Tip Tuesday: Being Friends With Your Ex

I didn't. Until now.

Every Tuesday, we ask people from Team Wingman & Twitter what they would like me to talk about. It could be a general topic or a direct question. I’ll choose the best one and later that day, I’ll write something and give tips addressing that topic or question.

This week's question: How can you be friends with your ex?

Here's the thing about breakups. They suck. But in some of them, you do split up somewhat amicably and  would like to retain the friendship to an extent. It's completely possible. In fact, one of my interns this summer went through the same thing. I gave her a few steps and now she's on her way to building a solid friendship with her ex.

Here are the steps you should take if you're looking to be friends with your ex:

Monday Maverick: Care Less, Get More

Don't approach her with the same ol' nonsense

Every Monday I’ll be giving tips on different perspectives on dating that will “free Your mind.” Like a true Maverick, I’ll give an unorthodox approach to everyday scenarios that will help you in your dating life and potentially beyond.

Worrying less about outcomes to get more out of your interactions

If you were to ask me what is the best way to approach a woman you’re interested in, my answer is always being open and direct with her. Stating your interest and intentions from the beginning gets all of the “nonsense” out of the way and focuses on what’s most important - finding out if the two of you have that “chemistry.” However, it’s a high-risk, high-reward situation as the woman you approach has to make a judgment call based on your presentation.

What if there was a way you could still approach a woman, be open, honest and not feel like you have anything “on-the-line?” And in fact, your disconnect from the outcome of the situation may draw interest from the woman you approached?

Top 10 Thursday: Women's Turnoffs

Please. Don't be these guys.Every Thursday, I will put up a top ten list of awesomeness, with short descriptions and tips. Feel free to laugh, enjoy and pass them around.

Top Ten Women’s Turnoffs

There are VERY simple things men constantly overlook, hurting their chances with women. I can assure you, if you did 5 out of 10 of these things, you'd be so much better off. For all the guys out there, avoid doing these things and help your chances she'll return your calls the next day.

Wednesday Wisdom: How to Give Value in Every Interaction

Every Wednesday I will share a thought, message or quote that will be not only applicable in your dating life but also every other aspect of your life.

This message is an update from a post I wrote over two years ago from Stephen Covey’s Seven Habits of Highly Effective People.

“Only go for Win/Win. You should want to win but you should also want the other person to win. You wouldn’t want to get your way and have the other person not feel good about it, because down the road it would eventually come back and create resentment. On the other hand, believe the other person wouldn’t feel good if they got their way and you gave in. Work for a Win/Win. Really hammer it out. And if you two can’t figure ‘it’ out, then agree to not decide on ‘it’ at all. It would be better not to decide than to live with a decision that wasn’t right for the both of you. Maybe another time in the future, you two might be able to get together and work ‘it’ out.”

Tip Tuesday: Great First Date -- Then Nothing

If only that phone was going to ring...Every Tuesday, we ask people from Team Wingman & Twitter what they would like me to talk about. It could be a general topic or a direct question. I’ll choose the best one and later that day, I’ll write something and give tips addressing that topic or question.

This week’s question: "How to react when u have a great date w/a guy-and he doesn't call to follow up-can u text? why/why not."

We’ve all been there. You go out on an amazing date with an amazing person. They do and say all the right things. Conversation is easy and everything just feels right. In some cases, you even get a kiss at the end of the night -- even more. Then, it happens.

How to Use FourSquare to Meet Women

Check-in your way to a coffee dateEvery Monday I’ll be giving tips on different perspectives on dating that will “free Your mind.” Like a true Maverick, I’ll give an unorthodox approach to everyday scenarios that will help you in your dating life and potentially beyond.

Using FourSquare

Yeah, I said it -- and it’s not what you think. For those who aren’t familiar with FourSquare, it is a location-based mobile app where users can “check-in” and share their location with friends.

Typically, you’ll see people (including me) talk about how you can use the FourSquare (and other third-party apps) to meet women. It’s a VERY underrated resource and one you should look into if you haven’t already. However, this advice isn’t about using the app. It’s about other people’s use of the app.

Today is my birthday. Can you do me a favor?

No one was harmed in the popping of this bottleI am 26 today. On such a self-indulging day as a birthday, I'm going to ask for a gift from you.

Can you share one thing that I, the blog or the company has helped you with this year so far? This can be anything results-oriented like going out on a date, getting a girlfriend / boyfriend / fiancé(e), recovering from a breakup -- or it may not have anything to do with dating.

I like to give advice that can directly improve your dating life, but also can easily transfer to other areas of your life. This space allows people to "test" things out without judgment, see what the results are and shape them in ways that work for their personality. It's the true foundation on which The Professional Wingman was built.

The ONLY Thing You Need To Learn From The Dallas Mavericks

It's been quiet here. That's because we've been working on some cool changes. I'll be updating regularly  and have some special announcements soon. But I want to leave you with a VERY important message today -- and two pictures.

For those who you who aren't sports people, the Dallas Mavericks won the NBA Championship last night, beating the Miami Heat in a best-of-7 series.

Lesson: There are NO shortcuts. ONLY hard work.

What Is This "Transgression" Nonsense?

I think he just terminated his marriage.

There has a been a lot of talk about recent events having to do with a certain “Governator.” Some headlines have mentioned the word “transgression” (I wonder where you’ve heard that word before?) and other times, it’s been the flat out “cheater.” We all know what that word means but what about transgression and why is that word being used more? Is there really a difference? Does it then make it justifiable? Does it create a standard for the future of sleeping around? This short post will answer all of those questions.