a HUGE deal for me because I got my crush, who ignored me all those years, to finally say something to me, even if it was about my watch!

You don’t realize it but the same exact thing applies today, even though we are so much older. People love to see cool things and talk to you about them. I shit you not, if you wore that same hologram watch and went out, I bet you would get a lot of attention from it. But you just have to keep in mind, “who are the people you want attention from?” So wear that watch with caution. But anyway…

Growing up, I had a gold chain that my mother gave and I had a piece on it that had that familiar sleeping moon icon. Had no idea what it meant but I wore it everyday (because I love my mum) and apparently women loved it when they saw it! Women would always approach me, reaching for the moon and asking what it meant. All I would say was, “my mother gave it to me.” I never paid any attention to what all this attention meant until when I learned about lock-in props. At that point, I had another chain that had an infinity symbol – that I wore everyday instead of the moon – and that drew a lot of attraction because there was actually deeper meaning behind the infinity symbol. There are times when I used to take it off and put in around a girl’s neck to wear it for some time during the night (the actual point of lock-in). I don’t do that anymore but if you have something (hat, scarf, camera, wristband, chain, sunglasses, jacket, whatever) that is interesting and women approach you to ask you about it, chances are they are attracted to you. If they reach and try to touch it, they are definitely attracted to you. Then, you can use that item to "lock" them in, solidifying her attraction to you and vice-versa.

And just as a disclaimer, don’t worry about the guys that try to badmouth you about what you got on. Remember those guys in school that thought your hologram watch wasn’t cool but was jealous that you had one and cried to their mother when they got home to get them one too? Yeah, they are the same guys. Nothing has changed.

Natural Lock-in Prop

Well, this one is tricky because this kind of item is something that can’t necessarily be removed from your body. Examples of natural lock-in props would be tattoos, piercings, and hair. I personally have funky hair and I get talked to about it all the time. I like it because my hair stands out from most people. But you can use these things to create attraction and although you can’t take them off and give it to them, it is undeniable that they can not forget you based on that instant connection you two just made.

But when it comes to something “extra” like this, you don’t need to have it. I love the way my hair is so I keep it. I don’t care what others say. Some people say they hate it but what difference do it make to me? I also rarely show my chain anymore because I’ve been used to keeping it under my shirt because I wear shirts and ties a lot during the week.

So although, you don’t need to have it, it certainly would help and it does give you more chances of getting approached. And who doesn’t want to be approached by an attractive woman? Think of it as giving them an easy excuse for them to talk to you. I don’t see any problem with that. You get bonus points if said item actually means something to you.

What are some lock-in props you like to use? Do you use any at all? How do you feel about these things? Do they think they help or are detrimental to your chances with women?

Understand the Power of Hypnosis and How it Can Build Your Confidence

I got the chance to see this week's episode of the Men's Room. Luke Chao is the guest and he is a very knowledgeable man when it comes to hypnosis and reframing your thinking. He teaches so very powerful things that you can teach yourself right here, right now.

Let me tell you something. It may sound ridiculous what he's saying but when I decided that I wanted to do this, I only realize it now that this reframing and "self-hypnosis" was what I was doing to myself to transform myself internally to who I really wanted to be.

This is worth a listen. Otherwise, I wouldn't dare put this on my site.

Stop. Drop. Roll. The Principles of Success

No, this is not an instructional post about fire safety. But I will use the same principles to apply to dating, meeting people and life in general.

Living in such a fast-paced world, we get caught up so much in out lives that we never really take the time to slow down and enjoy the moment. Basically, our day lives are so jam-packed with duties, responsibilities that are time-sensitive that we carry that time-first mindset into our night lives. Clearly this can be read as not being able to loosen up in a more relaxed environment and lower your perceived value to people. I know that you are loosey-goosey and you want to try to show it to people when you’re out in social environments. But why does it have to stay in your night life? Why not use this all the time? So, I say, stop, drop and roll.

