So as I begin my "ode to my influences" or whatever you want to call it, I want to start of by posting an article by one of the top "pick up artists" in the world, Sinn. He is a really cool person and if you ever get a chance to see any videos of him, you'll know what I am talking about.
He has his own blog, Sinns of Attraction, which is definitely a must-feed! This blog talks about basic social skills that any person should have. Practice and master using these steps with who you are as a person and you will be an amazing social person.
Now realizing that didn't make any sense, it's probably time I go to bed. Enjoy the post!
Hey guys,
Since starting 12 Months to Mastery I've now gotten feedback to prove something that I already really believed. Game is useless without BASIC social skills.
BradP already hinted at this when he talked about how you can't use negs or boyfriend destroyers if you have social anxiety because even though the words are right the delivery is wrong and you look terrified. I actually now have evidence it goes one step beyond that. In 12 Months to Mastery the first thing I have done is strip everyone back down to zero. My thinking went something like this " If you can't open a group of guys and girls by saying hi and then relating to them without routines, techniques or tactics, you are going to have problems." Why? Because you won't always have routines, you can't always be non reactive, or dominant or anything. The first step to socializing is making people socially comfortable while talking to you. Comfort actually comes before attraction(credit AFC Adam) but it's not the type of rapport based comfort most people in the community assume. Instead it's socail comfort, I.E the idea that this person will not creep you out, bore you or insult you.
So how do you learn to make people socially comfortable? Basic conversational skills. The very things that certain schools mock as "AFC" are the building blocks to ultimately having great game. Back in the old school ASF days this skill was referred to as "fluff talk". Ultimatley it comes down to a few basic points:
1. Relate to the other people in the conversation. Show how your experiences intertwine with theirs or vice versa. This can be done by asking questions or making statements.
2. Keep the conversation going, by changing conversational subjects. There's a lot of material out there on this.
3. Demonstrate genuine interest in getting to know them. Not interest in fucking them.
4. Talk about yourself. Don't be afraid to relate things about yourself and how you came to be who you are.
5. Asking questions that set up information about you. Instead of using questions to find out about them, use your questions to set up information about you. For example:
Sinn: " Are you guys locals?" Girls: " Yeah we're from Mesquite. Sinn: " Yeah? I'm from LA, which is funny cause iw as the least pretentious person there, and now I'm the most pretentious person in Texas. :)
I'll have some more articles on this stuff up later this month, but for npow start looking at basic social skills as the glue that holds routines and all the tactics together.
S
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I am actually glad that this is over. This show has been raped with terrible reviews and everyone just saying how much this show sucks (trust me, I’ve been following the “pick up artist” twitter timeline and about 5% of it says something good). And as far as I’m concerned, the final two “talents” weren’t worth the price of admission but it came down to these two: Matt and Simeon.
Simeon has been my front-runner since Brian left but over the past few weeks he has been way too cocky thinking he has it made. Unfortunately, going up again Matt, the nice guy, he has a pretty good chance.
The first challenge is supposed to teach unconscious competence. Basically at this point, building attraction and sexual escalating an interaction with a woman should be second nature. How would this be possible? Finding an instant attraction spark, setting the sexual tone as soon as possible, being blindly confident and always assuming the answer is yes. I personally do not use this approach BUT if you want to try to hook up with a woman, minutes after first meeting her, this would be the route to take. Use with serious caution.
The challenge that Mystery poses is to kiss a woman as fast as possible. I just can’t help that Simeon is so creepy when he does anything. But the more disturbing thing is that these women find him incredibly attractive – worries me. But anyway, Simeon ends up winning by only 19 seconds. It took them about 15 minutes which I don’t think is bad at all considering they talked to 2 different groups of women before kissing one out of the group. Doing something like that is intense and does require some very quick work.
Anyway, the final challenge has the two of them trying to implement all of what they learned with what Mystery would call, a Perfect 10. Mystery throws a party filling this house with beautiful women. Simeon’s reward for winning the challenge is that he gets the master bedroom. Having the master is apparently supposed to be a demonstration of higher value. What nonsense. It just means you have a bigger room. But if you look at Matt’s room, it’s not like he has a cubicle – his room is fine.
Long story short, Simeon and Matt both attract a few women. They were both able to get it in with a hottie and make out with them. They both did a fantastic job but seeing how this is a game and Mystery is pick up artist, it was clear he was going to give the win to Simeon. Matt did an amazing job, sticking through this whole process trying to be as close to who he was as possible. He has much more natural game than any of the other guys and that is going to go a long way to what he really wanted from the start. Simeon pretty was made into a monster and will end up being just as lonely as Mystery – especially when these women find out how creepy Simeon really is.
