No Video Means Day Off? Never.

Don't have a video today because I will be doing some great things for a great cause today. Sometimes, your message is better expressed in-person than on video.

In a few hours, I will be making a presentation at Boston Ignite 5. The topic: "Love in 140."

I'll be talking about how social media can bring you more than just professional relationships and a growing business. You can find love, too. I'll focus on Twitter, give two examples on how this is true and a give a few tips as to how it could be possible for YOU to find that potential love there as well.

Right after that, I'll be racing over to OM Lounge, home of this year's Boston Twestival. This event, also being held in over 185+ cities around the world, is for one cause and one cause alone - clean water. I love going to events like these.

Some things are always worth the cause.

Don't worry, I'll be back on the video rampage with a great video tomorrow. My last mentioning of the topic of Valentine's Day for the rest of the year. It'll be a good one.

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Stop Making Excuses [Video]

 

Whatever excuse you are coming up with right now, stop it. You are only hurting yourself. You are the only one that's capable of acheiving your goals. Don't point fingers. Don't make excuses. Suck it up and jump into the fire. You'll be a better person for it.

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Can Social Media Help Your Game?

This past Sunday, I was on a great panel called Topics on Fire, which was run by Leslie Poston of Uptown Uncorked, talking about Social Media & Relationships. Here was the discussion description:

How is social media having an impact on your online and offline relationships? What are some things you can do to safeguard your non-tech based friendships, loves and family dynamics? What can you do to enhance your online relationships with real people? Note: this is about personal relationships, not B2C or B2B relationships.

Current panel includes myself as moderator and social media and marketing enthisiast Ben Grossman, Perkett PR’s own Christine Major, Thomas Edwards of Project Infinity plus networking coach Diane Darling as panelists.

I had a great time and there is some valuable information regarding anything building and maintaining relationship in and out of Social Media.

Enjoy.

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Valentine's Day = Best Day of the Year for Singles

This post is by Eathan from I Date White. He is a single, hard working and dedicated father of 2 sons. Living in Dallas for over 15 years, as a black man, he dates white women about 98% of the time. He talks about not only about interracial dating but interracial relationships, parenting challenges and other topics as well. He's a great guy to get to know and has a wealth of knowledge when it comes to dating outside the race.

As his first post, I welcome him to Project Infinity.


As many of you know Valentine’s Day is arriving soon. It’s publicized as the holiday for couples. It’s the holiday for lovers. I can’t agree more. It’s one of the best holidays to go out and meet new women. I know that might surprise some of you, but it’s true.

There population of single and divorced people is growing every year. I’ve never thought of Valentine’s Day as a holiday for couples. Valentine’s Day is the new singles holiday. I’ve noticed over the last few years more and more bars and clubs are organizing events for the dateless singles. It’s the most popular hook up night of the year. Last year it was an hour wait to get into a local club on Valentine’s Day. When I arrived, it felt like New Year’s Eve. The dance floor was packed. The VIP was hot. The party was nonstop until last call.

Since Valentine’s Day is on a weekend this year, you have plenty of time to prepare. Make sure you are wearing one of your favorite colognes on. Women love a good smelling man. The number one thing women notice about men besides their appearance is their fragrance. I’ve always referred to it as Liquid Sex. Don’t forget to carry some gum or mints. (No explanation needed) Always plan for the best and carry condoms.

Success comes to those who plan for it.

One of the other things to remember is choosing the right club or bar. I normally go to bars that I know will have music and dancing. As long as there is dancing there will be some type of flirting and playful interaction. Most women will be drinking and dancing. This is a perfect combination to talk, flirt, and make your move. If there is no guy standing there, they are single women.

The main thing to remember when going out on Valentine’s Day is that small things will go along ways. For example, once I find the woman that I’m interested in; I will buy her a drink and ask if she wants to be my Valentine. This might sound cheesy, but if you are having a good time she will laugh and say yes. If she says no, don’t worry about it. Move on to the next one that says yes.

Valentine’s Day should be on the top of your list to meet hot women. Make sure you’re ready for the fireworks. Women don’t want to admit it, they hate being alone for this holiday. So go out, have fun, and the hot women will follow.

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A Few Sites I'd like to Share

I read upwards of a 100 articles a day online and every so often there are some sites that I love reading, no matter what the content is. I feel that no matter what is up there, there is a chance to learn and better myself. Sometimes, it's at the expense of others' experiences but you know what? That's a part of learning and I appreciate the many people who are courageous enough to share those experiences.

