Tip Tuesday: How To Follow Up With A Woman


What's waiting for you on the other side of the phone.Every Tuesday, we ask people from Team Wingman & Twitter what they would like me to talk about. It could be a general topic or a direct question. I’ll choose the best one and later that day, I’ll write something and give tips addressing that topic or question.

"Question: How do I follow up with a woman?"

This one will be easy and straight to the point.

Let me start off by congratulating you for getting the number. Hopefully, you called/texted her right there to make sure she got yours as well -- and to make sure her number is actually real.

You did that? Great. Now let's get down to business.

There a 4 easy steps to take when following up. If you follow these steps, you'll have better success in getting dates.

1. Call the next day. It should go without saying the three-day rule doesn't exist. That rule is for losers who think they're too cool to take the initiative.

You want something, you go after it. You have no idea how many women tell me how excited and impressed they are when a guy calls them the next day.

And notice that I said CALL, not text. Texting is less commital and women know that.

If you wait, it's a near guarantee she'll be meeting another guy the next day/night and forget about you. Don't make that happen.

2. Keep the conversation light, fun and quick. It always helps to have something fun to share from your day. If not, follow up on something you two talked about the night before that was.

The whole conversation should be between 5-8 minutes. She's just met you so don't expect her to free up a significant amount of time for someone she doesn't know.

It also shows you have other things going on in your life and you MADE time to call her -- even if it was quick.

She'll notice and appreciate it.

3. (If you haven't already) Invite her out to something you're doing already. If you had plans to go to something cool or check out a new bar that's opening, invite her to come with you.

Whether or not she says yes won't matter to you because you'll be going there anyway.

She'll appreciate the gesture of you inviting her into your life and be more likely to say yes.

If you don't have something going on, tell her you'd like to see her and create a date idea on the spot -- even if it's just meeting up for drinks (but I hope you can be a little more creative than that).

4. Continue conversation for a minute or two, then end it. Like getting the number, you don't want getting the date to feel like an objective (even if it may have been).

Like all milestones in dating, treat it as something you just want to get out of the way so you can focus on what's most important. Connecting and having fun.