All I have to say is this. Let this be a lesson that it is possible to be who you are and still succeed. Never apologize or make excuses for who you are and reveal yourself in an attractive way!
So the creeper gets the gold and he is given the medallion of Perth, which is symbol of mystery, which doesn’t really have anything to do with the progression of becoming the man you want to be. It just symbolizes that you are the like Mystery the most out of all the contestants. But, if you're still interested, you can check it out here.
This season was such a let down. There will probably be a season 3 but I really hope they do something different. Like not use Mystery and Matador.
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Once again, my man, Jae from Kinowear has done it again. This man in on the money with his last few articles and he comes up big again with a topic that is VERY important for guys: shoes. Believe it or not, shoes are one of the first things a woman will notice - even more so than your face. Sounds ridiculous but how you dress is very important to people. It's one of the main differences between having success and not. So read up, take lots of notes and boost your collection.
Whoever said guys who have a lot of shoes are [insert appropriate expletive here], clearly do not know what they are talking about - and probably don't have any shoes...
When it comes to shoes, it’s pretty simple. Bad shoes, you lose.
Every man needs a few pairs of great dress shoes for the unavoidable occasions that will call for them. If you’re a man who knows how important quality dress shoes are, then you probably don’t need to read further. But for everyone else, this may be one of the most important fashion articles you read.
Shoes will eternally be the most important fashion item that you buy. What you have on your feet can make or break any look. It doesn’t matter if you have the most amazing suit in the world, if you have bad shoes, you might as well roll around in a puddle of mud.
I understand that shoes are expensive and a true pain in the ass to shop for. But if you’re smart about buying shoes, you won’t have to buy again for years, if not decades.
Not only that, but the returns on your investment are immediate - quality shoes are an instant confidence booster. The smack of a heavy sole against pavement is a very satisfying sound when you’re the one producing it: it rings of authority and calls attention to your investment (and with it, your standing as a man of style).
If you still have doubts as to the importance of shoes, turn to a woman. Don’t ask her for her opinion; simply wear your finest pair and wait for her to notice and praise them. After she does, you will never scrimp on shoes again.
How Much Should I Spend on Shoes?
Good shoes are expensive. On the high end of the scale, they can cost you almost as much as a decent suit or watch (approaching the four digit range). On the lower end, they will fetch at least $250 to $300. This is really the minimum amount that you should be spending.
If those numbers make you cringe, they shouldn’t. A good pair of shoes truly is an investment that will last you for a long time. You may have to replace the soles every once in awhile, but it’s not unheard of for a man’s shoes to last him twenty, or even thirty years.
Of course, sustaining that lifespan demands maintenance. And if you’re going to actually wear a pair over that extended a period, they have to be timeless in their style. Succumbing to fleeting trends in purchasing expensive shoes is best left to the outrageously wealthy.
What to Look For
With shoes, it’s all about quality, quality, quality. It’s better to have two or three pairs of good shoes that will last a long time than to have twenty-five pairs of generic-looking bargain brands.
How do you know what’s quality? High-quality shoes are all about construction, and there are few basic things to look for:
Your shoes should be made of real leather and have leather soles as well. (If you buy quality leather shoes, they can be refurbished a number of times and will last forever, which is ultimately going to be less expensive than having to replace crappy, poorly made shoes every few months.)
The soles of well-made shoes will be stitched, not glued, to the bottom of the shoes.
Also, the lining in better shoes is made of high-quality calfskin or natural leather, not synthetic materials.
Finally, check out the stitching. It should be neat and should be barely noticeable.
Shoe Basics
1 The Laces
It’s an inescapable fact that a lace-up still looks better with a suit than a slip-on.
2 The Color
Black will always be dressier than brown. If you’re suiting up for a board meeting or a formal event, go with the former. If necessary, however, you can pair brown lace-ups with suits - especially navy or charcoal - as long as they’re scuff-free.
3 The Material
Glossy leather is the fail-safe choice, but you should feel free to experiment with suede - starting with a pair of classic bucks and progressing to exotic materials like alligator and ostrich or the growing number of antiqued leathers.
4 The Toe
An elongated toe is unequivocally classier than a square. That doesn’t mean all your lace-ups should be pointy - lots of elegant cap toes have squared-off tips - but unless you’re aiming for mid-nineties nostalgia, no shoes you wear should have a blunt, squared-off toe. I suggest staying away from them.
5 The Welt
Well-made lace-ups should have a close welt - the seam where the upper meets the sole and creates the outer edge of the shoe. It should be visible, but it shouldn’t extend so far past the edge of the shoe that it creates a ledge.
