Today is my birthday. Can you do me a favor?

No one was harmed in the popping of this bottleI am 26 today. On such a self-indulging day as a birthday, I'm going to ask for a gift from you.

Can you share one thing that I, the blog or the company has helped you with this year so far? This can be anything results-oriented like going out on a date, getting a girlfriend / boyfriend / fiancé(e), recovering from a breakup -- or it may not have anything to do with dating.

I like to give advice that can directly improve your dating life, but also can easily transfer to other areas of your life. This space allows people to "test" things out without judgment, see what the results are and shape them in ways that work for their personality. It's the true foundation on which The Professional Wingman was built.

The ONLY Thing You Need To Learn From The Dallas Mavericks

It's been quiet here. That's because we've been working on some cool changes. I'll be updating regularly  and have some special announcements soon. But I want to leave you with a VERY important message today -- and two pictures.

For those who you who aren't sports people, the Dallas Mavericks won the NBA Championship last night, beating the Miami Heat in a best-of-7 series.

Lesson: There are NO shortcuts. ONLY hard work.

What Is This "Transgression" Nonsense?

I think he just terminated his marriage.

There has a been a lot of talk about recent events having to do with a certain “Governator.” Some headlines have mentioned the word “transgression” (I wonder where you’ve heard that word before?) and other times, it’s been the flat out “cheater.” We all know what that word means but what about transgression and why is that word being used more? Is there really a difference? Does it then make it justifiable? Does it create a standard for the future of sleeping around? This short post will answer all of those questions.

Every Secret to Dating & Sex Answered By Women

Men will do or say anything to give them an excuse why something isn’t possible. Part of my job is to prove them wrong. Thank goodness there is data our there from surveys and online interactions to help my cause. This one comes from Maxim Magazine as they surveyed almost 8,000 women from across the country. Still skeptical? Think of it in numbers:

How To Find Men Who Don't Suck

While in transit back to New York City, I get time to reflect on how my clients are doing and what they are experiencing when they go out. This particular weekend, I was working with clients who were slightly older than me. As you get older, the club scene no longer suits you. Now that quality becomes the name of the game, how do you go about finding that quality? And even when you do, how do you acclimate yourself into these new environments without coming off creepy or feeling weird? It can be a simple process with research, practice and repetition. But this particular weekend, something stood out to more than usual.

How come it’s so hard to find quality - specifically quality men - in your area?

Is Monogamy Necessary For A Fulfilling Relationship?

This is a guest post written by Sara Sharnoff.  Sara is currently finishing her Masters Degree in Family Therapy at the University of Massachusetts Boston.  After years of feeling let down because her life did not resemble a John Hughes movie, Sara decided to devote her time to studying couples and intimate relationships.  During her free time she loves to drink copious amounts of coffee, cheer on the Boston Celtics, and explore the gorgeous sights in New England.  She's here to share her perspective on relationships.

A few months ago, the beautiful Angelina Jolie told Germany’s Das Neue Magazine, “I doubt that fidelity is absolutely essential for a relationship," and continued, “It's worse to leave your partner and talk badly about him afterwards." It is difficult to imagine wanting to explore outside relationships when your significant other is Brad Pitt, but perhaps Ms. Jolie has a point.  After all, Angelina and Brad have been a couple since 2005 and are currently raising six children together, which by Hollywood standards is a massive success.  

Stop Selling Hard When There's NO Value

After taking a week to recover from SXSW and from moving locations to a nicer space in NYC, it's time to give some quick advice.

Lately, I've been getting clients who keep wondering why women have been rejecting them so often. The problem with some men is they think one sign of niceness will be enough to get the date - or in some cases, the girl.

For example, an actual text conversation:

Man: "Hey! How are you doing? Hope you had a great weekend."
Woman: "Thanks! It was pretty chill. Just me and the girlies."

Man: "Sounds like fun! Want to get together for drinks this week?"
Woman: "Sorry, I have class then work all day."

Man: "No worries! What about earlier in the week?"
Woman: "Not sure. Might be busy still but I'll let you know."

Do you think she's going to reach out to him? Probably not. A woman is not going to buy into you selling if she doesn't see your value. You have to develop a comfortable rapport with her filled with value (help, sympathy or enlightenment), humor and some hints of flirtation (sexual tension) in order to get her thinking about you in that way. Just because you may have done something nice, doesn't mean the next line out of your mouth should be you asking her out.

Women can sniff this out from a mile away and their defenses are already up, anticipating this. STOP going for the hard sell and actually take time to build a different type of relationship. Do this right and she'll want to buy, no matter what you're selling.