The Top 5 Attractive Attributes

So today I was doing my daily reading and came across a guy named Soul. His blog, Life With Soul has only been up for a couple of days but his post on Day Game is very, very good and worth reading. One of the things that he points out is that there are universally attractive attributes that you can convey to build attraction without telling too much about yourself. I say, in ALL of your interactions, it is important to put your best foot forward and create attraction – or better yet, a sense of liking from people, no matter what the scenario. In this case, for women, these are the top five attributes you should convey at all times:

Passion. You have to love what you do. If don’t have that burning passion for anything then you’ll never be able to attain that high level of energy that is associated with passion. Like I said before, even if you are passion about video games and it’s meaningful to you, convey that! Let no one shut or talk you down because you are passionate about something they are not interested. If you show enough true passion, people in turn, will respect it. Just imagine if you find someone who has a similar passion. Can you imagine the connection that is created just through that?

Ambition. Know what you want to do. Set goals and have them clear. Bobby Rio from TSB Magazine wrote a really good article about setting goals that is worth checking out. Everyone loves someone with goals. Hey, I tell people that I am going to own my own video game company. Some laugh and others think it’s cool. Either way, it will happen. Women love men who know what they want.

Determination. This can also be tied to perseverance and persistence. If you have clear goals set and know what you want to accomplish, NOTHING should stop you. Sure, there may be something that will come up that will distract you or claim that it’ll stop you. Disregard that. Like I said, whatever you set out to accomplish, it will happen, as long as you are persistent and overcome those annoying things we call obstacles. When it comes to dating, think Steve Urkel in Family Matters. After many, many seasons, he did finally get Laura. Or more recently, think about Owen Wilson in Wedding Crashers. He did some crazy stuff but he got it done.

Adventurousness. To some, this could mean being a bad boy. To others it could mean just being spontaneous. The only way to do this is for you to go out more and do things. Women love to know that you have a busy schedule. Because at that point, they wonder where they can fit in (which in turn increases your attractiveness), and also if they can ever join you in these adventures. That way, when you talk to people about the things that you’ve done recently, talking about your recent trip to Jamaica does not sound like you’re making up a routine. I can claim that because my family is from Jamaica and we go there all the time to visit family. And that’s where the last part comes in.

Integrity. Being honest and consistent is HUGE when it comes to dating. When you are true to yourself and to others, things tend to be so much more natural. Consistency is also a big deal. If you show the slightest sign of inconsistency, you will be blown out instantly. It’s not a big deal. Just stay true to yourself and your frame. Be congruent at all times – even if your lady friend is testing you. When it comes down to it, everyone has different ways to talking to women or building attraction. What is important is that you build yourself to be as congruent as possible. If you think you are a boring person (which you aren’t really) and you want to start making your life great, well work slowly and eventually you will have a fun-filled life on your terms. Eventually, you’ll be able to talk about that trip to Virginia Beach you went on recently and went on a drive-thru Christmas light show along the shore!

Of course, with all of this, you HAVE to remember. You should expect these things from other people as well. Don’t just go and make yourself into this great person without expecting others to have similar attributes as you. You want to see these qualities in other people as well, right? That will help you surround yourself with better quality people and for men, this will guarantee you finding great quality women for you to share these qualities with.

The Transformation Part 1 - Head

Now, like I stated before, I am NO fashion expert. In fact, I will admit that when I go out and buy clothes, I have someone that I take on as my personal assistant. She goes around and recommends me clothes and I try them on and if I feel good, then I’ll get them. Sometimes, she’ll let me go on my own and let me pick clothes. Sometimes, I’m on the money. Other times, I am absolutely helpless. But that will get better over time.

For this segment, I am not even going to talk about clothes. I am going to talk about what’s underneath the clothes. Your physical body.

Your body is what makes you, you – not your clothes. Your face is the first thing people will see. If you have crap all over it, chances are you’re not going to get the best reaction you are looking for. If your hair is a mess – same thing. If you’re noticeably out of shape, that’s not going to help your chances. This is the time you are going to tell yourself that I am going to put my best foot forward. And it’s going to be from head to toe. We’ll do this day-by-day so that this information doesn’t overwhelm you and you can take your time getting this together as this is one of the most important things you can do for yourself.

Head

Hair: Do me a favor. Look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself, “Does my hair look interesting?”

If yes, now out go out and ask your friends, family and strangers – yes, strangers. If you don’t know by now, strangers are the most honest people on this planet.

If no, what I want you to do is go online and look at celebrity hairdos. I am not asking you to imitate them. But get an idea of what styles out there are cool.

Here is an article I found about hairstyles and head shape:

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I feel as though your hair is another opportunity to stand out. Before, my hair was always short.



Now, my hair is pretty long for what I’m used to. And EVERYONE loves it



Face: Now look at yourself in the mirror again. Does your face look like an orange? Do you have pimples? Zits? Bad acne?

Take care of it!

Don’t care what the excuse is, there are doctors out there called dermatologists that can help you look your best. If you are serious about looking good, then you’ll take the extra measures to make that happen – even if it means getting medical prescriptions.

