When you have a decision to make and you are unsure of the outcome, when you make up your mind to TRY something, certain emotions run through your body. When you TRY something, your expectations lie on a spectrum, ranging from “not going to work out” to “going to work out.” You go through all these feelings of “what if it does, or doesn’t work.” You think of worst-case and best-case scenarios. Bad scenarios make you feel hesitant and less confident, while good scenarios make you excited, determined and more confident. These feelings are constantly wavering on the spectrum as you approach your decision.
At the point when you actually make your decision to TRY that exact position on that spectrum is the one that you physically portray through your voice, body language and facial expression. If you’re on the lower end of the spectrum, your decision going to show through your body language and chances are, you will get those associated results (worst-case scenarios). However it does happen that you do get positive results despite being on that side of the spectrum. I feel as though that’s where the emotion of surprise comes in. Your body didn’t expect the positive results but they happened anyway.
On the flip side, if you are on the higher end of the spectrum, you will likely get positive results. Notice that when it actually happens, you’re not as surprised about it because you’re body and mind expected the positive outcome. Now if something bad happened, the element of surprise comes in again, but not the good kind, of course.
The reason for this elaborate and wordy explanation is because when you make a decision, you need to eliminate doubt from your mind. You need to be at either extreme end of the spectrum. When it’s time to make a decision, you need to either DO it, or NOT DO it – and stick to it. Any inkling of doubt, and you’re back to wavering on the spectrum.
This not only applies to women, but in life. Anything you approach in life is a DO or DO NOT. Want to learn to play a guitar? DO it. Want to talk to that hot female you’ve been ogling the past couple weeks? DO it. Don’t feel like working a 9-5 job anymore? DO NOT DO it. There is NO element of TRY in life. That word was just created to let people make excuses if things weren’t to go the way they wanted. You decide that you’re going to do something and you DO it! Doesn’t matter how long it takes. If you REALLY want to achieve that goal, you are going to do it. There’s nothing else to it.
In that extreme spectrum of thought, there is no doubt. You ONLY see best-case scenarios. When you get the results, you’re not surprised because you EXPECT those results. After a while, anything is possible and you decide what you do and do not do. Some others refer it to as having complete control of your life.
All of this takes time. You have to train your mind to be on that side of the spectrum until you reach the extreme. Don’t let others tell you otherwise. You are remembered by others by what you DO, not what you don’t do. What you DO is up to you.