New Marketing Summit @ Gillette Stadium Update

So after a much needed lunch (although there didn't seem to be enough food), I am quickly reporting an update from the New Marketing Summit. There have been some great people going up on stage and talking about social media marketing.

One person in particular being Freddie Laker, who seems to have the skinny on the future of Social Media. That gets me excited.

There was also a quick demo if the Burn Facebook App, which sparked tons of ideas from me.

Like I said, there will be photos and videos coming but toward the end.

Oh, Chris Brogan is talking! Gotta run...

New Marketing Summit @ Gillette Stadium

So I am at the New Marketing Summit at Gillette Stadium and this is incredible. Besides the fact that this is my first time at the Patriots House, what I am seeing here is incredible. I got to meet Chris Brogan (@chrisbrogan) within minutes of getting here! I got to sit front row and listen to some of the coolest people talk about how to make my brand better and more! I got to see some very cool videos as well, which I will post later on.

I have been recording for most of the time here and plan on continuing that trend. I will post throughout the day with tons of news and material so stay tuned!

Now, I must go socialize and hang out with people!

The Pick Up Artist Episode 1: Review

Well, it’s finally back. After having to wait over a year for the long-awaited second season, it’s here. This actually was the show that gave me so much momentum in my decision to better myself, besides Scott Baio and Rock of Love. I still find it weird that these shows made the difference for me, but there was a lot going on in each of these shows that I felt were very important to understand in order to better me.

I have been holding back comments because I was able to see the whole episode about two days before the premiere. For some reason, through my research on the web, I’m able to come across a lot of information that very few people find until it hits the mainstream. But anyway, now that it’s Monday and people have seen it, I’d like to talk about a few things.

It also helps that I have the episode DVR’d and can really do a bunch of critical instant replays that are worth noting.

Having read Mystery’s book, it’s funny to see how they portray his life story of “lovable loser” to “alpha seducer.” I mean, it is true, but Mystery hasn’t changed much. Yeah, he learned a system of how to meet and attract women that revolutionized the game. I mean, come on, if you are interested in meeting and attracting women, then you have heard of Mystery. There’s no avoiding it. But, in the end it’s a system and he’s still the same person at heart, but with peacocking gear and routines for a lifetime. I truly believe it. But it will still be interesting to see if his game can still work in a world where he and his routines are more known.

One thing to note is when you see him take off his gear when he goes into the bar, you realize that it’s just him (I would also note that Matador didn’t take off his gear). I wouldn’t consider it hiding behind an avatar. What he does so well is emphasizing what’s great about him, ignoring what isn’t so great about him, and creating a sense of suspense and mystery (no pun intended) which is what to do if you want to attract a woman initially.

But anyway, I digress. When I saw the scene with all of those ladies hanging out at the pool, my first thought was, “I want that.” Nope, I wasn’t talking about the women. There was so much more going on there. Owning a place like that, being able to invite people over and most importantly, being able to share these things with others. The fact that Mystery gets to help change these guys lives is something special. Yeah, it may be a reality show, but their lives will forever be different. Well, maybe Alex’s will be the same. But teaching others is something that I aspire to do sometime soon.

I’m not sure how Tara is supposed to be a step up from J-Dog. Yeah, J-Dog had no personality but just because Tara is a woman doesn’t make her more marketable. I actually don’t even think she’s as hot as others think. She seems genuine but it doesn’t work well with the alpha nature of Mystery and Matador. In fact, it seems a little awkward and doesn't make her look good at all. Speaking of which, Matador looks like he’s on steroids. But I’ll give him some props for “upgrading” his look with...wait, I take that back - no props. Unfortunately, the only thing I like about him is his “alpha” presence. If there’s anything you could learn from him, it’s his “alpha” nature – his posture, voice, confidence and overall swagger.

So, the guys are pretty much your typical average frustrated chumps. A few are virgins, some haven’t kissed a girl before, some could be gay and others are doomed to the friend zone. There are a few front-runners and some who should have been cut right alongside Alex.