Teeth: This is more a sensitive issue. Teeth, if not looking good, are very expensive to fix or improve. But you can do something about how clean they are. Yellow, coffee and soda-stained teeth are NOT going to cut it.

Brush as much as you can. Floss if you can handle it. Use mouthwash a lot. If you can find a gum that can help whiten teeth or make your breath smell better, use that. There is absolutely no excuse for bad breath! You can also use teeth whiteners, like Crest’s White Strips.

In the end, once these transformations are made, it’s important to maintain this every day. It’s said that it takes a little over 30 days of doing something to make it a habit. Get into this strong regimen of making your face look great. You WILL be noticed.

I will have a follow up to this post with more specific products and in the next installment; we will talk about the upper body.

Learn How to See the Future

Have you seen the movie Next, starring Nicholas Cage? The plot is pretty simple. He can see two minutes of his future and react depending on what he see. He falls for a random hottie (Jessica Biel), whom he can see the future for as well. The government and some French people who have a nuclear bomb seek after him and he must save Los Angeles. Sounds ridiculous judging by the description but it’s actually a descent movie and if you haven’t seen it, you should check it out.


But the reason I bring this up is this. We all have the ability to see two minutes in the future. Think about it. Whenever we reach a point in our lives where we have to make a decision, our minds automatically go through the different scenarios and based on what you “see,” you make that decision. It could be from deciding what to wear to what TV you want to buy. For me, it happens a lot when I think about talking to people.

If I come across a group of people, especially if there is an attractive woman in the group, my mind plays out different scenarios of positive and negative nature. In the years past, it used to be more negative than positive. And if you watch Next, there is a scene where he tries to talk to Jessica Biel and he plays out all of these scenarios of what he would say and what she would say and all of the interactions go sour.

I see that as a huge problem. We see a situation and automatically think negative thoughts. Can’t you remember countless times when you thought the worst and the best happened? For me, it’s been too many times.

What you need to do is desensitize yourself to the negative thoughts and see two minutes ahead in a positive way. For example, if you’re nervous about talking to a woman, see her saying hi back to you, or having a witty comment, or hell, grabbing you and giving you a big fat kiss. You never know, it CAN happen. After a while, you will notice that your positive thoughts do actually happen and you too, like Chris Johnson, can look into the future and decide how it’s going down.

It All Starts With You

You have to decide what you want. As this should go without saying, the more important thing is how to do such a thing. What the hell am I talking about?

It’s commonly said that if you can just be yourself, women will like you. This is true…to an extent. If you are a fun, high energy, interesting and confident person, you will attract any woman you want. So here is my point: Are you fun? Do you have high levels of energy that can pick up a crowd? Are you confident? Are you an interesting person?

Those points are just some of the keys to having a lifestyle that women are attracted to. What you need to do is incorporate your DNA, that tells you who you are, into your lifestyle. That’s what makes you not only unique, but also genuine and that will stand out over any man. So don’t go start skydiving and buy a motorcycle just because you think it’ll get you women. I mean, it might but that’s not genuine. Do things that you are passionate about. Passion is one of the things that gives people character.

Love video games? Be passionate about it. You many think that many girls do not like video games but if you’re passionate about it, they have no choice but to respect it and they will find it attractive…yes, video games and attractive in the same sentence. It’s possible.

Find cool activities to do. Like wine? Go to a wine tasting. Order wine when you go out to dinner. Like sports? Join a social sports club and play for a team in a sport you like to play. Like trivia? Go to a bar with friends and play once a week.

Busy yourself with cool things that YOU enjoy. With all of these things, you get to have fun, learn a lot about yourself and meet plenty of people.

Things tend to come naturally to you when you’re having fun. You’re carefree and you seem to find yourself. And knowing who you are is the most important step in knowing what you want.

Welcome to Project Infinity

Looking back, I can say that I have lived a pretty fortunate life up to this point. I have a great family, solid educational background, great friends, a decent car, an ok job, a pretty nice dating life and a lifestyle that really isn’t to complain about. There are many people can say that. But how many of you aren’t satisfied? How many of you still have dreams to accomplish? Maybe, your life is good but would like for it to better. We all can achieve greatness if we work hard and dedicate ourselves to getting the best not just out of ourselves but also out of others around you. Don’t you want to live the life you’ve always wanted? A great man once said, “Our only limitations are those we set up in our own minds.” But then again another great person said, “This is what happens when you decide your life sucks and ACTION is the only course left in your arsenal.”

This is where Project Infinity comes in.

At 23 years old, there are still plenty of things I would like to accomplish. I want to gain and maintain the type of lifestyle that satisfies me. I want a kick ass job, beautiful women in my life, absurd amounts of money, a cooler car, a great social circle and above all else, be happy and enjoy life. Through this process, if I am able to help another person discover their potential, that would be great. But this whole Project, this whole idea of living a life without limits is something that I am doing for myself. And you should do the same. So, without further ado,

Welcome to Project Infinity.