This is something I came across that talks about why getting a dating coach is beneficial for ANYONE. I have been wanting to write about this for a while and thank goodness someone else beat me to it (and was able to nail it so that I didn't have to write it anyway). Credit goes to Eric Disco, the man over at Approach Anxiety for this great write up. I frequently read his blog because he and I share similar beliefs when it comes to personal development through dating.
A good coach can push you out of your comfort zone.
No matter who you are, we all have a limited view of what’s possible, not only in others, but in ourselves.
The German philosopher Arthur Schopenhauer once said, “Every man takes the limits of his own field of vision for the limits of the world.”
A coach can push you beyond what you thought is possible, in ways you can’t push yourself.
Sometimes it takes seeing and hearing another person do what you thought was impossible before you believe it’s possible to do it yourself.
A coach can give you an outside look at yourself that you can’t see.
If only we could see ourselves as others see us.
Well, a good coach can honestly tell you what’s working and what’s not working with what you’re doing.
Sometimes you think it’s one thing, and you keep working to change that, when in reality, it’s something completely different that’s holding you back.
It can be difficult to see what that thing is because you don’t see yourself in the action. You only see how she’s reacting. A coach can see both.
A good coach can pick out what is working.
There are probably already a number of things you’re doing right, things that are working for you. And in your trial-and-error search to improve, you may stop doing some of those things.
A good coach will not only tell you what needs to be fixed, he will build up what’s already working. That may be completely different than what works for someone else.
A good coach helps you prioritize.
A good coach can also tell you what is the most important thing you should be working on now. He can pick out the thing that will have the most effect on our game.
I see it all the time with guys. They want to fix 20 different things. And because they’re newbies, I could easily pick out 20 things they could be doing differently.
But I don’t.
I find that one thing that is holding them back the most and we work on that together.
Throwing multiple things at a guy to work on will just leave him thinking about too much stuff. And, worse, he’ll feel like he’s doing so many things wrong.
A good coach can help you start things out the right way.
For some guys, doing things the wrong way can be harmful.
A coach knows how to take you through the process in a way that works, is enjoyable and gets good reactions from women.
You’ll never get 100% good reactions from women no matter what coach you’re with.
But if you are pushing yourself too hard, too fast or in the wrong way, and getting mostly negative reactions from women, you start to build a “psychological armor” around yourself.
You become self-protective. Women then react even more negatively to you. This makes you even more self-protective. A vicious cycle.
And the worst part about this is that you begin to anchor negative feelings with meeting strangers.
Conversely a good coach can gently push you out of your shell in a way that starts to get positive reactions from women.
This in turn builds your confidence. And you start to associate positive feelings with meeting strangers.
A coach can hold you accountable.
One of the best things about getting long-term coaching is that that you are reporting back to someone regularly about your progress.
That helps keep you motivated to work on this stuff.
You push yourself that much more in between the times you see your coach.
Not only that, but your coach can help you set up goals and work toward those goals.
Without specific goals it’s very difficult to make progress.
A coach can teach you something you would have never learned on your own.
You may know a lot already. You may be brilliant at some things.
The beauty of coaching is that you are allowed to go back to square one and pretend you don’t know anything.
Even me.
I got to soak up John’s knowledge as if I’d never done pickup a day in my life.
And it only made me that much better.
The women I was meeting were hotter than ever. I was getting more dates.
I had so much less approach anxiety. My relationships were deeper and more fulfilling.
I even became a better coach because of it.
Coaching WILL change your life, in ways you can only dream of.
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