This is continuation of a three-part series discussing the three modes of attraction, playing off Aristotle’s Modes of Persuasion. Here, you’ll learn the different methods in which attraction is demonstrated.
Part 1: Ethos
Part 2: Pathos
Part 3: Logos
From Aristotle, the pathos mode of persuasion is an appeal to the audience’s emotions. When you think about people like, Tony Robbins, Brendon Burchard, Bill Clinton and Barack Obama, what these guys have in common is their ability to create a positive rapport to and engage a wide variety of people from all over the world. How they do this is by tapping into people’s emotions and creating a strong connection through mutual, relatable experiences.
In relation to attraction, this is simply using vocal and physical tactics that can draw various emotions, resulting in a deeper attraction. This could typically start out by playful teasing, flirting and various cold reading (guessing certain traits about someone to create a fun dynamic in conversation), allowing someone to feel comfortable to opening up to you.
But this is most effective when one is connecting with the person of interest through a value beneath the surface. Finding and sharing something that’s not normally talked about or a bit more personal. Not many people are able to discover these opportunities to do this and it’s what can separate you from most people. To really understand what I am talking about, I suggest you sign up for my newsletter and download my Lifestyle Blueprint Report, which explains the importance of understanding the concept of personal value.
Bonus: If you’re a funny person or a jokester, making people laugh is a very attractive quality because it’s an easy way to spike positive emotion. Dane Cook isn’t the most attractive man in the world (sorry, but he’s far from that honor). But he has the ability to keep you laughing for hours and as a result some women find him and his humor extremely sexy.
At the end of the day, attraction is emotion-based. Flirting and sharing stories or experiences is amongst the most effective ways to tap into, connect with their emotions and amplify attraction.
In the last part of this series, we'll take a look at what specific things should be said.