6 The Sole
A thin sole is the hallmark of a cheap shoe - plus, it not only looks cut-rate, it wears out more quickly. Yours should be at least a quarter-of-an-inch thick and preferably leather, not rubber.
7 The Broguing
Traditionalists will tell you that the more broguing - decorative stitching and perforated and serrated edges - a shoe has, the less dressy it is. But while it’s true that heavily embellished bucks look better with sport jackets and tweed than with pinstripe suits, this rule is flexible.
Dress Shoes for Business or Dressy Occasions
Cap-toe oxford
The cap-toe is the dressiest and most popular of all the business shoe styles. It looks best when worn with the more serious suit fabrics and styles. If you get one in brown, wear with navy suit, or an earth-toned suit of olive, brown or tan. Black is fine with all of the serious dark colors of gray and navy but not at all with any of the earth tones. Cordovan is the one color that seems to go with everything and is understood everywhere.
Wing-Tip Oxford
Because of its texture and heft, the wing-tip can be worn successfully with the more textured and heavier fabrics like tweed and flannel. They’re too formal for khakis or jeans, so avoid the mismatch.
Plain-toe Oxford
The plain-toe is less dressy and more simple. It’s appropriate for all business settings.
Monk Strap
The Monk Strap is a European classic which has a buckle on the side. It is most commonly made of calfskin, but brown suede leather is very popular with the man who would like a touch of uniqueness in his dress footwear. The suede leather version is seen as casual and a very elegant alternative to the loafer.
Dress Shoes For Casual Wear
Loafers
The loafer has moved beyond it’s preppy roots. Wear this basic with any casual look involving jeans or trousers.
Slip-On Dress Shoe
If you’re looking for a dress shoe that will always look good with a pair of jeans, go for a slip-on instead of one with laces.
Driving Moc
The driving moc was invented to let you feel a car’s pedals better. Now it’s an alternative to wearing slippers in public. You can find upgraded ones like this one that are more elegant. Best worn with khaki shorts in the summer with no socks.
Dress boots
Dress boots look fantastic with dressy and casual clothes, such as a great-fitting pair of dark colored designer jeans, a pair of dress trousers, or a casual suit.
Boat Shoes
These once strictly functional piece of footwear has become very popular to wear casually with khakis or even jeans.
Cowboy Boots
Classic version of American’s contribution to footwear. The perfect combination to the other American casual standby - the blue jean. Can be plain and simple or elaborately tooled leather or made from the exotic skins of ostrich or reptile.
Desert boots
This is a high-cut shoe usually made of calfskin or suede and always seems to remain in fashion. Has a cushy rubber sole making it a great walking shoe for uneven terrain. Goes very well with a pair of khakis or jeans.
Bucks
An old standby among lace-up shoes for summer wear, the white buck comes with a red rubber sole or can be worn in shades of brown, tan or buff.
Getting the Right Size
Shoes are a fashion item. So it’s easy to get distracted by chiseled toes or points instead of paying attention to boring details like size and - more importantly - the width of your foot. Your feet are not the exact same size, so, unless you want to go the whole hog at a custom shoemaker, you need a strategy.
Think of shoes the same way you think of suits. Find one or two manufacturers with fits that suit your feet. You can even see if they’ll order you a specific pair if your feet are especially wide or narrow.
8 Fit Tips for Shoes:
1.Shop after you have been out and about a bit, since feet do swell. This way you will get the most realistic measurement.
2.Shop only at a store that uses a Brannock foot measuring device for determining your exact foot size.
3.Almost everyone has one foot larger than the other, usually it is the right foot; fit the shoes to the larger right foot. Do not rely soley on the size you have always worn. Different makes can vary significantly from each other, even though the numeric size is the same. Always try them both on, walk around in them, and buy them by how they feel on your feet - not just by the size.
4. Allow a half-inch between the tips of your toes and your shoes. If the toes of the shoes are pointed, be certain there is enough room for your toes to move comfortably. Shoes should never be tight over the instep of ball of the foot. You should be able to stick your index finger in the back for wiggle room.
5. When considering an oxford-style shoe, you should not be able to tie the laces so tightly that the two edges of the shoe meet. If you can, then a narrower size is probably better for you.
6. Buy leather shoes. Though more expensive, because it is porous, leather is the best for the health and comfort of your feet. In leather shoes the foot can breathe, discouraging the build-up of bacteria.
7. Shoes should fit from the moment you try them on. Do not accept the salesperson’s, “Once you break them in they will be fine.” The man-made materials used today do not stretch significantly, but leather adapts to your foot shape quite well.