Stop. Whenever you feel as though things are just going way too fast, just stop everything. Take a second to reflect and catch up and get yourself together. There is nothing wrong with slowing things down and managing things in your time. It is your life. You’re allowed to do whatever you want with it. That includes simple things like slowing down your walk, your speech, general hand gestures, and other things. After a while, you’ll notice that the world around you will slow down too, allowing you to be better at making clearer decisions and leaving less of a chance for hiccups.

Drop. When you are out there, it’s ok to drop your guard. No one is out to attack you. No one knows you, really (except for your friends and you don't have your guard up for them, right?) And who knows what would happen if you open your self up to people. Every minute that goes on in your life you have the chance to make a connection with someone and potentially change either her (or his) life…or your own. In such a competitive world, it’s so natural to always be trying to get a leg up on someone else for your own success. Well in the bar, no one is trying to get a leg up on anyone else, so you don’t have to worry about that. Allow yourself to be a little vulnerable. People like that and will respond to that.

Roll. This is my favorite. When you are out there doing whatever it is that you do, just roll with it. Life is so much fun and if you just allow yourself to roll with where is goes (while still being within control, of course) you are going to open yourself up to so many opportunities. Whether it’s meeting women, making business deals, working at your job or just living life, it’s all about, going with the flow, rolling with the punches and just rolling with “it.”

I always use these principles when things may get a little overwhelming for me. It’s important to stop to collect yourself, open yourself to opportunities and just roll with it.

Ok, now I can contiinue my day peace, knowing that may have helped someone.

A Great Shirt and Tie Guide - Now You Have No Excuse

 

Wow, I can’t believe that it’s Thursday already. This week is flying by and I have so much to do to prepare for Podcast Infinity. Should be awesome! But anyway, on my day off from work, I have had a chance to catch up on a few shows.

Speaking of which, November has been a great media month so far. With great video games, TV shows and movies (well, movie – Quantum of Solace) coming out, it’s going to be hard to find free time to do anything else.

One of the shows I got to catch up on was Entourage. One of the scenes that stood out was when Ari had to convince Barbara to meet with his buddy Andrew Klein. In his success, Ari and Lloyd go and give Andrew a makeover to improve his appearance. He came out looking good.

I love sharing cool ways to help people improve their look and I came across one a couple days ago. It’s from Express (my current favorite store) and it’s called the Shirt & Tie Guide.

It’s pretty simple. It’s divided into three parts.

The Perfect Combination. Here, you get to choose different types of shirts and what kinds of ties will work. This is key for me because I never tried mixing striped shirts with striped ties and now, I know what to do. It’s a must-see.

Pick Your Fit. You get to check out the different types of shirts Express has: Modern Fit, Fitted and Premium. All of their shirts are great and they have awesome deals going on all the time.

What Knot to Wear. Like my previous post about the different ways to tie a tie, this one shows four different types of knots: Four-in-Hand, Half-Windsor, Windsor and Bow Tie.

Good stuff going on here, so I don’t expect anyone to have an excuse for why they can put themselves together. Take some risks and see what happens. And as always, if you actually go to an Express Men store, never be afraid to ask for help. They will hook you up.

Back in the Men's Room

 

A few weeks ago, I wrote about a new Internet show called the Men’s Room, hosted by Mark Sparks. I hace been following it week by week and it's so good that I really have to share some of this stuff with you.

Watch this episode above about Adrian Biccum. He talks about how learning to be a man will make you better with women and define your purpose in life. Watching this episode has taught me a lot about some of the things I had to go through (and still am) and how masculinity issues are what prevents a lot of us from really enjoying our lives.

A few other things he talks about are handling relationships once you're in them and handling breakups. Sometimes breakups do not have to be terrible and there is a lot of learn from the people that you were with.

I'll be the first to say that I learned so much about myself and what I needed to do to change my life from my last girlfriend. I will never foret these things and I'll never forget how she changed my life for the better.

You can also check the Men's Room website here if you want to see more videos. If I see other episodes worth posting here, better believe you’ll catch it here.