Todd seems like he can do pretty well if he just wasn’t so open to being the emotional outlet - grounds for friend zone. He has the necessary looks and energy to draw women and I’m sure he’s interesting BUT he’s missing that one thing that will make him attractive. I think he’ll find it really soon. But for now, he is the emotional outlet.

Rian is the next Prahdeep. I can already tell he’s going to be an ass to the rest of the group and cause hell. But we’ll see. Even Prahdeep was good enough to understand the game and play well. I don’t think Rian has that ability.

Simeon is just too hyperactive. Too much energy can destroy a set because he comes off as creepy and too try hard. If he tones it down, he’ll be pretty cool. That “boat game” he has will be awesome for him in the future.

Carl looks like he’s going to be a superstar. He reminds me of someone I know. Plus, I have a soft heart for cheaters so I’m definitely pulling for him. Any guy that is great but gets taken advantage of because he’s not in the know, is someone that I pull for automatically. I want them to realize their potential and prove to everyone that looked past them or treated them poorly how big of a mistake they made. But I guess I see a little bit of myself in them too. Plus, that gap in his teeth and the Austin Powers hair are priceless.

Greg is that nerd we all love. He’s cool but just needs to get out of his shell - and a makeover. It’ll take him about 2 episodes before he gets a kiss close.

Bryan is that goof ball that I talked about in one of my previous post. He has potential (and it’s cool that they have a couple Asians on here) but something about him is throwing me off. Once he learns to relax, get comfortable in his skin and enjoy the moment, I think he'll do well.

Kevin looks like he could win this. He seems to be pretty well rounded but is just missing that “thing” that takes him to the top. He is definitely someone I would pay attention to throughout this season.

Alex was DOA. I can’t believe VH1 dared to put this guy on. I don’t blame Mystery for booting him before the season starts. Any more time on him would have been a waste. This will come off as mean but listen. Alex would have required more work than all of them combined. From mannerisms to speech to body to everything – it just wouldn’t have been worth the effort. Maybe for personal or 1-to-1 training, but not for a reality show. Best of luck to Alex.

I think what all of these guys are missing from what I saw are just things to say that are interesting. Routines and such will solve those issues. We’ll see how well they learn next week. But there is a lesson to be learned in this episode:

Creating an Avatar.

Dictionary definition: an incarnation, embodiment, or manifestation of a person or idea.

Take a look at yourself in the mirror and look deep within yourself. Close your eyes and find every great (not just good) thing about yourself. Store all of those things in a box that represents your soul. Now once you have all those great things in that box. I want you feel your body implode. Start feeling your body and mind get sucked into this box. Soon, you’ll realize that there’s nothing left but this box and somehow you got sucked in with it. Now imagine this box exploding. Think of all of those great things just exploding out of this box. Such fire, such passion, such flare, such power are all coming out of this box. Think of the clothes that represent that power. Think of the attitude, the mindset, the posture, the walk that represents all of these great things about you. Now open your eyes.

That first image you see of yourself when you first open your eyes in front of that mirror will be your avatar. Go with it!

I won’t repeat myself here. I have an entire series that’s on going about how to improve your look from head to toe. Here is my article about your head and the other about your upper body. The lower body will be coming by the end of the week.

Anyway, the makeovers that the guys did were pretty good. They seemed a little tame compared to the last season and some of the fashion trends seemed out of date. The vests? Don’t make me laugh. There is one guy that I know that can rock a vest like it’s still in fashion and it’s not Matador. But we’ll see how their outfits improve over the course of the season. I’m sure it’ll get better.

Some pretty fun parts:

Kevin’s comment about the swamp ass.

The 40-year-old virgin scene with Matt. It just reminded me how funny that movie was. Not how funny that scene was.

The “cool enough” comment Matador made. There was just something about it that reminded me of a comment I made similar to that drawing the same reaction. A comment like that is killer if you can pull it off well.

I am already excited about next week. I’ll keep doing this every Monday night. Feel free to post your own comments about the show or about my comments here.