8.When shopping, wear the same type of sock you will use with the dress or sports shoes. Too heavy or too thin socks will distort the fit.
Shoe Care Tips
If you want to extend the life of your shoes, a professional shoe shine is worth much more than what you pay for it.
If you’re after a winner’s style and you’ve invested good money in your shoes, it’s really unbecoming to be shy about a professional shine.
If you’re nervous about getting a professional shine for the first time, take it from me, the men shining shoes in hotels, airports, train stations or street corners are some of the friendliest people I’ve ever met. From the minute you sit down in the chair they will take care of everything with gentle, knowing taps or touches. Just be friendly and enjoy the experience.
If you’re the do-it-yourself type, here’s a great how to video that I’ve found by a mustachioed Englishman:
The Value of Shoe Trees
The average man produces up to a half pint of perspiration per day and most of it is absorbed by the leather lining and uppers of the shoe. Shoe trees draw the moisture away from the leather allowing them to dry more efficiently and to retain their shape. Also, by discouraging bacterial build-up, shoe odor is kept in check.
Many experts claim that the average man would double the life of his favorite pair of shoes by simply putting a pair of shoe trees into them as soon as he took them off at the end of the day.
Shoe Shopping Tips
For the best fit and selection, go to specialty dress shoe stores.
For the best deals, visit department stores, wholesalers, and outlet malls. Don’t shy away from buying shoes on clearance, either. The only thing these shoes are usually guility of is being a season or two “out of style.” But honestly, when you get out on the street, nobody can tell the difference between a 2005 Kenneth Cole oxford and a 2007 Kenneth Cole oxford.
If you are going to buy shoes online, a good trick is to try on the same pair in a store to ensure a comfortable fit, and then go online for the best deal. But if you have previous experience with a particular brand, then ther’s no need to worry about purchasing shoes online without trying the on first. IN any case, most reputable online retailers offer full refunds.
Visit shoe stores on Sunday mornings, or late on weeknights. Chances are you will be the only customer in the store, and the sales-person will be able to concentrate on you. The result? Knowledgeable, one-on-one service.
Conclusion
The next time you put on your pair of dress shoes to go out, take a good look at what you’re wearing. Are they a quality pair of shoes? Is it fit for the occasion? Is it scuffed up? Does it need repairing or shining? Is it out of style? (Boxy, square shoes look good on nobody)
Your shoes will make or break any look. Next time, give the attention to your shoes first, before anything else.
To those that know me, you know by now that the Matrix Trilogy has a couple of some of my favorite movies. I remember when each movie came out and how ridiculously sick these movies were – and still are, really. It changed the way we saw everything; well, it changed how I saw everything. After getting caught up in so much stuff, like college, I lost track of the significance of something as breakthrough as the Matrix. There are so many quotes people can live by it’s ridiculous. Whenever I get a chance, I watch it as many times as possible. Good thing it’s on a lot in HD! I like watching it before going out and times like these when I am writing articles because it gets me so pumped up! It really does “free my mind.”
Why bring this up? Well, although the Matrix wasn’t real, there were the certain few that could manipulate what goes on inside the Matrix and pretty much do anything within their belief. Morpheus preached that. “Don’t think you can. Know you can.”
If you see me quote something, chances are, it came from the Matrix.
It’s all about believing in yourself and making a choice. All of these principles apply to everything in your life – your career, women, family, friends and everything else you could think of. You are in control of your own reality and you call the shots. You may not realize it but you have the ultimate power of controlling what happens in your life. If you don’t like something, you can change it. It won’t be instantaneous like these guys do but you can change it over time. It’s all about how willing you are to take the risk and make the change. You have to realize that this can happen and only you have the ability to do it. No one else is going to help you or bail you out. You have to decide your own fate.
One memorable quote just happened. Neo asks Morpheus, “So are you telling me that I can dodge bullets?” Morpheus responds with, “No, Neo, I’m saying that when you’re ready, you won’t have to.”
And you know what? He’s right. When you’re ready to accept the fact that you are in control, nothing will faze you and you will be able to handle anything that comes across your path.
I’m an extreme believer in constantly watching movies or listening to music that will keep you upbeat – or if you’re angry to relax you. These are great motivational tools to keep you at your best and to truly believe you are capable of doing something. If I come across more, I will definitely post them for you check out.
So stop limiting your beliefs and free your mind. You’ll be seeing things in a different light.
If you end up seeing things like Neo did in the Matrix, contact me ASAP.
So, over the past couple of months, I have been helping you improving your look, building confidence and getting you to understand and meeting women isn’t as hard as you think.
