To Answer Your Question

First of all, I want to thank you for all of the great comments I've received about the site. Some of you are VERY good in knowing where the company is going. I'm excited and thankful for the support. I've been getting a lot of emails asking about the whole "Apply Now" button that's on my front page. Most of them are along the lines of, "Why do people need to apply now?"

The answer is quite simple: I have a waiting list.

It's pretty crazy to think that one would even exist but it's been a pretty demanding year so far. I want to help EVERYONE. And I plan to do so.

Through this system, having people apply is the easiest way for me to keep track of who has contacted me and what exactly they are looking for. As I expand, I'll be able to accommodate more clients but for now, the list has to exist.

But don't worry, I actually am close to hiring another wingman which means more people to coach. It's still not too late to apply. The deadline for submitting applications is March 26.

4 Reasons Why Speed Dating is Cool

After hosting a speed dating event over the weekend, it reminded me of how speed dating can be another great way to meet women and get dates. After talking with various people and listening in on their opinions, I’ve decided to point out 4 great reasons why speed dating is cool and I give 4 tips that will give you an advantage when going to one.

1. Many beautiful women speed date. The way the media portrays speed dating is only half true. They only talk about the bad parts of speed dating, which can actually happen. On the other side, there are REALLY gorgeous AND normal women who participate in speed dating, which leads to my next reason.

2. The underdog gets a chance. Because it’s speed dating and you HAVE to see everyone, everyone gets an equal chance. You may not be as good-looking as the next guy but you still have a chance to earn a date with your humor, intelligence and charm.

3. People come from everywhere. Over the weekend, I talked with people from nearly every end of Massachusetts. Most people commute to Boston because they work there and these are the only times they have to do anything remotely social in the city (to be read “they haven’t found a reason/person as an excuse to come to Boston so they’re trying their luck with this.”).

4. It can build your confidence. Speed dating is actually fun. In a matter of an hour, you can meet and talk with as much as 10 women. No matter who they are, you can have 10 interactions under your belt and chances are you will have someone interested in contacting you after the event.

Now, here are 4 tips to help you max your experience.

1. Know what you’re looking for. Do you want to just go on a date? Are you looking for a hookup? Are you looking for a relationship? Just having an idea of what you want will make your approach different and keep you focused on what’s important.

2. This still is not the time to do “the interview.” Just because there’s only a little bit of time for each, doesn’t mean that you have to go in there and ask a list of questions. Treat it just like any other interaction. Have fun, ask a few questions, share some laughs and build momentum. If you two are having fun, you won’t want the alarm to sound and it’ll be easier to get her to check “yes” next to your name.

3. Don’t compare women by looks, but by the content. It’s very easy to get lost in a woman’s looks but there’s no time for that. You only have 4-5 minutes. Listen to what she says, see if it holds value to you and if it does, use it as a small catalyst for the other potentials. Sometimes, you never know what you actually want until you meet that person that has it. Pay attention.

4. Be selective. Some guys think by selecting every woman, they’re guaranteed a date. That is actually the wrong way of thinking. Be realistic about it and don’t give the women you’re not interested in false hope - it makes you look bad and hurts the good faith women have in men. Pick the women you’d actually want to reach out to because when you get back your mutual matches, you’ll know there’s a chance of it actually going somewhere.

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How to Build Confidence

I had a session with a client that didn’t turn out so well for him. When it came to approaching attractive women, he froze EVERY TIME. I tried to have him approach women who weren’t as attractive as a way to build up his confidence. He froze. I almost had him approach guys but I had a feeling he’d freeze anyway. Confidence isn’t natural. 

Let it be known that "natural confidence" is a perception. Confidence will always be something that you have to build and tend to.

Confidence takes on the typical cycle:

Acknowledging your comfort zone. Going beyond that. Failing. Learning. Trying again. Succeeding. Acknowledging your new comfort zone. Going beyond that and so forth.

People have a pretty easy time with the first part - acknowledging your comfort zone. Beyond that, fear creeps in. You get nervous. You don’t know what to do. You certainly don’t want to screw up.

So, what do you do?

Here’s how I have been able to get over that hump to develop my confidence to an all-time high.

Knowing you will fail. It’s VERY rare that you’ll do something right the first time. Think about the various milestones in life. Walking for the first time. Saying your first words. Taking your first exam. Your first relationship. Your first job. Your first college application. Chances are you didn’t do it right the first time and it took a few dozen tries to be successful. People rarely get a 100% rating when it comes to anything in life. So be okay with that.

Are you REALLY experiencing fear? Or are you really confusing that with excitement? I’ve said MANY times that it only takes one person to say yes. Is it worth the excitement of finding out who does?

What’s the long term plan? Do you want a wife? A girlfriend? A mistress? Whatever your goals are, you must put the process in perspective. Once you find that person that loves you for who you are, you are going to look back and be thankful for the road you went down. Being rejected all of those times and going through all of those inadequate relationships really put you in a place where you are ready for the ultimate prize in life. True happiness.