The one thing about Mystery that I will always remember is what he always says:

“It’s not just about picking up women. It’s about building a life.”

In a Video for Text 2 Land Technology and Perkett PR

So, I've always had this small dream of being in a video that a considerable amount of people would get to see. Don't know why, but I just like to do things like that - I think it's fun.

Last week, my dream finally came true. Thanks to Christine Major (Twitter @CMajor) and Jeff Glasson (Twitter @jeffglasson), a couple of my friends and I participated in a video promoting this "new" thing called, "Text to Landline."

If you haven't realized this already most wireless carriers will allow you to send a text message to your house phone. It's pretty cool. I won't spill the details because all of it is explained in the video. So take a look, enjoy and leave comments if you want.

You can see it on YouTube here.

The Transformation Part 2 - Upper Body

So this is a continuation of my series about doing the total transformation “from head to toe.” You can check the first part, the head, here. So let’s get back into it!

The thing about the upper body is that like the head, it’s going to be one of the more prominent things that someone will notice about you. He looks muscular/in-shape. Does he workout? Is he wearing a nice shirt/jacket? What does his chain say? It looks interesting. That watch is cool – I wonder where he got that?

These are just some of the questions that people will think about when they see you walking down the street or into a room. Of course, you want them to ask these things in a good way. Hell, maybe you'd like them to actually approach and talk to you. Well here are some tips that can get you to looking your best.

Before I go into clothing and accessories, one thing is universal. You must involve yourself in some type of physical activity. Workout, play basketball, go running, anything. In order to look healthy, you must make the effort to actually be healthy. I am not talking about changing your entire nutrition and start eating only vegetables and fruits. I mean, eating some can help but that’s not the point. We all have these excuses about why we can’t do something. Get that out of your head and make a game plan of some sort. If you’re looking to lose weight, then go running, eat better food and do some stretching and exercises. If you’re looking to gain weight (mostly muscle), eat “power” foods, lift weights, do some running and lift more weights. If you like how you look, then you already know what you did to get you there. Just commit to yourself to maintain your look. Theirs is nothing less attractive than a man who cannot take care of himself. Even worse if he can’t maintain his look.

After you get that part under your belt, you should determine what body style you have and adapt your clothing to that. There are three pretty general body types that you could categorize yourself under: Muscular, Heavier and Trim. Of course there are in-betweens but if you look more like one than the other, you should just stick to that category. You either do that or workout your way into the category that you want.

Let me just preface again by saying I am not an expert but will help you with what I know. If anyone has anything to contribute, please be my guest to add comments.

Muscular – if you have a more muscular upper body, clearly you can opt to show it off or hide it and leave it as a surprise for the ladies later on. Either way, you’re going to want to do it right. For muscular guys you are going to want clothing that fits you on the tighter side, I’m not talking Under Armour here. But because you have the muscular build, your body will fill out the shirts much more, accentuating your body. If you wear bigger clothes you’re body is going to get washed out and you’ll look like you’re literally swimming in your shirts.

T-Shirts and Graphic Tees will be your best friend because you can pull it off the best. If you’re looking for some good tees, check out PleaseDressMe. It’s a great search engine for any kind of tee you want. Guaranteed, you’ll find something there.

For great button downs, there are plenty of places you can go. AskMen.com has some great reviews on some trendy button-downs. In fact, here's a good article that I think is worth looking at. I personally have been going to Express Men and they have some great shirts that can look good on almost anyone.

You also have the luxury of wearing tight-fitting shirts. Sometimes when done the wrong way, it can look pretty stupid so if you are jacked, don’t wear a shirt two sizes too small. You’ll look like my buddy at Halloween when he wore a Spider-Man costume – in Medium (Child). You have to realize that it’s not attractive. But on the same note, having a tighter-fitting shirt that looks like you didn’t have help putting it on makes you look good. If you’re going to do that, it would be preferable to wear darker colors.