Of course, I will continue to do that. But I figured that would only end up being just a tidbit of what I can provide for guys out there.
Starting in December, I will introduce a members-only section in which you will get some specific advice in terms of how you can get over your nervousness with meeting women, specific things you can do to attract higher quality women, how to quickly motivate yourself in under 10 minutes, and two things that is rarely talked about these days when dating women – how to find the one that you want and actually keep her. Because I have to acknowledge the fact that there are some of you out there who want to learn these skills in order to meet the woman you want to spend the rest of your life with. And you too, deserve that chance.
Those who want even more can actually get an even more exclusive membership where I provide my transformation program where you will constantly be in contact with me and we will do the following:
Set your goals Reframe limiting beliefs Upgrade your appearance Give you specific tools of the approach Learn how to keep conversation interesting Understand how and when to take risks Learn the best ways to get and handle first date How to begin a sexual relationship And much more!
There will also be some exclusive videos of live interactions with women and in-depth analysis of how well/bad each interaction may have been. You will also hear from women what they are looking for in a man so you can better understand what you need to do in order to be successful.
You will also be getting a very exclusive aspect of what goes on in my personal life and how I end up meeting all of these people I come across every day and how each interaction turns out. For me, it’s not just about meeting women. Sometimes, it’s good to know how to talk to anyone in any situation and here I will help you in figuring out how to do exactly that.
There will be a limited number of spaces, so if you want to get on the VIP list, send me an email at infinityfans@recklessstudio.com and you’ll be on the list. Once again, there is a limited number of spots so I would jump on this. Oh, did I mention that this is all FREE? No? Well, it is.
So I wanted to put this post up. This was done by Lexicon, who lives in Miami and whose blog you can check out right here! Here is a quick bio from his site:
"I began this journey trying to find an answer as to why I “couldn’t get a girlfriend”. What I’ve learned is that Seduction, dating, and romance has nothing to do with my relationship with others, but rather the relationship I have with myself; as well as my ability tonot judge, have prejudice, or negative thoughts towards the world around me."
If you want to contact him, you can do so by emailng him at LexiconMIA@gmail.com.
The reason why I say that I am different than these other guys, is because I believe in appreciating the people that come into my life. I think it's ok to get attached and vulnerable and I strongly believe that it's possible to be a sensitive, compassionate and caring guy without feeling like you are losing your masculinity. And like I said before, I may be considered a pick up artist, but like Lance told me, I would to be seen more as a social artist. Enjoy Lexicon's post.
I was talking to my best friend about this girl that I’m starting to date and how the other night I had a conversation with her about how I don’t do monogamous relationships and she got really pissed off at me.
I responded with non-attachment and non-reaction. I put it out there, and I said to her, “if its a deal breaker for you, I understand.” Left it at that and didn’t talk to her until the next day.
The next time we talked she totally ignored it and acted completely normal and happy and fine. I didn’t bring it up again, either, and things move forward.
But this got me thinking to how AFCs and Natural’s would handle a situation like that.
AFCs are easy. They’ll apologize, look for the girl to be “ok” with things, look for her validation, etc.
From my experience this only serves purposes AGAINST making sure things are ok. Since women are products of their emotions, trying to logic things into being “ok” through arguing or debating will always just make her upset. Even if you have the best, most valid point in the world, the main thing that registers with her is how it makes her “feel”, which is bad.
So the best course is to just inform her what’s going on, then make her feel good.
On the other end are Naturals, which to me is a much better gauge of skill. We all know that Naturals have that natural ability to attract women. From the Naturals that I know most of their success comes from not giving a shit which very closely resembles non-attachment.
But again, this boils down to how it affects a woman’s emotions. Eventually the Natural will fail in a relationship because of the difference between not giving a shit and being non-attached.
Also, I hope this is something that a lot of PUA’s can take away, because there is a disturbing trend of misogyny in the community (and I don’t mean misogyny in the societal way, I mean it in a way that women are nothing besides the ends of “the game”). If you are sleeping and dating a woman and you can’t appreciate her, and only count her as a notch on your PUA bragging rights, I hope that you can get away from that.
Anyway, that is the essence of not giving a shit. The woman basically means nothing. Sure those guys aren’t attached because who gets attached to nothing? Eventually the woman will feel empty and under appreciated. It’s why so many community guys, Mystery being a great example, are never ever in a relationship.
Being non-attached means that you can fully appreciate, accept, and love what is around you. You can see the woman for her beautiful and marvelous traits and fully appreciate it. You won’t leave her feeling empty because you can offer love. But also having that non-attached attitude means that you aren’t defined by your relationship. If your relationship ever makes that negative turn you can cleanly say to your partner, “hey, it was really great, but I don’t have room for negativity in my life.”
