The Professional Wingman®

We help singles develop better social skills to improve their dating lives through real-time coaching in social environments.

When You Meet Someone Who’s Taken But "Looking"

We’ve all met them. The woman who has a boyfriend but still kind of seems like she’s still looking. They can quoted best as saying, "it's complicated." I personally believe you shouldn’t waste your time with these women but if you choose to, understand what she may be thinking. It will most likely be one of the following:

“I’m looking for something better (tonight).” Maybe things at home with her boyfriend/husband are terrible and she’s at the point where she COULD cheat. She’ll make it known and if you play your cards right, chances are, she’s yours for the night. Expect to enjoy yourself and have a good night. The next morning, that may be it. She may just have wanted to have her fix and move on.

“I’m looking for something on the side.” Basically, she wants another relationship that fulfills the needs her other relationship isn’t. You will always be second fiddle and she’ll never allow you to pull a coup d’amour. So she’ll have her cake and eat it too.

“I’m looking for an ego boost.” She may seem like she’s showing interest but it’s all false flirting. She’s using you to boost her ego and make her feel desirable. Maybe her boyfriend/husband hasn’t given her enough attention so she’s wondering what’s going on. She’ll go out and “test the waters.” She will never make a physical move but she’ll keep dangling the carrot in front of you (saying anything to keep you thinking you have a chance), knowing you’ll reach for it. Expect to spend the whole night with her and still leave empty-handed wondering what went wrong.

These kinds of women are VERY unhealthy and nothing but trouble can come from them. If women are reading this, the same goes for a guy who’s taken but looking. There are SO many other people that are available and looking. Don’t get sucked in the desire of wanting something you can’t have. You know where that road leads you.

If you enjoyed this post, please consider leaving a comment or subscribing to the feed to receive future articles delivered to your feed reader.

Do You Want to Enhance Your Social Life?

If so, sign up for the Wingman Labs for free dating tips and exclusive content! Also receive my free eBook, 5 Elements of Having Your Own Rockstar Lifestyle. One of the easiest and effective ways to improve your social life.

Chat With Us to See If We Can Help You
Meet and Attract Compatible, Quality Dates
 


Coaching | Speaking | Contact Us | Refer ClientsTerms | Privacy Policy

© Copyright 2008-2014, The Professional Wingman, LLC.
Questions? Call us! Monday - Saturday 10AM - 7PM EST
Boston • New York City • DC • San Francisco • Silicon Valley • International
1.601.879.4641

Online Dating