Trim – if you are a lean guy then you can pull of some of the best outfits out there, in my opinion. There are so many options and looks for you that you can’t really go wrong with many of them. Normally I wouldn’t suggest wearing slim-fitting clothing but I’ve been really thinking that it actually looks good for some people. I wouldn’t go Under Armour tight but slim fit is the way to be. Shirts, tee and button downs – slim fit. But the thing is, you almost have to wear things that are slim because anything bigger and you’ll easily look like you’re swimming. American Eagle, Gap, J.Crew, Urban Outfitters and again, PleaseDressMe are great places to check out for great looking slim fit tops.

Heavier – If you are a heavier guy, you’re going to want to stay away from slim fit and tight fitting anything AT ALL COSTS! Since I am not a bigger guy, I wouldn’t know what really works but I do know that for some of my uncles who are ridiculously tall, Casual Male is their store of choice.

Now for accessories, wouldn't recommend going out, trying to look like Mystery (a great PUA and a pioneer at that - much respect), with the big top hat and goggles, the rings, the boa and all that stuff – I feel like only HE can pull it off and it works for him - exceptionally well. Just find some cool things that you’d like to wear. And it just doesn’t include those things. It includes things that you would actually be interested in, like watches, sport coats, jackets, sunglasses and those things that you might find everyday use in. I’ll briefly break it down for you.

For watches, if you can afford it, have two watches. One to wear during the day and one to rock out at night. If you can afford a third, make that third a very special one that you pull out for VERY special events.

For chains or necklaces, find one and stick with it. Wear it all the time. Find one that associates you will your identity. Mine is a silver pendant with the infinity symbol engraved on it. People grab it all the time and it’s a nice center focus to your chest. If you can find meaning in a piece of jewelry, you already have a conversation and a bigger chance of connection with whom you’re talking to.

Sport jackets and coats are givens. Have a few of each and in a variety of colors. I would probably go with a black, a navy and a more outstand color like white or a more reserved like brown. Same thing goes for coats. Go for a pea coat, a leather jacket and something crazy like a suede jacket or a cashmere pullover. With these items, you want to use them to encourage people touching you. You’ll be surprised how many people love touching things – just an excuse to touch you.

As for hats, wristbands, rings and all that, you are going to want to keep that stuff to a minimum. I would personally leave it to just one accessory per limb. But if you think you can pull it off, then by all means go for it. Find out what works for you.

Now, I am going to be honest. Because of my lack of knowledge with fashion, I found it perfectly acceptable to ask people who work in the stores you shop in to help you out. They will give you honest opinions and make you look good. And when you try clothes on, go out of the dressing room and ask people what they think about your clothes. They’ll give you honest opinions. These are the kinds of random people you are going to meet anyway so why not see what kind of first impression you give?

This is all for the best and making you look for best. In the next installment, we are going to do the lower body and figure out what kinds of stuff you should get.

Potential has no limit.

Honey and Lance's Virgin Roundup

Over the course of a couple of weeks, a large group of bloggers have posted articles about virginity. This has sparked some talk recently over hearing news about women selling their virginity and other discussions about how the "virgin" is lost and virginity is not only rare but no longer "a big deal." These are some great articles - so much so that I am re-posting Lance's post, giving links to all of the articles. I hope you can check it out and post your comments.

There will be more roundtables to come so stay tuned!

That’s right, our virgin roundtable kicked friggin’ ass. Big props to all the bloggers who participated, you people rock. For this edition of The Weekly I’ll list all of the posts that were submitted for the roundtable and also give a brief summary. We’ve got an awesome range of perspectives, from single mothers to pickup artists to peeps who just recently lost their vcards. Link love and pagerank to all.

Hammer - Blogger Roundtable: Virginity - Hammer is a 22-year-old social artist living and working in New York City. He’s sharp as a tack, specializes in online game, and writes good stuff. Since we attended the TSBMag Mansformation Retreat, he’s my new homeboy.

Matt Savage - The Dilemmas Of Male Virgins - Matt Savage pens The Modern Savage blog. He’s a seduction artist and lost his virginity at age 27, so his perspective is perfect for this topic. In this post he talks about the conundrums of being a male virgin.