I think this is definitely one area that PUAs are unmatched by the unlearned. Even people who learn in the context of the normal dating world don’t get the absolutely brilliant advice that is really only found in the community. For the most part, outside of our realm things are heavily swayed in the female direction. Men are expected to “get in touch with their emotions” and bend to the demands of a woman.
Which of course only causes a “beta”ing of the man.
Or, even guys who are good at sleeping with women (naturals) typically are in the boat that they’re in because of their emotional detachment. My brother is a natural (has slept with over 200 women) but only had 5 relationships, none of which lasted longer than a year, and probably averages no longer than 3 months.
But what learning Pickup, and especially inner game, gives PUAs is the ability to not be afraid to be emotional and emotionally involved with a woman but also the inner strength to not beta-ize and bend to her shit tests.
** Let me make a side note here. I know that sounds bad, “don’t bend to her shit tests”, it sounds completely misogynistic, but keep in mind that a shit test is nothing more than a woman testing your resolve as a man. If you pass them it makes her feel good. Also, I would say that the absolute best course of action to handle a woman’s shit testing isn’t mentally beating her down (making her feel bad) but by standing up to them by making her feel happy and good - again, women are ruled by their emotions, so it is the job of the man to make her feel good, happy, fulfilled, i.e. positive.
So I suppose to give a summary, don’t be afraid to be an “AFC” (by that I mean caring and sensitive) when you are with a woman you care about and who has earned it, but also don’t be taken advantage of and maintain that PUA-ness where you have an ability to handle a woman’s irrationability (in the sense that women don’t logic but emotions) with the skills you have learned.
Overall you will be a much better man for yourself AND for her.
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This is from my man, Jae from Kinowear and he is introducing different things you can try this season to stand out. I love these looks and I am going to try some of them out. The best part about it is if you can mix and match well, you can come up with some amazing outfits. My personal favorite is the "Laid Back Rebel."
I’ve decided that this will be the last style inspiration article for awhile. There are many other topics I think everyone will enjoy even more.
But no worries, in this month’s edition I’m going to give lots more details on how to put together some highly attractive outfits.
Let’s do this.
Modeling off Those Who Catch Our Attention
I use pictures on this blog because style is such a visual thing. Even though many aspects of style are expressed through non-visual channels as well, the way you dress is the strongest and primary source of the impression you’ll make in any interaction.
I’m very analytical, and when I see a guy with a uniquely attractive fashion sense, I try to learn from him — by breaking his image down to the details. Often times, I get many new styling ideas I can pass on to my clients during a consultation.
Whenever you see a guy who makes a positive impression on you, make an effort to pinpoint what exactly causes this. Is it the way he dresses? If so, what about his outfit stands out to you? Certain pieces? How he put it together?
Modeling off other stylish people is something you should do constantly to get ideas for your own style. When you see something that works for someone else, try it yourself! Then make adjustments to your own liking.
So here are 4 different outfits - each a different style - that you can model after:
1. “Metro Chic”
Grab yourself a tweed blazer this season instead of your typical dress blazer. Tweed is a great fabric for a relaxed style that is still classy.
So here’s what you need for this great casual outfit:
1. A gray tweed blazer
2. A gray long-sleeve shirt
3. White jeans
4. Pair of white Chuck Taylors
This is a totally balanced outfit. The blazer is a classy element. The long-sleeve shirt is meant to be understated as to make way for what’s next - the white pants. Wait a minute, white pants after Labor Day? Gasp*
Who made up that stupid rule anyway? To me there is just no logically sound reason why you shouldn’t wear white after Labor Day. Even in the winter, it just goes so well with the season. Fashion is changing it’s position on it anyway, where most people who do wear white after Labor Day are seen as bold and daring.
The white pants are what really make this outfit great because it stands out on it’s own. And the converse shoes, well, they’re a staple that go with almost everything - it does nothing but add style to any outfit.
Extra tips
If you want to add something more elegant to the outfit, try a turtle neck:
And if there’s snow outside, try a pair of boots like these:
Which you could tuck your jeans into and wear with the laces loose and untied. Yes, this is purposeful.
Not your flavor? How about something more smart?
2. “Sophisticated and Class”
So here’s what you need for this classy outfit:
1. Light blue dress shirt
2. Patterned sweater vest
3. Tweed blazer
4. Solid dark blue jeans
5. Skinny rep tie
6. Colored Scarf
7. Newsboy Cap
8. Slim dress shoes
If you want something more sophisticated - yet still turn heads - grab a collared shirt and a skinny tie. Then look for a sweater vest; but instead of looking for a boring one that will make you look like a math teacher, switch it out for an eye-catching plaid one.
