It's been nearly three months since I've written on the blog. I've been interacting with the members of the Wingman Labs but I thought it'd be good idea to share some of the content I've given them.
While this blog may have less frequent posts, I will continue to share or create solid and relevant content that will benefit you immediately. Of course, the occasional nonsense doesn't hurt anyone, right? This email was from a series of 3 emails talking about pacing in dating, how it affects men and women, and how to tweak your pacing for better results.
How quickly do you move?
I've had the privilege to be in many places these past two months NYC, Boston, Fort Lauderdale, San Francisco, Mexico (to name some) and it's really shed a lot of light on the differences and similarities of how people interact, especially when it comes to dating.
One major similarity I've seen has been pacing of interactions. For the most part, people like when connections are sparked and progressed quickly -- the major difference is as long as the intention is clear and genuine.
From women that I've met in various cities, I've found they would prefer a guy look to court her (try to flirt, date, and have sex with her) aggressively and quickly as long as he states his interest openly, consistently and is genuine with his intentions.
So what does this mean?
For men, if taking more risks and pushing the interaction forward intimately is something you're not comfortable with, you're going to have a harder time keeping women's interest in the courtship process. While you're playing it safe with her, wining and dining, hoping to gain her approval each step of the way, she might be seeing another guy who is just as interested but isn't looking for approval or playing it safe. He's going after hat he wants: an emotional connection that's hoping to be paralleled by a physical spark.
More often than not, she going for that other guy -- and it's NOT because he's a "bad boy." I'm talking about something completely different.
I will explain more in detail in each email this week but I want to plant the seed for the guys. And for the ladies who are reading this, I will also shed light on how this affects you and how you can use this information to help you find success with quality and compatible men.