Beauty of the Year - Virgin Vendetta - “Lisa” write this blog about family, sex, friends, happiness, and rage. She lost her virginity at age 17, she’s glad she did, and thinks everyone should ditch their vcards in their teenage years. She also has sex with married men and waxs poetic about the simplicity of these relationships. Obviously, you’ll want to stop by this one!

Effy - Why Wait? An argument against saving yourself - Effy is a 27-year-old social artist who also happens to be a South Carolina Gamecocks fan. You poor bastard. Seriously, I follow ‘Cocks football because you have my old football coach, Steve Spurrier. They always find a way to fuck up big games. Go SEC, though! Effy gives a compelling argument against saving the vcard for marriage. His perspective comes from someone who lives in the Bible Belt and he sees a lot of couples getting married way too young.

Hot Alpha Female - Let’s Talk About Sex…Baby - From one of my fav Aussie Bloggers, sex kitten attraction specialist HAF has one word for all virgin bashers: RESPECT. Also, her post has a picture of me as a kid…where did you find that??

Evil Woobie - Why is Virginity a Big Deal Among Filippinos? - Evil Woobie is a terrific blogger in the Philippines who writes about sex, dating, and astrology. Check out her post where she ponders why (or why not) Filippino men value virgins.

Project Infinity - The More “Touchy” Part of Dating: Sex & Virgins - Infinity is 23-year-old pickup artist who also blogs about fashion, lifestyle, and dating. In this post, he talks about the special connection you make with your partner after the first time and how sex gives you confidence. He also ponders the notion if a GUY could sell his virginity, a la Natalie Dylan.

The Quest for T - Virginity: A Girl and a Mom’s perspective - T is a single mother who offers her perspective on losing her own virginity and how she would handle the issue when talking with her two young daughters. She’s also big into masturbating, so I give her props for that!

Lisaq - The Value of Virginity - Lisaq gives a very honest perspective on losing one’s virginity at age 15 in 1977, and she argues for holding onto virginity until the right person and the right circumstances come along. Lisaq is one of the co-authors of the 20-forty.com.

Kira - Losing Your V-Card: Big Deal or Big Whoop? - Kira offers her losing-virginity story, which by her own admissions was a disaster. Check it out and also read about her views on when is the right time to do it.

Bobby Rio - Virgins For Sale - One of my homeboys at tsbmag.com writes about how taking a girl’s vcard gets you admission past the guarded gates…for life!

Holly Hoffman - How my mom helped me lose my v-card - Holly talks about her how sex affected her relationship with her big sister and her mom, and also how she deflowered her FIRST THREE BOYFRIENDS. Obviously, you’ll want to read this one.

Single Mom Seeking - Why I’m aspiring to be a virgin again - Rachel Sarah is a 36-year-old single mom who offers the single mom’s perspective on sex and vcards. She wants to be a virgin again! Seriously, she writes a good post, so stop by.

I Date White - The Brotha Virgin - Eathan from idatewhite.com gives his own hilarious twist on the topic of virginity, here he talks about how white women are “brotha virgins,” that is, they’ve never been with a black man. You know what they say, once you go black, you can’t go back.

Dad’s House - Virginity? It’s So Overrated - David Mott is a single dad and he says that virginity is majorly overrated, and he tells you what great sex is.

My Secret Hobby - Virginity, what’s the deal? - One of my favorite new bloggers, Kiera is a self-proclaimed “cockwhore” and her blog tagline is “The Pursuit Of Cock.” Shit, what’s not to like, eh? She’s been an un-virgin for less than a year, so her perspective is pretty cool. Since The Dateable Dork (can we still have sex??) exploded her blog, Kiera might be the next hottie-sex blogger around these parts.

The American Virgin - Let’s Talk Virgins - This whole site is about virgins, and in fact, they’re making a documentary about it! Stop on by.