Keep it dressy with a dark pair of jeans with a clean wash, and a pair of slim dress shoes.
For some noticeable finishing touches, find yourself a newsboy cap and a colored scarf to accentuate the outfit. Perhaps something to match the colors of your alma matar for that “smart” university look.
If you want to rough it up a bit and make it more relaxed, loosen the skinny tie, don’t wear a belt, and leave your shirt untucked. Done.
Extra Tip
If you don’t like the blazer, switch it for something like this fleece-lined corduroy jacket. A more casual version of the smart look.
If you like that one, awesome. If not, how about this?
3. “Laid Back Rebel”
This outfit is very simple but carries some rugged edge.
So here’s what you need for this great casual outfit:
1. Leather jacket
2. Bright colored shirt
3. Light wash jeans
4. Leather belt
5. Leather boots
Seasonal depression is the leading cause of people steering away from colors during the winter. Avoid getting labeled as a victim and show that you’re still full of life with some strong color.
Try a cobalt blue shirt with a very light pair of blue jeans for contrast. Throw on a black leather jacket with a euro collar, to turn the rebel in you up a notch, and grab a casual leather belt to match. Then, a pair of motorcycle boots will complete this call upon the spirit of James Dean.
Extra Tips
Add a knit scarf to this outfit on colder days:
Or switch the dress shirt for a white t-shirt and black hoodie like this (cool guy shades optional):
Or maybe this is more your style…
4. “Indie Military”
What you’ll need:
1. Military style jacket
2. Khaki dress shirt
3. Dark slim jeans
4. Black jack purcells
5. Beanie
6. Wallet chain
7. Aviator shades
If you’re a lover of women with indie style, then they’ll love it on you. If you’re looking for an updated look, try this one.
Instead of going for something bright and bold, go for something warm and subdued like a khaki shirt, and a chocolate brown jacket. Make it a military style jacket and it’ll give you an ex-soldier’s aura.
Add a touch of luxury with a solid pair of dark blue jeans (I really suggest slim jeans for this look but go with what is comfortable for you). Then add some head-turning flair with an accessory like a wallet chain. Get some aviator shades and beanie to battle the cold weather, and a pair of black Jack Purcells to complete the outfit.
Which one of these looks is your favorite? Share with us in the comments.
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So after watching the Pick Up Artist Episode 6 about 3 or 4 times, I think that it’s important that I talk to you about the wingman thing in detail. I really can’t stress this enough. If you have a good friend that is supportive, it’ll take you a long way in being better with women. Nothing wrong with having some type of support every once in a while.
Many of us who go out, do not have that luxury and something go out by ourselves. I remember when I came back to Boston from college; I didn’t know anything about where to go and how to meet people. Eventually, I made the decision to go out on my own and go for it. The results have been astronomical.
But anyway, having someone who is one the same page as you and willing to help you get a conversation with a woman of interest is a pretty nice luxury.
So if you watched the episode, you will know what I am talking about here. If you haven’t watched the episode, you can watch it here.
So, using some of the PUA knowledge in me, here is some analysis. Let’s start off with Greg and Rian.
Rian goes into the group first so his responsibility is to open the group, gives Greg an accomplishment introduction (AI) and then allow Matt to come in and join Rian.
One thing that stands out is that when Rian walks through a room, he tries to interact with everyone he walks by. It’s a great way to slowly build social proof. I compare it to what a club owner or manager can do – making sure that everyone is having a good time.
His opener:“What’s your name?” Sometimes, it’s that easy, guys.
As he opens up this woman, his body language is on point. He is leaning back and his body isn’t completely turned toward her. Then two other women show up and they get introduced to Rian and that gives Greg the cue to try to enter.
Greg says, “Hey Rian, have you seen Michelle?”
Here, the two answers could be, “You know, I think she is over there,” indicating that Rian is not ready to introduce Greg to the group, or, “Hey, I want you to meet some friends here,” indicating that it’s cool for Greg to join the group.
Rian was not ready for Greg so he sends him off and then immediately gives Greg an accomplishment introduction (AI). An AI is when your friend says something really cool about you. You know how I feel about terms so I’m not going to use it much. So Rian talks about how jealous he is that Greg travels a lot. Immediately, one of the women mentions how much she has traveled to qualify herself for Greg. And Rian’s reaction:
“Does she always brag like this?” That line is such a great playful way to tease a woman.
