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I had a session with a client that didn’t turn out so well for him. When it came to approaching attractive women, he froze EVERY TIME. I tried to have him approach women who weren’t as attractive as a way to build up his confidence. He froze. I almost had him approach guys but I had a feeling he’d freeze anyway. Confidence isn’t natural.
Let it be known that "natural confidence" is a perception. Confidence will always be something that you have to build and tend to.
Confidence takes on the typical cycle:
Acknowledging your comfort zone. Going beyond that. Failing. Learning. Trying again. Succeeding. Acknowledging your new comfort zone. Going beyond that and so forth.
People have a pretty easy time with the first part - acknowledging your comfort zone. Beyond that, fear creeps in. You get nervous. You don’t know what to do. You certainly don’t want to screw up.
So, what do you do?
Here’s how I have been able to get over that hump to develop my confidence to an all-time high.
Knowing you will fail. It’s VERY rare that you’ll do something right the first time. Think about the various milestones in life. Walking for the first time. Saying your first words. Taking your first exam. Your first relationship. Your first job. Your first college application. Chances are you didn’t do it right the first time and it took a few dozen tries to be successful. People rarely get a 100% rating when it comes to anything in life. So be okay with that.
Are you REALLY experiencing fear? Or are you really confusing that with excitement? I’ve said MANY times that it only takes one person to say yes. Is it worth the excitement of finding out who does?
What’s the long term plan? Do you want a wife? A girlfriend? A mistress? Whatever your goals are, you must put the process in perspective. Once you find that person that loves you for who you are, you are going to look back and be thankful for the road you went down. Being rejected all of those times and going through all of those inadequate relationships really put you in a place where you are ready for the ultimate prize in life. True happiness.
I can guarantee that anyone can develop maximum confidence but there will always be the one thing that will stop you.
Taking the risk.
Can you do it?
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I’m serious.
It’s time someone joins me in this great journey. Wouldn’t mind going it alone but considering where things are going, it’ll be impossible. I have reached full capacity and cannot take any more clients right now. There IS a waiting list and I don’t want them to wait for too long.
So I’m seriously asking if you think you or you know someone who has what it takes to be a wingman - or wingwoman, I want to hear from you.
Any credibility required?
Of course not. How hypocritical of me would THAT be? You just need to prove to me that you are capable of helping people break ground in some of the most difficult stages of their lives. It’s not easy and VERY few can do it. If you have been doing this already or have related experience, it’s definitely a plus.
If there is ANY “must,” you MUST be social. That includes a willingness to be on camera. If you are knowledgeable of social media and it’s various platforms, that’s a plus (bonus if you use them - i.e. Twitter, Facebook, YouTube, Vimeo, etc.).
Do I have to live in Boston?
It is preferable but I WILL accept applications outside of Boston if I see the location has a dense dating population.
How old do I have to be?
Preferably, I’d like you to be at least 21. If you are NOT 21 and are still interested, make a note of that in your submission and let me know what college (if applicable) you go to in your submission.
Will I get paid?
Yes, strictly based on your performance. For now, this job is meant to be supplemental income for you, which will be determined at your moment of hire. You will only get back what you put in. As things progress and we take on more clients and more opportunities, this opportunity will have the potential to be a salary-paid position.
What will be my responsibilities?
That can only be determined based on what you bring to the table. If you have a valuable asset, I will find an important responsibility for you. You will also be my right-hand man or woman when it comes to video production, speaking engagements and other media inquiries.
What do I have to do?
I would like to see a resume of your previous and current work history. With that resume, you will also submit a 60-second video explaining why you’re good for the job. Be as creative as you’d like but it needs to show me what qualities you have that will be great for being a wingman. A video is required in order to be eligible for this position.*
In the end, the better you do, the more money you’ll make. On top of that, you’ll get sick exposure to the entrepreneurial and media world as things reach higher levels. Whoever gets this job will have the best job in the world.
Send all submissions to thomas@theprofessionalwingman.com with Why I’m the Perfect Wingman in the subject line.
Let’s see what happens.
*Please submit all videos to YouTube titled [Name] is the Perfect Wingman and include the link to the video in your submission.
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Really?
I remember walking with my girlfriend in NYC and there was an ad on the back of a newspaper that said, “It’s 8AM.” I couldn’t see the rest so I went in for a closer look.
“Do you know where your wife is?”
I couldn’t believe it. Then again, I could.
Ashley Madison has been VERY successful in taking advantage of people’s insecurities and temptations by creating a business to cash in on people's willingness to bend their morals. A site that’s dedicated to ONLY having affairs? It’s wild. This isn’t news to me (or to most of you) but I haven’t talked about infidelity on this blog much.
You see these ads all over the place and it’s TELLING you not only to cheat, but that it’s also ok. I’m not ignorant of the fact there are married couples out there who are open to including someone else into their lives. If both parties agree, then I personally don’t see anything wrong with that.
I would love for someone to let me know otherwise but I would assume that MOST people who go on the site are doing it secretly. THAT, my friends, is NOT cool.
What’s worse is that statistically, men would cheat on their spouse if they wouldn’t get caught. Really?
I’m not here to tell people what’s right or wrong. These are just my opinions and clearly, we are grownups. We’ll make up our own mind anyway. But considering that 50% of marriages end in divorce and people are getting married later in their lives, how many people can actually be devout to their significant other - and follow through?
What are your thoughts?
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Thomas Edwards