New World Yankee - You Dragged A Rampaging Virgin Out Of Me! - Yankee is an female medical student studying in Hungary. Here, she gets her rant on about all things virgin.

The Virgin - Roundtable: Virginity - And of course we couldn’t hold a roundtable on this topic without getting The Virgin to participate, despite the fact that he just popped his sacred cherry and he’s now on blogging vacay.

Here are the posts from Honey and Lance. Again, thanks to everyone who participated. May your Alexa rank decrease and may you get on the frontpage of Google every time!!

The Four Pillars of the Male Mind - Part 2

This is the second part of my article, The Four Pillars of the Male Mind. You can see the first part here. As you know, the first two pillars were the Asshole and the Artist. If you can connect or pinpoint some of the characteristics that make them attractive then you are well on your way.

Let’s get right into it. Here are the last two pillars of the male mind.

Pillar Three – the Shy Goofball


We are all goofballs at heart. Sometimes, we can be the most awkward person ever. And I mean, stick us in a situation we’ve never been in before, and we will just burn in a blaze of glory. These guys are awesome because out of all the pillars, this one is the most genuine. You can’t fake shyness and being awkward. Maybe you can fake shyness, but you can’t fake awkwardness. You could create awkward situations but this is different. I am talking as typical as being that kid in high school, carrying a girl’s books down the hall and tripping over yourself, books flying everywhere and you blush as you look up at her from the ground. Yeah, that kind of goofy and awkward.

You want to know why women love that kind of guy? It’s pretty simple. Because they are REAL. There is a sense of vulnerability that the awkward goof has that women do find attractive. The perfect example: Steve Urkel. He was the definition of the shy goof.

If you’re this person at heart, it’s cool, man. We get so caught up in this world where we think we need to be a certain person that’s cool and smooth. And although this article may seem like it’s not helping, what I want you to do is keep your natural attributes (where you are great), while adding some things to help your speech, body language and appearance. You’re as real as it gets, so you’re pretty much set, which is awesome. All you got to do is get yourself more out there, which is where the shy part comes in and stops you. We will work on that, I promise.

When I was in high school, I was a total goof. I wasn’t the popular one, but I was ok with that. Eventually, I realized that there is someone out there that will love me, just like how I am (not that I was confident enough to go out and find her). And then, I found the most amazing person in high school and we dated for a very long time and to this day, we are great friends.

So, if your sticking point is the fact that you don’t think you’ll be liked, work on getting that out of your head. I’m sure there is a dating site out there that is dedicated to finding shy and awkward people. If you find it, look and see how many people are there available for you. Chances are it won’t be in the single digits so you must know that there are tons out there, waiting for you to fall in front of them (often, literally).

Pillar Four – the Hopeless Romantic


Everyone sees this person as the “nice guy.” He’s that guy that we all claim to be and complain that we can’t get the girl. Or if we can get the girl, we complain that we can’t keep the girl because, “we’re too nice.” Or we’ll get the “it’s not you, it’s me.” This guy is so sweet, sensitive and caring, who would pass up on him? Seems like everyone. He’s a pretty good-looking guy that takes care of himself and is a man of integrity. He is so nice to women that it alone can sweep them off of their feet (initially). Unfortunately, this is the same kind of guy that claims to get screwed over the most.

Sometimes, we can’t help it. You like someone enough you want to show that you are the sweetest, most romantic person ever. You want to do everything for her and accommodate her every wish. You’ll even make sacrifices for her. Whatever happens in your life doesn’t matter. It’s all about her. You'll do whatever it takes to make her happy - even if it means making yourself miserable. See where I’m going with this? Are you starting to feel uncomfortable as you read this? You’re supposed to. It’s not natural. We’re not really supposed to be doing those last few things (maybe if you’re in a committed relationship, such as marriage). But we do them anyway. We can’t help it. We love the girl too damn much. But, in essence it’s overwhelming and I personally can’t blame any woman for running away from it.