I can guarantee that anyone can develop maximum confidence but there will always be the one thing that will stop you.

Taking the risk.

Can you do it?

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Life is Short. Have an Affair?

Really?

I remember walking with my girlfriend in NYC and there was an ad on the back of a newspaper that said, “It’s 8AM.” I couldn’t see the rest so I went in for a closer look.

“Do you know where your wife is?”

I couldn’t believe it. Then again, I could.

Ashley Madison has been VERY successful in taking advantage of people’s insecurities and temptations by creating a business to cash in on people's willingness to bend their morals. A site that’s dedicated to ONLY having affairs? It’s wild. This isn’t news to me (or to most of you) but I haven’t talked about infidelity on this blog much.

You see these ads all over the place and it’s TELLING you not only to cheat, but that it’s also ok. I’m not ignorant of the fact there are married couples out there who are open to including someone else into their lives. If both parties agree, then I personally don’t see anything wrong with that.

I would love for someone to let me know otherwise but I would assume that MOST people who go on the site are doing it secretly. THAT, my friends, is NOT cool.

What’s worse is that statistically, men would cheat on their spouse if they wouldn’t get caught. Really?

I’m not here to tell people what’s right or wrong. These are just my opinions and clearly, we are grownups. We’ll make up our own mind anyway. But considering that 50% of marriages end in divorce and people are getting married later in their lives, how many people can actually be devout to their significant other - and follow through?

What are your thoughts?

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Oh, Valentine’s Day

As I’ve said before, I’m not a big Valentine’s Day person because it’s so commercialized. If I’m going to do something for my lady, I’m going to do it because I WANT to, never because I HAVE to. Having said that, there are guys out there who STILL feel the pressure of having to go over the top and buy gifts for their ladies. Most guys don’t even know what to get besides the usual flowers, candy and “let’s go to dinner at an expensive restaurant where they fill to capacity and it’s so loud, you can’t hear me and the food isn’t even that good anyway.”

Fortunately, Victoria’s Secret decided to do something a little different for all of the guys out there who were lost.

Last night, I had some free time and went down to the Secret store at Patriot Place at Gillette Stadium. Thanks to Gamestop, they had video game stations to play some of the latest and coolest games. Bar Louie was VERY nice to offer root beer, mini sliders, buffalo chicken bites and other goodies. Victoria’s Secret associates were there to help guys figure out what they wanted. I chatted with a few of them to find out how they viewed the "holiday."

They also gave me a couple cool ideas for the weekend. Unfortunately, I won’t be around for them...so I’ll fill you in on the action.

I’ll have that info for you later today!

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The Doctor Is In

I am so happy to be the "cover" story for blast magazine's February issue!

If you ever wanted to know the inside scoop of what I do, how I do it and why, this is the article to read. Special thanks to Erica Marcus for interviewing me and writing the story. I still think it's crazy that I have a photo gallery :P

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Your Guide to: minibar

There’s no hiding it. I LOVE minibar. I have many friends that I hang out with there, I’ve even shot videos and make no mistake; people can have a blast there.

From what I’ve heard (from an anonymous manager), minibar has been named Best Pickup Bar in Boston. Makes sense since it’s such a great social scene and you can REALLY meet anyone at any given time.

In preparation for LoveNation’s Launch Party that I’m having there tomorrow night, I have decided to give you a guide to how to handle minibar if you go there by yourself or with friends.

Overview: minibar gets it’s name from not the size of the bar but the size of the bottles that they serve at tables. Overall, there are 6 lounge “areas” and a bar that can hold upwards of 12 people. There is also another area as you can in the picture to the left that can seat 6 people.

Positioning: I think in every place, there are “dead zones” where you’ll have almost no chance of meeting people. Here are the “dead zones” at minibar: 

The near corner of the bar (seen in the picture) 
The right lounge area in the picture (even if you’re with another person) 
The left side of the lounge area in the middle of the picture (behind a “mini” wall) 
The lounge area by the front door (facing the bar). 

If you’re in a very small group and are looking to socialize, don’t go to these areas. These areas are for people who are in larger groups and are just looking to hang out amongst themselves.

The “money” areas give you the best chance of meeting people. At minibar: 

The far corner of the bar in the picture 
The middle area of the bar. 

The most traffic will walk through there and by standing, it’ll give you the best chance to see people (no matter where they are), make eye contact and make your move. Just be sure to let the bartenders by when they have to send drinks to table areas. That area can get crowded rather quickly.

Best times to go: Happy hour (Monday-Thursday 5-7), Tuesday (DJ nights), Friday and Saturday nights; and of course, THIS TUESDAY NIGHT!

Drink of choice: If you’re a beer drinker, keep it classy with a Narragansett. If you like wine, order a cabernet. If you’d rather something a little more stiff, grab a Belvedere and tonic.

I hope you get a chance to check it out but more importantly, come to the party tomorrow night!

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