Having said that, I wanted to introduce 3 sites that I am on regularly and I think are worth checking out. I also have added them to my "Great Links" section as a way of welcoming them into my personal family of great websites.

The first is Pick-up Evolution. This site has been killing it since the beginning of 2009 and it's led by Legend and Edge. These are the real deal in wanting to better themselves, period. Whether it comes to dating, social lives and everything else, they have the right mentality. My props to them and you guys should check them out! I'm not sure if they would consider themselves pick-up artists, but regardless, the content the put up is quality. You can follow Edge on Twitter here.

The second is one is Sex, Lies and Dating. It is run by the one and only SINgleGIRL on Twitter. Her blog talks about what it's like to be an older woman dating in New York City. She has a lot of guts putting her dating life out there uncensored and I really admire her for that. The great thing about it is, even though she doesn't put out direct adivce or anything of the sort, if any guy has sense, he will check this site out and begin to learn some of the inner thoughts of a woman who has amazing social prowess and has been in the dating scene for many years. She can teach you a lot about what guys should and shouldn't do when it comes to dating - especially when it comes to online dating. She might be one woman's perspective but she has some great stuff and you should check her out as well.

The third one is Awakening From the Dream. The woman who runs this blog is Erika. There is something about her that keeps me intrigued and I love her for that. Any woman that can keep my interest is someone special. She talks about seduction and a lot of "outside the box" thinking when it comes to dating and making a great emotional connection with someone. She, too, is a fan of the Matrix so she's won my heart by default. Her site is a great change of pace and allows my mind to break free from the norm. Definitely check her out!

So as I come across more awesome sites, I will briefly talk about them and hope you all check them out!

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What to Get Me for Valentine’s Day?

With all of this nonsense about V-Day, it actually upsets me a little that we’ve been bought into this thinking that we have to get someone something for this day. We already have Christmas, our birthdays, anniversaries and various other days to use as excuses to get something. Why all the pressure on a day that can be seen as just ridiculous? I’d rather look for a gift on a much less recognized holiday, such as Grandparent’s Day than have to feel pressured to do something two Saturdays from now.

With that out of the way, some of you are still going to go ahead and get something anyway. I’ve been asked many times about what to get a guy for V-Day. I almost feel flattered that people think about us guys on this day when the public perception would be that such a day is used to pamper the women. We deserve some fine treatment too and I refuse to apologize for that!

So, here are some ideas to get the brain juices flowing and maybe you can figure which idea is the go-to.*

*Here’s another disclaimer. We’re very easy to please.

1. The obvious: Sexy lingerie and sex. Pretty straightforward and it’ll please any man. I’ve received some feedback already saying that sex may not be possible due to “womanly” issues and so don’t worry, there are other good ones.

2. The caregiver: Food and beer. Even if you can’t cook, find a way to recreate his favorite meal and get some beer for him, or whatever he likes to drink. It’ll be a nice dinner you two can have and he’ll be happily full.

3. The listener: Get him a video game. If he likes video games, and you know what he likes, get him something he may have talked about. He’d be blown away that you remembered something that he would just assume you ignored – unless you’re a gamer (which is pretty sexy, in my opinion). Other cool gifts would be tickets a concert for a sporting event.

4. The potentially sinful: Take him to a casino. For those who can, this is a pretty cool time regardless what you do. If you want to make it a special getaway, get a hotel room there and spend the night/weekend there. The casino can carry many forbidden pleasures for the two of you. See where it takes you two.

5. The win-win: Take the two of you out for a couples massage. There’s no reason why his gift can’t be yours either. And no guy will turn down a good rub down, especially during this time of year when things can be VERY stressful (in reality, he shouldn’t because there aren’t many things better than a massage). There are plenty of places that do couples massages with hot tubs, saunas and whole bit. Take advantage and at the end of the day, you two will just want to do nothing but relax. You might even forget that it was Valentine’s Day.

6. The What? “Get out of jail free” card. This was brought up by another person. Want to relieve the pressure of V-Day? Let him know that he’s safe – for now. One of two things will happen. He’ll either not do anything, like you allowed, or he’ll surprise you and do something anyway. If the latter happens, I say that card could be used for another time.

Those are just a few. I’d love to hear what other guys think. I’d also love to hear what women are planning to get their guys, if anything at all. One woman told me, “my boyfriend hates Valentine’s Day. Fortunately, so do I.”

My response: “Well that’s just too easy.”

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Plus, if you are looking for more tips on Valentine's Day, look into coming to this special session in Boston on February 11th.