You know the great thing about being nice is, though? We can all still be the nice guys. But let her see all of those great attributes in little tidbits. She’s had access to about 1000 times more men than you’ve had access to women. I’m pretty confident that she can figure out who’s a nice guy or not. If she wanted things done for her, she could easily go out and get a wuss. Every guy is going to treat their lady well - they know that. But it's what else you being to the relationship and how you do those nice things that make the difference. By doing this (sparingly), you will realize that she will appreciate you more and be less likely to take you for granted (that usually happens when she can figure out when or if you’re going to do something nice for her). Women reading this might get upset because of what I just said – and that’s fine. They can defend themselves in the comments. But understand this. If women already know what they’re going to get (aka, see you as predictable), they will be bored (with the relationship – not you) very quickly – unless they are looking for marriage. So, make it interesting and do things so that your relationship always has that hint of unpredictability.

In the end, it’s important to know that if one of these pillars doesn’t dominate your personality, that doesn’t mean that you need to change your life to tailor to a particular pillar (unless you want to). But know that you possess these attributes and they’re somewhere in that head of yours, dying to come out. You just need to look at the attributes each pillar has and find a way to integrate it into your own special DNA. It’s who you are that’s important…it really is – don’t forget it. But in order to get the chance to get women to know you, you have to display these initial attractive qualities that I think every male possesses. Just a matter of finding them and bringing them out. Good luck, guys.

As always, if you have any questions or comments, post them here or email me.

Great News and Fun Times Ahead!

So now that I am fully recovered from my accident, I am ready to go forward and start having fun with this site.

There will be new additions to the site and they will be awesome! They will be geared to educate you in specific aspects of lifestyle and confidence - specifically with talking to women. I, fortunately will have help with these sections so it should be a good time. I can't wait to help you guys get better in these aspects of your life. I'm really excited! Look out for these great additions over the course of the weekend.

If you have any comments or would like to contribute to the site, send all inquiries to infinity@recklessstudio.com

Oh, also in other news...I am going to be in a promotional video! Details AND the video coming as soon as it can be legally released!!!

The Four Pillars of the Male Mind - Part 1

I have been watching a show that was on TV (but I never heard of it) and watched its entire series (2 Seasons) on YouTube. The show’s called Keys to the VIP: The Professional League for Players. The show’s premise is pretty simple.

Stick two guys in a bar with hidden cameras and they have to accomplish certain “goals” based on three different challenges. For example, one challenge is called Speed Dial. In this challenge, each guy has to try to get a woman’s number within a minute. After 3 challenges, the winner gets a night of bottle service at a nightclub in the city (haven’t figured out what city, yet). How are the winners determined?

Four guys review the challenges and provide color commentary and analysis of each player’s performance. These four guys are supposed to represent the corners of the male psyche. I prefer not to call it corners because there is a sense of restriction there and I don’t think these four “corners” represent the average male. But I do agree that we all possess these qualities in some way.

Here I am going to divide this into two articles so that you can get a good grasp on each one and not overwhelm yourself with information. Maybe, you can figure out which pillar dominates your mind the most.

So without further ado, here are the first two (2) of four (4) pillars of the male mind.

Pillar One – The Asshole.

That is what everyone would generally describe this person. He is a douchebag and doesn’t care about anyone else but himself. He’ll say whatever, whenever, without any kind of filter or remorse. He has a distinct sense of humor some people can’t take. If he offends anyone, he’ll shrug it off and assume you know he’s kidding. We all know this but it can go a little deeper than that.

He would be considered a results-oriented kind of guy. He doesn’t care how the results are shown but anything less is unacceptable. He’s a decision-maker and doesn’t care if people follow. But people usually do end up following – and he knows that. That usually makes anything he does pretty deliberate. It's important to keep that in mind. He’s somewhat cold – almost cerebral. His level of shame is pretty low, but he’s does have a high level of respect for himself. It’s very rare to seem him fazed by a situation only because of his deliberate actions.

This is usually whom most guys hate because he’s the asshole that gets all the girls and yet, he acts like a total douche. What you need to realize is what’s going on around him is really what matters here.