Greg rejoins the group and everyone is introduced. Immediately there is an attempt to bring the women to a table and they comply by taking their arm. Here, it always helps to have a table.
The women are split up, with Rian having two of them and Greg with the other one. It’s interesting to see these interactions going on at the same time. There is so much going on. I am going to make Greg’s interaction bold and Rian’s interaction italic so you can see what’s going on.
Greg notices the tongue piercing and calls her out on it, indicating some sexual interest. Mystery says that he should start initiating some touch to make his statements congruent with what he is saying.
Rian meanwhile is initiating touch right away by playing the theatre game with one of the women, while the other woman steps away for a few minutes. When the woman gets back, she notices her friend having a good time and wants in. Mystery calls it a jealousy plotline. She rejoins the group and now Rian is in between the two of them, the ideal situation for him. If nothing else, he looks great with two women at his side and him leaning back and taking it all in.
Greg begins to initiate a similar theatre game just to check how interested the woman seems to be. Once he feels there is enough interest, he asks, “on a scale from 1 to 10, how good of a kisser are you?”
At this point, if she legitimately answers the question, then usually it means that she wants to be kissed. She answered saying that she’s never been asked that.
His response: “Well, I guess you need to kiss somebody.” He kisses her.
Now while Greg is sucking her face, Rian is with two women not knowing what to do and the sexual tension is growing.
Rian: “I wonder which of you is the better kisser.” This is a very loaded statement with intentions of a high-risk, high-reward kind of situation. If they don’t freak out or say anything indicating your sleaziness, you have a good chance of getting at least one kiss.
One of the women asks Rian when was the last time he’s kissed a girl? He answers with last week, which I thought was a lie but then I forgot when he kissed a girl a couple of episodes ago. I guess that counts.
That woman then says that it’s been too long (since she’s been kissed). Now, I know none of us guys are idiots and are able to pick up on this. She wants him to kiss her. This example here shows the difference between those who are successful women and those who aren’t. You have to take risks. There hasn’t been any aspect in your life where you have not taken a risk. Why does it have to be different with women? Know what you want and go for it.
He does end up kissing one of the women but it was just a peck on the lips. Both women were not impressed. After a while, it just got awkward and with Greg not helping, the interaction eventually died out and they all left.
Sucks for Rian because he had a chance to make-out with two women and failed. He could have just made out with one of them but he couldn’t even do that. That’s why he was eliminated.
Stay tuned later today for Part Two when I analyze Matt and Simeon’s interaction.
So it’s Friday and I am very excited about the weekend. I am sitting here writing this article while watching a Bruce Lee movie called the Legend of Bruce Lee and thinking about how badass he was in his movies. This movie talked about how he grew up learning from so many different people various forms of martial arts. He lacked respect for people, always ran into trouble and constantly had to defend his friends from bullies. After time, he began to appreciate the martial art form and began to dedicate himself to using it for good. People forget how much of an amazing actor he was. But just his personality and his flare alone attributes to what the alpha male is all about. Bruce Lee was willing to try anything that would improve himself. He worked so hard and trained every day to be the best at everything he set his mind to. And in his movies, he taught so much about defending yourself , what you believe in and taking risks. He also taught a lot about overcoming the odds and being the underdog. There is a lot you can learn about life and yourself watching his movies. If you haven’t seen Bruce Lee in a while, it would be worthwhile to add it to your Netflix queue.
Tomorrow, I get to see another aspect of the alpha male by going to see a comedy show with Jim Gaffigan. I would recommend anyone going to a comedy show and listening to these comedians tell their jokes. It important to notice how they deliver their punch lines and how they tell their stories. It’s a great way to learn how to tell stories and make people laugh – two qualities that are very attractive to women.
Then on Sunday, after much waiting, I get to see the new James Bond in Quantum of Solace. I have heard mixed reviews but I have been trying to ignore them. James Bond is what every man would love to be. For decades he has been the image of the Alpha Male. He always looks his best, has the right things to say, has the coolest gear (until recently) and of course gets the hottest women. It’s pretty easy for any man to jealous of any guy that gets to play James Bond (currently Daniel Craig). But if you have watched all 22 Bond films, you should know by now what makes James Bond and how he exemplifies the attributes of the alpha male. He’s coy, mysterious, cold, calculated, smart, cunning, strong, and clever and the list goes on. His body language is never in question and he always seems to know the right thing to say at the right time. Yeah, I know it’s a movie but who says that can’t and doesn’t happen in real life?
So I hope everyone has some fun this weekend and keep learning.
Grab yourself a tweed blazer this season instead of your typical dress blazer. Tweed is a great fabric for a relaxed style that is still classy.
