Wednesday Wisdom: Why Boys Need "Manly" Role Models

Every Wednesday I will share a thought, message or quote that will be not only applicable in your dating life but also every other aspect of your life.

This was shared with me over Twitter and I had to make this today's piece. There are a lot of influences that attribute to why guys are having a hard time "stepping up" today. Psychologist Philip Zimbardo shares his thoughts with real data to back him up.

Instead of finding a solution, let's work as one to BE the solution through how we carry ourselves so we can be a measure to model.

Wednesday Wisdom: Become Blind To Fear

Every Wednesday I will share a thought, message or quote that will be not only applicable in your dating life but also every other aspect of your life.

This quote comes from a story of facing fears told from my perspective in a piece featured on the site revolution.is. Here's a link to the full story.

"I choose to put my focus on proving the naysayers wrong while making a difference in the world."

Make the decision to prove yourself wrong, be the person you know you can be and be THE difference in the lives of people you meet.

Tip Tuesday: How Guys Show Interest

A nice foliow up to last week's question.

Every Tuesday, we ask people from Team Wingman & Twitter what they would like me to talk about. It could be a general topic or a direct question. I’ll choose the best one and later that day, I’ll write something and give tips addressing that topic or question.

What does the man do to show he's interested? How do I know he isn't just being friendly?

It may come to a surprise -- or not -- but guys tend to act a little weird when they are interested.

They may get shy or nervous. They may smile a lot. They may even be a little sillier than normal.

Other than those things, they will typically do many of the same things I explained in last week's post. Guys will tease, compliment and be a little more touchy (poking, hugging, arm around shoulder / hips, playful pushing, etc.).

Another thing a guy will (read: should) do, is allude to a "potential future" with you. What I mean by that is he will invite you to things that are going on in his life -- or out on a date. Just because he may invite you to hang out with him and his friends, doesn't mean he's not asking you out.

While I don't think it's considered a date, it's still an opportunity to spend time with him under a low-pressure environment and still get to know him.

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Wednesday Wisdom: Facing Your Fears

Every Wednesday I will share a thought, message or quote that will be not only applicable in your dating life but also every other aspect of your life.

These are the last lines of the first Matrix movie. As you know, I'm obsessed with that movie. I used this monologue as a way to talk to my fear of approaching women. I'd suggest you find one for yourself as well. Weird or not, when you make your mental barriers physical and start addressing them using pronouns, it can help you discover ways to push through them.

"I know you're out there. I can feel you now. I know that you're afraid... you're afraid of us. You're afraid of change. I don't know the future. I didn't come here to tell you how this is going to end. I came here to tell you how it's going to begin. I'm going to hang up this phone, and then I'm going to show these people what you don't want them to see. I'm going to show them a world without you. A world without rules and controls, without borders or boundaries. A world where anything is possible. Where we go from there is a choice I leave to you."