Tip Tuesday: Knowing Flirting From Friendly

Believe it or not, this one is a piece of cake.

Every Tuesday, we ask people from Team Wingman & Twitter what they would like me to talk about. It could be a general topic or a direct question. I’ll choose the best one and later that day, I’ll write something and give tips addressing that topic or question.

This week’s question: How can you distinguish between a woman simply being polite, and actually wanting to talk to you?

Body language.

Body language will tell you everything you need to know about a woman's true intentions. That's why I teach ALL of my clients -- men and women -- on how to better read body language.

When she is being friendly, she will answer questions, smile, maybe ask some questions in return and generally be nice. In other words, she will do the bare minimum to not be outwardly rude to you. As a result, you'll rarely see any action from her body language.

However, if she is actually interested, you'll see it completely in her body. Here's what to look for:

  • How close she gets to you
  • The intentional eye contact
  • Her pursing of her lips when she smiles
  • The playing with her hair
  • Her fixing / adjusting (read: primping) herself
  • Naturally teasing you
  • Hugging, arm grabbing, tickling, pushing, poking -- anything creating physical contact 
  • And of course, kissing

This is a small list but over time, you'll be able to pick on more and more cues.

Remember, the focus shouldn't be on what she's saying, or what she's doing. It should be more about the intention in which she does these things. This will give you the best clue of whether she is interested or not.

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