The next time you go out, look for that guy and notice his persona. Does he seem to care? How laid-back does he look? How is he interacting with women? How is he touching them? How loud is he being right now? What is he wearing? What about him stands out?

All of these questions are important to discover what about him makes him so attractive to women. Yeah, he looks like an ass. But let me be specific on one thing. WOMEN DO NOT LIKE ASSHOLES. They clearly don’t want someone to be rude to them. If they do, chances are they may have some deeper issues. But what assholes are that you need to be is FUN, RELAXED and CAREFREE. Be a fun time – even if it is for that moment. If you can get women to enjoy your company and others see it, you just became attractive.

Attraction is exponential.

Pillar Two – the Artist

Notice those guys? Usually they have some type of artistic talent. Maybe they’re a painter or sculptor. Maybe they’re a music DJ. Architect? Web designer? Magician? Animator? A poet? Writer? Illusionist? Anything really that involves creativity is attractive. It makes him unique because not many people are able to do it and he somehow has been able to become a success from it. These guys can range from being the quiet, secret type, to the loud, social type. It depends on the profession. If he’s a DJ, a magician or anything that involves his face being in the public, he’s going to be that sociable person. I mean, it’s a part of his job. Other professions that are more “behind-the-scenes” tend to breed quieter people – but just quieter in voice. If he is creative, he will always have something to say. He provides that “outside-the-box” point of view that not many people will think about, but appreciate. He’s a natural risk taker because there is a certain risk when involved with creativity. He knows people may not agree with him, and that’s ok – he’s used to that and isn’t bothered.

With these guys, they can pretty much be pointed out by their style, what they say and how they’re saying it. There’s a certain seduction advantage these guys have just because they’re creative. I know, it may not make sense, but if you want to show a little seductive side, you should think creatively. Sounds ridiculous? Not good enough? Try this.

Slow your words down and make every word just as significant as the last. Everything you say should seem like it’s important. Help others find different perspectives to something (if they’re open to it). Artists work hard but they are very patient with what they have to do because they want it to be perfect and convey the right message. You do the same. The artist is a more difficult pillar to understand simply because, you have to have some type of creative element to your personal DNA (as in, you do one of those jobs I mentioned above). But the one thing that’s common with all artists is that they’re message is always expressed clearly.

In the next article, we will discuss the last two pillars and then figure out how you can maximize the strengths of each pillar regardless of what kind of person you are.

Stay tuned!

An Important Message

So if you have noticed, there have been only a couple new articles in the past few days. I apologize for the recent lack of articles. It has been a crazy few weeks, as I have been getting more exposure and opening myself up to new ideas and events for Project Infinity . Plus, as I am in the process of getting a promotion at my other job, my days have been long and my nights have been even longer. But this all a good thing, but I couldn’t do it without support and interest from everyone. For that, I thank you all . It means a lot and it gives me the energy to keep going.

Then, there was a point of inflection that happened to me.

This morning, as I was going to work, I was involved in a car accident. It was at that moment that, I realized that my time here on this planet would be shorter than I want it to be. Fortunately, after going to hospital, I was told I don’t have any serious injuries. I have the next two days off from work and as I lay here in bed resting with my laptop all I could think about is how much I want to continue to help people with bettering their lives and make as much of an impact in this world as possible. I plan on getting most of my rest tonight and then tomorrow, the fun begins.

That being said, I have a few announcements.

I am looking for people interested in writing posts in the following categories:

Fashion (for men)

Dating (guest posts would be awesome)

I am not particularly looking for writing experience. I am looking for passion. If you really have a passion for these kinds of things and think you could contribute something special, then e-mail me and let’s work something out.

I am also going to open up another section that I believe is important to men, but that announcement will be made later in the week.

I also am accepting feedback on content and overall look of the site as well. I want to make your experience here as awesome as possible.

Feel free to click the What’s Up? link to your left or email me directly at infinity@recklessstudio.com

Once again, I thank you all and I look forward to giving you my best.